Adolescence is a necessary stage of growth, and both children and parents must understand the physical and psychological development characteristics of this stage in order to better solve problems.
The main problems and solutions faced by adolescent children are concentrated in the following aspects:
1.Study pressure: Academic performance declines, and you always feel that you can't achieve your ideal learning goals.
Example: During adolescence, Xiao Ming began to feel increased study pressure, decreased grades, and often felt anxious and depressed.
Solution: Parents can communicate openly with Xiao Ming, understand his troubles, and give support and encouragement. They can help make a reasonable study plan and encourage him to participate in extracurricular activities to relieve the pressure of studying.
2.Interpersonal relationship troubles: various conflicts and conflicts with parents, teachers, and classmates, resulting in feelings of isolation, neglect, and worthlessness.
Example: Xiaohong has conflicts with her classmates at school, feeling isolated and neglected.
Solution: Parents can listen to Xiaohong's heart, understand her feelings, and encourage her to take the initiative to communicate with her classmates and solve problems. They can also help her build more friendships and enhance her social skills.
3.Emotional distress: Emotional entanglement mainly caused by the opposite sex, such as crush or being liked by the opposite sex, but not knowing how to deal with it, resulting in serious emotional state and normal study life.
Case: Xiao Li has a crush on his classmate, but he doesn't know how to express his feelings.
Solution: Parents can talk to Xiao Li about love and friendship, give advice and support. They can also encourage Xiao Li to be honest with his sweetheart and express his feelings.
4.Adaptation problems: interpersonal and psychological adaptation problems mainly caused by environmental changes such as transfer, promotion, and class placement.
Example: Xiao Ming is a 10-year-old boy who needs to transfer to a new school due to his family's relocation. He had many good friends at his old school and adapted very well, but when he arrived at his new school, he felt lonely and uncomfortable, unable to establish a good relationship with his new classmates, and often felt frustrated and lost.
Solution: Understand and support: Parents should understand Xiao Ming's feelings, give him enough support and comfort, and let him know that they are always there for him.
Encourage socialization: Encourage Ming to participate in school social activities, such as clubs, societies, etc., to help him meet new people.
Gradual adaptation: Give Xiao Ming some time to gradually adapt to the new environment, don't overemphasize his adaptation problems, and let him slowly integrate into the new group.
Build self-confidence: Encourage Ming to show his strengths and talents, boost his self-confidence, and make it easier for him to integrate into the new environment.
Seek help: If Ming is unable to adjust on his own, he may consider seeking help from a school counselor or counselor to provide professional support and guidance.
5.Obsessed with the Internet: Obsessed with the Internet or addicted to electronic products such as games, unable to extricate themselves, disappointed in themselves, with intense inner conflicts, and being coerced by emotions such as self-blame, guilt, and pain.
Case: Xiaohua is addicted to mobile games, which affects his studies and life.
Solution: Parents can limit the amount of time Xiaohua spends on electronic devices, guide him to participate in outdoor activities and socialize, and help him establish a healthy lifestyle.
6.Reduced learning efficiency: It is manifested in impetuousness, lack of concentration, and sometimes random thoughts, which reduces learning efficiency, resulting in a decline in grades and falling into a vicious circle.
Case: Xiao Zhang is inattentive and often cranky when studying, which leads to a decrease in learning efficiency.
Solution: Parents can help Xiao Zhang make a regular study plan, provide a good learning environment, encourage him to stay focused, and develop good study habits.
7.Neurological psychological disorders: mainly manifested as obsessive-compulsive disorder, anxiety disorder, and depression, such as nail biting, anxiety, feeling that study and life are meaningless, and psychological states such as boredom with school, misanthropy, depressed mood, loneliness and closure.
Example: Xiao Ming is a teenager who has started showing symptoms of obsessive-compulsive disorder in recent months. He often double-checked that his doors and windows were locked, washed his hands too often every day, and even had a strong superstitious belief in numbers, believing that certain numbers would bring misfortune.
Solution: Family support: The family should give Xiao Ming enough understanding and support, do not criticize his behavior, but encourage him to seek help.
Seek professional help: Parents can take Xiao Ming to a psychological counselor or psychologist for help, professional ** and counseling can effectively alleviate symptoms.
Maintain a stable lifestyle: Establishing a regular routine and maintaining a good diet can help improve mental health.
Psychological counseling: Through psychological counseling and cognitive behavior**, help Xiao Ming understand and cope with his obsessive-compulsive symptoms, and gradually reduce his sense of pain.
Adolescence is a necessary stage for human growth, and the growth of this stage affects a person's life! When faced with challenges, both parents and children have to work hard. Parents should transform into "smart parents" (self-awakening, self-correction, self-redemption); Children should be self-aware, communicate with their parents, and accept help from their parents and teachers.