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Haruki Murakami said: "People who are really good to you are in the details, people will lie, but the details will not." ”
When many people hear a man "make a request", they will feel too domineering, and they will also feel that this is a sign of unlove, but in fact, it depends on the specific behavior.
If he just wishfully asks you to listen to him, or asks you to cut off all contact with the opposite sex, then this is simply a desire to possess, just to satisfy his personal desires, not necessarily true love.
If his requests are for your own good, and he really considers your feelings from your point of view, then you should understand that he has loved you deeply, and he will think about you everywhere.
You have to understand that when a man makes the following three "demands", he does not simply want to possess, but he is moved by true feelings!
1. Ask you to trust him
In a relationship, the most important thing is to trust each other, and men make this request because they hope that they can have independent space with each other and respect each other's decisions.
For example, reporting your whereaboutsNormally, as long as this is necessary, he will take the initiative to report, without you having to keep asking, or ask to send ** to prove that he is **.
If you keep asking him and make him disgusted, he will feel that you don't trust him, so he will track his whereabouts like this, and he will feel that he has no freedom at all.
If you have to do this every day after getting married, it may lead to daily quarrels, and that kind of life is too tiring, and presumably the two people will not want to continue the relationship.
For example, the same is true for checking mobile phonesAs long as you have enough trust in him, you won't keep asking him to turn on his phone, look through his address book, and wonder which people of the opposite sex he has been chatting with recently.
He wants to hide from you, because he doesn't want you to be aware, even if you can't find any traces, you will only make each other into an impasse, and quarrel again and again.
In fact, when a man asks you to trust him, you want to have this relationship for a long time, because he knows that once there is a crisis of trust in each other, it will be suspicious of each other until finally a tired breakup.
2. Ask you to love yourself well
In "Blizzard Hour", there is such a detail, when Lin Yiyang knew that Xiaoguo was not pregnant, he breathed a sigh of relief, many people thought that he didn't want children, but in fact, he didn't want Xiaoguo to have a burden first.
Although it is said that children are a very good thing for two people who love each other, and it also means that their love has blossomed, Xiaoguo has just graduated and her career has just emerged.
Lin Yiyang knows very well that behind this decision, Xiaoguo has to make sacrifices, even if he will share a lot for her, he can't replace his mother's responsibility, so Xiaoguo can only bear it himself.
From this point, it can also be seen thatHow Lin Yiyang loves Xiaoguo deeply, the way he loves is not to ask her to do anything for him, but to ask her to learn to love herself well and put herself first.
Even if you love him no matter how much you want to have this relationship, don't give up your career because of a man, that's not the love he wants.
3. Ask you to grow with him
Mr. Yang Jiang said: "The highest level of love that men have for women is to teach her social survival skills, give her resources and help, and even if she leaves her one day, she can be independent and live a decent life." ”
The highest level of love should be to achieve each other, support each other, and make progress together, rather than unidirectionally asking each other to give and ask each other to sacrifice.
A man who truly loves you, he will make positive demands on you, for example, he wants the two of them to grow together, instead of one moving forward and the other stagnating.
He also understands that one day, when the pace of growth of two people is not equal, the relationship should go their separate ways, not who dislikes whom, but who can't understand each other's world, and it is impossible to ask one party to stop and wait for you.
Ye Zi often sighs that she has found a good husband, if it weren't for him, she would have given up her own growth a long time ago, and she would not be able to achieve today's career.
It was her husband who always encouraged her and supported her to pick up her hobby, he hoped that the two of them would stand at the same height, and he didn't want to deprive Ye Zi of his dreams, so that Ye Zi had the courage to persist again and again until now.
When a man has true feelings for you, he will make all kinds of requirements, which are not just to possess, but more to make her a better version of himself.
If you want to judge a man's mind for you, you can also see through the requirements he makes of you, the person who loves you thinks about you everywhere, and the person who doesn't love you just selfishly wants to possess.
It is precisely because he is deeply in love with you that he wants to be close to you and understand your real needs, which is also to better achieve mutual love.
So, if you feel his affection, then don't mistake his requests, as long as it is really good for you, it is worthy of love, love that should not be missed.