**10,000 Fans Incentive Plan
Mr. Yang Jiang once said:
"Don't talk to the opposite sex if it's okay, no one will be kind to you for no reason, and take care of you in everything. It's a friend to chat occasionally, but it's ambiguous to chat every day. ”
In the interaction of the opposite sex, you must pay attention to the sense of proportion, if it is just an ordinary friend, then keep the boundaries of friends, don't chat too ambiguously, and slowly the relationship will become tasteless.
Don't always make excuses and say, "We're just good friends", if you say too much, no one will believe it, but you will wonder if your motive is to cover up your ambiguous relationship.
Especially after sharing the following three things, that is the beginning of "crossing the line", it is difficult to maintain a simple friendship, so you should be careful!
1. Share time and keep in touch frequently
In modern society, everyone's time is precious, and there are many things to be busy with every day, and in this case, it is difficult to keep in touch with each other unless it is between relatives or work.
If a person is willing to share time with you and leave all his free time to you, it is probably interesting to you, and the relationship is extraordinary.
For example, when you are working, he will ask you if you are too tired, pay attention to rest, drink more water, and don't take work too seriously and ignore your body;
For example, he will call ** to see if you are going ** after you get off work, whether to go home directly or to party, to see if he can pick you up by the way, saving you from running back and forth;
For example, when he can't sleep in the middle of the night, he will send you a message asking if you are asleep and want to talk to you, or he will say that it is okay if you don't reply.
In fact, from his frequent contact and the time period of contact with you, you can judge that he is not just a friendship between friends, but wants to further develop a relationship with you.
If you're both single, it doesn't matter, if you already have a partner, you still have to pay attention to proportion, don't show up when you shouldn't be chatting, so as not to misunderstand your partner.
2. There are no boundaries for sharing clothes
No matter how good a friend is, it is difficult to share personal belongings, which means that he has come into your life and has a different relationship with you.
Especially the food that the other person eats, or his clothes, these are personal areas, and once you don't distinguish between them, it will make the relationship between each other continue to be ambiguous.
What is it like for a person to be willing to share personal belongings with you? It's hard to do this without a particularly close relationship.
Artist Land Rover appeared in a T-shirt in the variety show "Mushroom House", and no one cared about them at that time, and naturally they didn't care about dressing up.
This is not the key, in the follow-up archaeology, fans found that the T-shirt worn by Land Rover was actually his girlfriend Sister Boo, and he didn't know what to wear at that time, so he grabbed a casual piece of Sister Boo's to wear, and it didn't look abrupt.
Two people can share clothes, which can only show that their relationship has reached that point, it doesn't matter who wears whom, fans will only think they are so sweet and will not think about anything else.
If it's not a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship with each other, then don't exchange clothes, let alone make excuses that you don't have any clothes to wear, see if he's suitable to wear them first, this is a sign that there are no boundaries.
3. Share your heart and be each other's confidants
Everyone has their own troubles, whether it is at work or in life, there are always all kinds of miscellaneous things intertwined and upset.
At this time, I especially want to talk to a close friend, as long as I talk to the other person, I feel very comfortable, even if there is a difficult thing, I can overcome it.
But between friends of the opposite sex, once they tell too much about their hearts, it is difficult to maintain a simple relationship, and most of them will be called "blue-faced confidants", and the extent to which this confidant can reach depends on each other.
Seeing a comment, the landlord wrote:"My boyfriend told me that he and a female colleague had been chatting for a long time in the car and hugged each other, and he felt that the female colleague understood him very well and understood him, and this feeling was something I couldn't give. ”
I believe that the people who saw this were stunned and didn't understand what kind of relationship this was, did they want the landlord to forgive him, or did they just want to continue in such an unclear way?
When two friends talk to each other for more time, they will have different feelings, just like the landlord's boyfriend, if you don't want to complicate the relationship with each other, then try to confide as little as possible.
Ms. Sanmao said: "No matter how close a friend is, he can't lose his sense of proportion, and he thinks he is familiar, but the result is easy to be isolated." ”
No matter how intimate the relationship between the opposite sex is, there must be a degree, too much proportion will only make the relationship between each other ambiguous, and the final outcome is not getting closer and closer, but it is estranged, and it is difficult to return to the past.
So,If you want to maintain a simple friendship, then don't let each other get too close, only talk about what needs to be talked about, and only do what needs to be done, so that you don't cross the line too much.
Once two people don't pay attention to proportion, often contact frequently, or simply get along, then it will slowly evolve into an inappropriate relationship, and it will be difficult to turn back.