Self-sincerity is the nature of the word; Self-evident and sincere, it is called teaching. Honesty is clear, and clarity is sincerity.
Translation:It is called human nature to understand the truth sincerely and naturally; From understanding the truth to sincerity, it is called artificial education. Sincerity will naturally understand the truth, and after understanding the truth, you can naturally be sincere.
When I first entered the workplace, I thought that everyone working together day and night was really a "big family" and could be honest with each other. Therefore, all kinds of unsatisfactory work will be said unreservedly, and all the complaints and grievances in my heart will be poured out.
But it didn't take long for your gossip to become a topic of conversation among colleagues after dinner, and your complaints became a lever for your boss to target you.
"Zengguang Xianwen" has a saying: "Human feelings are like thin paper, and the world is like a new chess game." ”The world is changing, and human nature is fickle. The transformation of friends and foes is usually just a thought, let alone the workplace. The workplace is complicated, to put it bluntly, it is a "Shura field".It is the most direct place to entangle interests. Everyone has their own interests, and everyone has their own little abacus, so the relationship here is simply not as "simple" as you think.
Therefore, in the workplace, never trust someone completely, and don't completely treat someone as your friend, let alone take care of someone. Because no one will empathize with you, and no one wants you to do well.
In the workplace, you should be alone, so as not to become a joke in other people's mouths.
1. You treat him as a friend, and he treats you as a joke
A psychologist has put forward a point of viewSince people are curious creatures, they will develop the habit of "gossiping".
Zengguang Xianwen said: "Whoever does not speak before everyone is not said, and who is not said after everyone." "When I meet my colleagues, I want to gossip about their secrets; When you meet a boss who has a scandal, you want to gossip about their scandal; When something interesting happens, I want to gossip about the cause and effect.
Gossip" this kind of behavior, that's very normal. And the most abnormal thing is that he gossiped your secret, and quickly said it behind his back, thus distorting the truth of the matter.
In fact, when you talked to him, you warned him that it was best not to tell these secrets. And he also promised you, and comforted you, a friend, he will keep his mouth shut.
In the workplace, don't believe in so-called "promises" and don't feel that others will shut their mouths when they swear in front of you. There are too many people,Swearing is like eatingThere is simply no norm of compliance with commitments.
Don't associate with people who have a lot of mouths and no sense of trustOtherwise your image will be ruined by them. 
Second, you treat him as a "person worthy of respect", and he treats you as a soft persimmon
In the workplace, you often encounter such a thing, this person is either your leader, or the old man of the company, so you respect him and trust him very much. He happens to be "paying attention" to you. So in "a certain conversation" you speak freely. talked about family affairs, talked about other colleagues, talked about emotions, and even talked about "views" on leaders.
So after a while, you find that whenever the company has to work overtime, the bitter and tired others are not willing to do it. Because he knows that your family is poor and you dare not leave your job!" ”。So after a while, the colleague sitting next to you became your leader and was very unfriendly to you. Because last time you said this colleague, "the ability is there, but very capricious!" ”。So not long after, your new leader has a lot of opinions about you, and you go to "tell the leader", but the leader says that you are "not social, and no one is pleasing to the eye!" Just because the last time you said to the leader, "You are too rough in management and have good intentions, but only I understand you." ”
Everyone wants to establish their own authority, and that restless heart will prompt them to do things that bully the weak and fear the hard, and even fall into the ground.
Living in harmony is nothing more than deceiving yourself. Obviously, you went out to buy a medicine, but the human resources wanted to give you urgent absenteeism, the leader didn't give you sick leave, and you went online as if you owed him a lot of favors. When you're doing something, you suddenly encounter some problems that you need to solve urgently. Obviously, this colleague only needs to spend a few minutes to solve the problem. But instead of doing that, they keep dragging it out, so you can't finish the task on time. It's not that they don't want to help you, it's just that because you have a soft underbelly and "have no backing, you don't dare to resign", so they want to see you make a fool of yourself, and they dare to see you make a fool of yourself.
In addition to your own weakness,Why is the novice in the workplace bullied by **Lake? Because **Hu has been bullied before, and now that they have become old people in the workplace, they will find newcomers to take revengeEven many units regard "bullying newcomers as a kind of capital to show off". Human nature will become more and more distorted with the gradual complexity of the rivers and lakes.
02, you treat him as a comrade-in-arms, and he treats you as a backstabber
Someone said, "Don't say your plan, let others see your results." ”
When you were working on a project, you talked to your colleagues about your plans in advance for the sake of the team. even made a military order with his superiors, and if he succeeded, he received the award together, and if he failed, he was punished together.
If the project is successful, the other party will take the credit on themselves, thinking that if they did not find their own leadership proposals, they would not have succeeded now.
But if the project fails, the other party will talk about what topics such as "if you hadn't proposed the plan at the beginning", and push the pot on you as soon as possible, making you a "backstabber".
Confucius once said: "A gentleman is quick to speak and quick to do." ”If there is any project in the unit, it is best to be the person who works silently, not the person who leads the report, even if you have to be the person who reports it, you must leave yourself a little room for maneuver.
Fourth, you treat him as a friend, and he treats you as a competitor!
There are also many people who feel that there are "interests" in their own department and neighboring departments, so they are friends with other "colleagues in departments that have no relationship", so they tell their privacy: where they live, their income, and how much they have saved, which is undoubtedly handled by everyone.
Soon, not only other departments, but even the leaders of the department and even the leaders of the department who are anxious to "strictly guard against it" will know about your private affairs, especially your income. If you have a high income, someone will suppress you, and if you have a low income, someone will look down on you.
Someone once said: "Mutual trust is what honest people will do, and people in the rivers and lakes will only betray at any time." ”
Colleagues are competitors to each other in the final analysis. Because the total resources on a company, especially good resources, are quite limited. Limited resources can only satisfy a limited number of people.
If you give it to you, you probably won't be able to give it to me. You're good, it seems like I'm not good.
Since colleagues are competitors in essence, then don't be okay and play with the righteousness of the rivers and lakes.
"Betrayal" has always been an eternal topic in the world. Where there are people, there are interests; Where there are interests, there are disputes; Where there is dispute, there is betrayal. Just imagine, even husband and wife will do things like "flying separately when disaster comes", how can they be outsiders?
So remember, when you only say three points to someone, you can't throw away all your heart, and remember to pour out your heart and lungs to anyone.