In the book Pride and Prejudice, there is a well-known adage that it is a universally accepted fact that wealthy single men will always choose to marry a wife. From ancient times to the present, marriage and childbirth have been regarded as major events in life, so what kind of man can be called"Wife's life"This?
In the original work of "Big River", Lei Dongbao probably has the greatest say because he married three wives in a row:
When he was unknown, Song Yunping was like a gentle interpreter flower, accompanying him, giving him the confidence to walk out of the past; When he was confused and hesitant, a strange artist quietly walked into his life and taught him to understand the profundity of life. When he was in trouble and danger, Wei Chunhong was like his protector, sheltering him from the wind and rain; When he was in high spirits, Feng Xinxin became an indispensable part of his life, her smile was the most beautiful scenery he had every day, and her company made him feel endless warmth and peace of mind. When he was full of energy, Feng Xinxin realized his beautiful dream of marriage.
Three women, after three marriages, each of Lei Dongbao's wives seems to be able to clearly feel the deep desire in his heart.
Compared to the heroic characters in the TV series, described in the book"Thunder Tiger"Closer to a real-life person, he has admirable talents, but at the same time has some weaknesses that should not be overlooked. For example, in married life, Lei Dongbao is not a perfect husband.
In fact, Lei Dongbao married three wives in a row, is this not a true reflection of men in married life? Lei Dongbao's "three wives and four concubines" let us see his true heart and life as a man. If you can understand the criteria that Lei Dongbao holds when choosing a wife, then you can truly understand the nature of human beings.
The 01st steamed bun represents love.
A white and flawless sheet was stained with blood, and Lei Dongbao looked at his wife, who had lost her breath, like a wild beast, kneeling on the ground and screaming in pain.
This scene is not only the most memorable part of the book, but also the most touching and tearful part:
Due to a sudden accident, Pinkie leaves this world with her unborn child. She is like a short and beautiful epiphany, taking away not only the hottest light in Lei Dongbao's eyes, but also the softness hidden under the image of a tough guy in his heart.
The first encounter between Pingping and Lei Dongbao is like a romantic drama, in the snowy winter, in the inaccessible mountains, Lei Dongbao meets Song Yunping who is picking up his younger brother home.
Lei Dongbao heard Pingping's whispered words to Song Yunhui, looked at her young and beautiful face, and fell in love with her deeply, for him, that encounter was like eternal years.
But Lei Dongbao was really poor at that time, and there was not even a dining table at home, and Xiaolei Village was even nicknamed"Singles' Village"。Lei Dongbao knows that to win Pingping's heart and the respect of his family, it is like Shu Road, it is difficult to climb the blue sky.
Faced with the Lei family's financial difficulties, although the Ping family has problems in some aspects, their lives are not lacking in security. Both siblings have studied and learned, so it is not difficult for Pinkie to marry a higher man.
Lei Dongbao goes out of his way to get to know Pingping better, and he uses the opportunity to raise a long-haired rabbit to form a friendship with Pingping. When Pinkie needs help, he doesn't hesitate to step up. Although many people may think that Lei Dongbao is a"Big old and coarse", thinks that he is not compatible with Song Yunping, but in Song Yunping's opinion, Lei Dongbao can provide her with enough security.
Although Lei Dongbao is still full of energy and passion in the days after marriage, he is always willing to share his troubles with his daughter-in-law and listen to Pingping's opinions and suggestions. In Pingping's gentle words, Lei Dongbao can always find a solution to the problem.
Is the reason why Lei Dongbao changed from the identity of "Thunder Tiger" to "Big Cat" just because of his deep love for Pingping?
No, maybe Lei Dongbao succumbed because of love, and Pingping's talent and way of thinking may be the reason why he was deeply moved.
Lei Dongbao, a novice who has just entered the society, is well aware of his own shortcomings, especially in the management of lack of knowledge and temper. And Pingping, who comes from a scholarly family, just makes up for these shortcomings for him, so that he can move forward without fear.
Lei Dongbao's love for Pingping is like a priceless treasure, but why Pingping's life after marriage doesn't seem to be satisfactory:
She worked day after day at sunrise and sunset to look after the little rabbits, and she had to endure all kinds of troubles from Lei Mu, who was unable to concentrate on her studies due to the time constraints, and even a standard meal became out of reach, and she was often tired from anemia.
Lei Dongbao chose Pingping as his "spiritual comfort" because when he feels hungry, steamed buns can meet his most basic needs, just like the taste of home. When he is faced with a sumptuous feast, he has more options, but steamed buns are easy for him to ignore.
Since "steamed buns" are so easy to obtain, you may forget to cherish them. Only when the "steamed bun" is really gone, will you realize that it is actually irreplaceable.
For this regret, Lei Dongbao spent his whole life to deeply understand.
02 About the marriage relationship of "oxygen".
Wei Chunhong is the woman Lei Dongbao betrayed her the most.
The relationship between her and Lei Dongbao was not so glorious at first, between a drunken night and a confused person, Lei Dongbao did not want to admit Wei Chunhong's existence, and he even regarded Wei Chunhong's love as a kind of entertainment.
As described in the original work, Lei Dongbao did not have a good impression of Wei Chunhong, and it can even be said that he has various dissatisfaction with her. He thinks that Wei Chunhong is getting older and her appearance is gradually declining, he thinks that Wei Chunhong's behavior is very vulgar, and even thinks that she is like a "pungent woman".
He was reluctant to give Wei Chunhong an official identity, so he just used a crystal lamp to send her away.
Only when Lei Dongbao encountered a predicament, Wei Chunhong bravely stood up, which made her a legitimate "sister-in-law Wei". But after marriage, Lei Dongbao didn't really cherish Wei Chunhong.
He betrayed Feng Xinxin and gave birth to an illegitimate child, and although he betrayed her, he still did not allow Wei Chunhong to leave.
After that, Wei Chunhong couldn't stand it anymore, and Lei Dongbao made two choices in a long counterattack. Contrary to everyone's expectations, Lei Dongbao gave up the more beautiful Feng Xinxin, and chose to return to Sister-in-law Wei's side instead.
As mentioned earlier, Thunder Tiger's fate largely depends on his insight. Lei Dongbao, who has experienced countless ups and downs, knows the importance of Wei Chunhong in his life. Wei Chunhong is like the oxygen in life, although it seems to have no color and taste, but in your life, she is an indispensable existence.
Wei Chunhong and Lei Dongbao's marriage is not just a simple love, it is also mixed with private interests. Their marital relationship is quite complex, including emotional reluctance, sincere feelings for facing difficulties together, and mutual entanglement in material and financial aspects.
Wei Chunhong's emotional support for Lei Dongbao is something he can't give up, Wei Chunhong has the ability to manage the housework for him, and can deeply feel his inner emotions.
No matter how Lei Dongbao goes, he will choose to return to Wei Chunhong's side, because they are essentially the same kind of people and have a heart for each other.
The "dessert" of No. 03 is attractive.
Romain Rolland once mentioned:
As long as men are flattered and satisfy their egos and desires, they are more likely to be deceived; And those who are full of fantasy artists are more likely to be deceived. ”
Lei Dongbao and Feng Xinxin met unexpectedly in his most glorious days:
He is the supreme leader of the Thunder Group, accustomed to giving orders in a huge office, and his lifestyle is extravagant, he is suspended in mid-air by everyone, and he can no longer find a solid foundation.
When the young and impoverished Feng Xinxin walked into the office, Lei Dongbao felt heavy, he wanted to make up for his past regrets, but regardless of the past kindness, he betrayed his marriage and hugged Feng Xinxin tightly.
He bought a property for Feng Xinxin and arranged a job opportunity for her family, and Feng Xinxin also fulfilled his greatest wish and gave birth to a boy for him.
When everyone thought that this love triangle had come to an end and Feng Xinxin finally won, Sister-in-law Wei's counterattack made Lei Dongbao react immediately, and he abandoned Feng Xinxin as quickly as garbage.
Although Feng Xinxin is more able to meet Lei Dongbao's expectations of his wife, in Lei Dongbao's daily life, she is just a dispensable existence. She is like Lei Dongbao's "dessert after dinner", she can bring a little color to life, but she can't dominate everything.
He used material means to keep Feng Xinxin by his side and put himself in a lofty position. He regarded Feng Xinxin as a silk flower that grew around him. Of course, if Feng Xinxin loses her use value one day, she will also leave him behind. Between them, there is no sincere affection, only interests.
Feng Xinxin's greed led to the failure of her looks, son, and marriage. Although Lei Dongbao seems to have got everything he desired: a stable family and a true heir, when he savored it, he found that Lei Dongbao had let go of his original intention and chose to compromise with Feng Xinxin; Lei Dongbao gradually discovered that behind him and Feng Xinxin's reluctance was a thorn and pain. The story of his misfortune has begun.
Lei Dongbao betrayed his marriage and was no longer regarded as a reliable big brother by everyone. In the face of truth and falsehood, everything he hears is false. Thus, in the days that followed, his thunderous power completely collapsed.
There is no real mutual support and doubt in marriage, it is like a bubble floating in the sky, which looks colorful on the surface, but once the wind blows, it dissipates.
As the saying goes, a ten-year relationship between husband and wife is like a left hand touching a right hand, and the passion has long been lost. In married life, it is inevitable to encounter ** like "Feng Xinxin", and learning self-restraint is the ultimate pursuit of marriage.
During his marital journey, Lei Dongbao behaves quite selfishly, and he will experience various emotions such as joy, anger, sadness, joy, and sadness. He carefully weighs the pros and cons, and at the same time he is a sincere person. In his married life, the desire for intimacy is evident:
This is the desire for love between lovers, the resonance of the couple's thinking, the collision of human matter, everyone wants to be perfect, how can everything in the world be as people want, how to find a balance between these three has become a difficult problem.
You must understand that it is difficult to follow the right path, and it is even more challenging to keep a pure mind. Your path to marriage needs to be chosen by yourself, and once you go in the wrong direction, it will become difficult to turn back.