As the saying goes, "Sickness comes from the mouth, and misfortune comes from the mouth." "Many of life's disputes and troubles are often caused by inappropriate words. One of the most important things that makes smart people comfortable in interpersonal communication is that they know what to say and what not to say. 
Gossip asideGossip is not only a waste of time and energy, but also prone to unnecessary conflicts and disputes, so smart people know how to avoid getting involved in meaningless gossip as much as possible. At work, smart people are more pragmatic, and they use their time and actions to prove their abilities, rather than killing time through small talk. They know that only people who are down-to-earth and work hard can win the respect of their colleagues and the trust of their leaders. In life, smart people also understand the truth that "silence is golden". They don't judge others lightly, and they don't spread unverified information behind their backs. Because they understand that such gossip not only damages their own image, but can also cause harm to others. "Sit quietly and think about your own mistakes, and don't talk about others." Smart people know that only by keeping their mouths shut can they avoid unnecessary right and wrong and trouble. There is a story about two women in the village who got into a quarrel over some trivial matter. One of the women, in a fit of rage, began to make up gossip about the other party and spread it around. The gossip soon spread throughout the village, causing great distress to the slandered woman. Later, the truth of the matter was revealed, and it turned out that all the gossip was made up out of anger and jealousy. The woman who spread gossip not only lost the trust of her friends, but was also rebuked by the villagers. Gossip not only hurts others, but ultimately it hurts oneself as well. "He who is right and wrong is right and wrong." Smart people understand that instead of wasting their time and energy on gossiping, they should do more meaningful things. 
Don't say anythingWhen people are angry, they are often prone to lose their minds and say hurtful things. However, once these angry words are spoken, it is difficult to take them back, and it can even bring long-term damage to interpersonal relationships. In the face of challenges and conflicts, smart people are always able to remain calm and sane. They know that emotional rhetoric will only make things worse. As a result, they would rather choose silence or temporary retreat than lose control in anger. "Good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June." The power of words is enormous, a word of anger may make people's hearts as cold as ice, but a warm word can resolve conflicts and warm people's hearts. Therefore, smart people are always peaceful, they are used to listening with an understanding mind, and tolerant with a tolerant mind. It's the same in marriage. Husbands and wives often quarrel, but if they say a lot of hurtful things in the process of quarreling because of trivial matters, then even if the quarrel passes, these words will still be like a sharp knife, deeply piercing each other's hearts and becoming a scar in each other's hearts that is difficult to heal. Smart people know that words when angry are often very aggressive and destructive. Therefore, they try to stay calm and rational when they are angry and avoid saying hurtful things. "Words of anger will leak out." Angry words spoken when angry often reveal the dark side of one's own heart and leave a bad impression on others. 
Empty wordsSmart people know that empty words not only fail to win the trust of others, but can also damage their own credibility and image. In their work, smart people always do what they say and do decisively. They don't make promises easily, but when they do, they do their best to fulfill them. They know that only by proving their ability and value with practical actions can they win the recognition and respect of others. In life, smart people also pay attention to matching words with deeds. They don't easily make promises that they can't keep, and they don't use flowery rhetoric to hide their shortcomings. Because they understand that sincerity and hard work are the only ways to win hearts and minds. "A gentleman's word, a horse is difficult to chase". Words spoken are like water that cannot be taken back. As a result, smart people always think twice before they speak, making sure that their words are both practical and deliver on their promises. The words spoken by a person not only reflect his wisdom, but also reflect his cultivation from a deep level. Gossip to avoid right and wrong and strife; Don't say anything in order to stay calm and sane; Empty words are not spoken to maintain credibility and image. Knowing what to say and what not to say can make interpersonal relationships more harmonious and harmonious.