Ah Ju felt that her sister, who had been serving her father, was not doing well, and her sister: "You can do it, you can serve the high-quality author list."
Ah Ju hasn't been back to her hometown for three years. After she and her husband went out to take care of their grandchildren, she rarely came home. This time it was a full three years, during which I even missed the Chinese New Year.
In her hometown, Aju's mother has passed away, leaving only her old father with hemiplegia in the family. During this time, the old father has been taken care of by his sister Ah Fen.
As soon as I stepped into the house, I heard my sister scolding my old father loudly: "Why are you like this, you can't stand it for a while?"Do you want to me off?Ah Ju was very angry, how could she tolerate her sister treating her old father like this?"You're talking too much!Ah Ju said angrily that as the eldest son in the family, she still has the right to speak. But Ah Fen did not feel happy about the reunion, but changed the old father into clean sheets with a blank face, and it turned out that the old father wet the bed again.
The old father is 89 years old, and he has been lying in bed for two years, and bedwetting is considered a normal phenomenon, so why should Ah Fen lose his temper?Ah Ju was very angry: "Do you usually treat your father like this?"We paid you to take care of your father, and you just did that?Our mother died young, how did my father pull us?Have you forgotten?Do you still have a conscience?”
Ah Fen glared at Ah Ju: "Do you have a conscience!."I haven't returned for three years, and my father hasn't come back when I'm sickMy father eats, drinks, and sleeps with me alone, so what qualifications do you have to say about me!”
Ah Ju sneered: "I didn't contribute, but I paid for it!."If you accept money to take care of your father, you will be responsible. ”
When Ah Fen heard this, he regretted and was angry in his heart.
Ah Ju has a family of five, she is the eldest son, followed by the eldest brother, second sister, younger brother and younger sister.
Ah Ju's father suffered a stroke at the age of 73 and was paralyzed by his son. But the younger brother's family was out on business and couldn't go home, so they asked Ah Fen for help.
Ah Fen has two daughters, both of whom are married. Now, she feels less responsible. For the future, Ah Fen and her husband purchased commercial endowment insurance. She has reached pension age and her age is 5 years older than her actual age, so she can receive her pension early.
Ah Fen is happy to take care of her father. The family agreed, the two sons were each responsible for half a month, the father still lived in the old house, the sons washed clothes, cooked, cleaned every day, and left one person there for the night at night. When it was the younger son's turn, Ah Fen would go over to take care of her father, and the younger son would give her 800 yuan a month. Ah Fen's two daughters come home every now and then to visit their father.
Aju's father is a strong man, and despite being hemiplegic, he never gives up ** and exercises every day. A year later, the old man was able to grow and cook by himself, and he could take care of himself completely, so it was not too difficult to take care of the elderly.
However, when Aju's eldest brother dies in a car accident, the old man suddenly becomes confused, and all day long he either rummages through garbage cans or scolds passers-by at the door.
After the death of the eldest brother, the sister-in-law and the son both went to other places and no longer took care of the elderly. This leads to the problem of pension. The family began to discuss, and the younger son felt that the eldest brother's compensation should be used to take care of the elderly, and he couldn't just leave. The sister-in-law believes that it is the son's responsibility to provide for the elderly, and now that the son is gone, the matter of providing for the elderly will be over. This made the family atmosphere very unpleasant.
Ah Ju finally spoke, pointing out that the old father needs someone to take care of him, and everyone must share this responsibility. The decision was as follows: the old man was taken care of by Ah Fen, the eldest nephew and the younger brother's family contributed 1,000 yuan per month, and Ah Ju and the younger sister Ah Fang contributed 500 yuan per month, and jointly provided 3,000 yuan as compensation to Ah Fen. The daily expenses of the elderly are borne by the younger brother, and large expenses need to be resolved through negotiation.
Ah Fen was reluctant to accept this arrangement. The old father became old and confused, which made it difficult for Ah Fen to cope with the situation, and Ah Fen felt that she could not cope with the situation on her own and felt very tired. But none of the other siblings seemed to have the time or energy to take care of their father, so she couldn't find a reasonable excuse to refuse.
The father got old and became like a child, and he loved to mischievous. Ah Fen has to take care of him like a toddler, and if he is not careful, he will have an accident. Sometimes he would run around and even quarrel with others. When the people in the village saw him rummaging through the garbage cans for food, they mistakenly thought that Ah Fen was not feeding him, and even the village chief came several times to find out about the situation.
Ah Fen could barely complete other tasks and had to wait for his father at home. But her father didn't stop at home, and sometimes he would even deliberately make trouble, throw food in her face, and then smile proudly. If she locks the door to prevent him from going out, he will keep knocking and kicking the door, causing the whole neighborhood to be disturbed.
Ah Fen tried to take care of her old father with gentle persuasion, but as time passed, she gradually lost her patience and began to involuntarily beat his old father, and even counted him down. Gradually, Ah Fen felt exhausted, and she was no longer willing to take on the responsibility of taking care of her father alone. She asked her eldest sister for help, but the eldest sister's family had already moved to see her son and had no intention of returning. She enlists the help of her eldest nephew, who reluctantly offers some funding and ignores the rest. She turned to her younger brother for help, but the younger brother was too busy with business to take care of his father, while his wife felt that Ah Fen was taking advantage and complained. She asks her sister for help, but her family is busy earning money, and neither of her sons is married yet, so they can't share the responsibility of taking care of their father.
Faced with this situation, Ah Fen felt helpless. She had to endure it all alone. Occasionally, his wife would come over to help when he was doing odd jobs, which made Ah Fen feel a little more relaxed.
As time passed, the old father grew older and became more and more incapacitated, and eventually became completely bedridden. Ah Fen has to scrub his body, massage him, and even help him go to the toilet every day. However, the old father's mind became more and more confused, and his temper became more and more irritable, and he did not understand his daughter's toil in the slightest.
Aju is finally back. Despite the initial unpleasantness with Ah Fen, after all, the sisters have not seen each other for many years, Ah Fen still makes some dishes to welcome her. However, the old father couldn't tell his eldest daughter anymore, so he just listened to Ah Ju blankly and didn't react. Ah Ju's heart was full of guilt, because she had given up taking care of her old father all these years, regardless of it.
Ah Fen chatted with her sister while feeding her old father. Although his father's hand was no longer obedient, he always tried to eat by himself, often snatching a spoon from Ah Fen's hand. When Ah Fen didn't give it, his father got angry and sometimes even knocked over the food. Whenever he saw that the sheets he had just changed in the morning were soiled again, Ah Fen felt very angry, and sometimes he couldn't help but pat his father on the back a few times, and scolded him loudly: "You are making trouble again, what can I do all day except take care of you, and I have to constantly wash the sheets and covers." ”
Ah Ju saw Ah Fen beating his father, so she ran over in a hurry and pushed Ah Fen away angrily: "What are you doing, you dare to beat your father, did you often treat your father like this before?" ”
Ah Fen snorted coldly: "Hmph, I don't think I'm serving well, you can serve yourself." After speaking, he turned around and picked up his things, and said to the eldest sister, "I haven't been home for several months, and it just so happens that you are here, I'll go back and have a look." You haven't come back to take a look at it all these years, so let's give you a chance to show your filial piety. Then he explained something and left.
Ah Ju was a little confused at first, and the second sister said that she would leave? Since she's decided to leave, let's go. Ah Ju thought that she had raised two children and taken care of two grandchildren, so it shouldn't be a problem to take care of the elderly.
She changed her father's sheets and covers, and found that he looked thin and heavy. Ah Ju was tired and sweaty, but she still persevered and washed her father's clothes.
When he returned to the house, he found that his father had woken up. When her father saw her, he smiled. Ah Ju thought that her father recognized her, and happily prepared to massage her father. But when she lifted the quilt, she found that the sheets were wet. She frowned: "Dad, did you wet the bed?" Changed the sheets twice today. Although she wanted to reproach a few words, she couldn't help but look at her father's wrinkled face. Ah Ju could only change the sheets and clothes again.
In the evening, it's time for dinner. Ah Ju knew that her father liked to eat dumplings the most, and although she didn't have time to make them, she bought quick-frozen dumplings and cooked them. When the dumplings were cold, she brought them to her father's bed and fed them. The father was very happy to see the dumplings and ate one with his mouth wide open. Ah Ju looked at her father's happy appearance and smiled. However, when she was smiling happily, her father suddenly spit out a face of dumplings. Ah Ju angrily turned around and slammed the bowl on the table and asked, "What are you doing here?" The father replied loudly, "It's not delicious!" Then he closed his eyes as if nothing happened.
Ah Ju was in a heavy mood, and in desperation, she had to endure it silently and decided to wash her face and hair first.
Although his hair was still dry, the old father began to complain of hunger again. Ah Ju asked him about his preferences and learned that he wanted to eat his favorite sweet potato rice when he was a child, but there were no sweet potatoes at home. Although it was already dark, it was impossible to go out and buy. Ah Ju racked her brains, and finally cooked a pot of millet porridge and forcibly coaxed her old father to drink a big bowl.
It's already past nine o'clock in the night, and it's time to rest. Ah Ju helped her father put on diapers, hoping that he would go to bed early, but his father was so radiant that he didn't want to sleep at all. Ah Ju had to turn on the TV and watch the show with him, but due to his father's poor hearing, the TV had to be turned up very loudly. This gave Ah Ju a headache, but it didn't work to turn down the volume, and his father couldn't hear it clearly.
After staying up until half past ten, my father finally fell asleep, and Ah Ju dared to turn off the TV and lie down to rest.
Ah Ju felt very tired and deeply felt the hardships of taking care of the elderly. She sighed, this kind of life is really not easy. Ah Ju gradually became confused and soon fell asleep. She had a dream in which she was in a desolate cemetery, and a desolate cry could be heard in the distance. When she got closer, she saw that it was her deceased eldest brother. This dream woke up Ah Ju, she patted her chest, but found that the crying did not stop, it turned out that her father was crying. The hoarse cry was chilling, and he cried about his mother and wife, who died when he was young, and cried about his fate. No matter how much Ah Ju persuaded him, his father ignored it and just cried silently.
Ah Ju was so frightened by her father's cry that she trembled, so she had to bury her head in the quilt and cover her ears tightly. Finally, my father got tired of crying and quieted down and fell asleep. Ah Ju adjusted slightly, and then lay down to rest. But it didn't take long for my father to start shouting loudly again, and it turned out that he was pooping again. This made Ah Ju endure the nausea and try her best to clean him and change into clean diapers. The father fell asleep comfortably.
Ah Ju glanced at the clock, it was four o'clock in the morning, and it was almost dawn. She felt exhausted and dazed and wanted to sleep a little longer.
However, the sun has risen, and Ah Ju has not yet woken up from her dream. My father had already woken up and began to cry incessantly: "I'm hungry, I'm hungry!" Ah Ju was lying on the bed, sore and without the strength to get up. But her father's shouts were so harsh, Ah Ju got up helplessly, coaxed her father with a smile on her face, and hurriedly began to prepare breakfast.
While she was busy cooking, she silently hoped that her second sister would come back soon. She knew she couldn't handle it alone. made up her mind that no matter how angry she was before, she would take back the words she blamed for her second sister and say to her: You have worked hard.