In the love story, there are always a variety of presentations, among which there is a role that has been given the label of the new era: "a new type of little three". They wander on the edge of morality and emotion, trying to find their place in the gap between tradition and modernity.
Unlike in the past, these new juniors do not ask for fame or money, they claim to only pursue pure emotion.
However, love is never an isolated existence, it touches everyone's heart and affects the world around them. When the new type of junior intervenes in the emotions of others, even if their purpose is simple, their behavior will inevitably have a subtle impact on the original relationship.
This character is different from the traditional junior, claiming that he doesn't want the other party to divorce, will not spend the other party's money, and just wants simple love.
So, does such behavior really get rid of the label of "little three"?
1.I don't want you to get a divorce, is that okay?
They believe that they are not destroying other people's families. Because, they don't ask each other for a divorce.
However, love is exclusive, and when a third person intervenes in a relationship that originally belonged only to two people, whether or not a divorce is requested, it has already affected the original relationship.
The impact may be subtle, but it's real. The original partner may feel upset, jealousy, or even anger because of the presence of a third party. These emotions will have an impact on the otherwise stable relationship.
Therefore, even if the new type of mistresses did not explicitly ask for divorce, their existence itself is already a kind of interference with the feelings of others.
2.I'm not going to spend your money, okay?
They emphasize their financial independence, believing that in this way, they will not be labeled as "money worshippers" or "material".
However, money is not the only measure of the purity of a relationship.
In a relationship, in addition to money, there are many investments such as time, energy, and emotions.
Even if the new type of mistress does not spend each other's money, they may unknowingly occupy each other's time and energy.
These investments are also valuable, and even more valuable than money.
Therefore, it is obviously untenable to prove one's innocence simply by not spending the other party's money.
3.I just want to be simple and you love me
They believe that they are simply pursuing love, and there are no other complicated motives.
However, love is never simple. It involves many aspects such as two people's emotions, responsibilities, future planning, etc.
When the new type of mistress intervenes in other people's feelings, the "simple love" they pursue often becomes complicated.
Because, they not only have to face their own emotional needs, but also face the anger of their original partners, social pressure and other pressures.
These pressures will make the originally simple love no longer pure.
In addition, the "simple love" pursued by the new type of junior is often based on the pain of others. Because, their intervention will cause the original partner to be harmed, and this damage cannot be compensated for with simple love.
Although the new type of juniors, although they claim that they don't want the other party to divorce, will not spend each other's money, and only want simple love, their behavior will still cause harm and distress to others.
In the world of feelings, although there is no absolute black and white, we should stick to the bottom line of morality and respect other people's feelings and marriages.
Of course, everyone's pursuit of love is different. We should not blame and attack the new type of junior because his behavior does not conform to traditional moral concepts, and we should respect everyone's choices and lifestyles. But respect does not mean recognition and indulgence, and we should still stick to our principles and bottom line in the face of immoral behavior.