A woman said, "When I'm tired, find an honest man and get married." ”
It seems that honest people are destined to wronged themselves, and even when they talk about love, they will be discriminated against.
Women look down on honest people from the bottom of their bones, but they choose to marry honest people, thinking that they are easy to bully and are used to being submissive. In the family of an honest man, a woman can enjoy the treatment of a princess.
Shakespeare said, "Be true to yourself, so that you will not deceive others." ”People get along with each other mutually, you bully people at will, why should others look up to you. Moreover, any person has two sides, not only focusing on the advantages of honest people, but also looking at their shortcomings. Therefore, if you don't think it through and see it clearly, it's better not to marry an honest man.
People who are too honest are not worth marrying.
In the Tao Te Ching, it is said: "Those who are strong will not die." ”People who are too strong like to compete with others for things, and they often fight hard, which will inevitably hurt themselves.
On the other hand, a person who is too weak loses the elasticity of being a human being, and once he is crushed, it is difficult to recover to his original state.
There is a degree of life, and excessive is harmful. For those who are overly honest, the following three characteristics are obvious.
First, they dare not fight back against anyone, and the power to protect their families is not strong enough.
In interpersonal relationships, there is a rule: "pick up soft persimmons and pinch them".The "law of the jungle" tells us that people at the bottom of the interpersonal relationship, if they want to turn over, there is a lot of resistance, and they have to cross many levels.
For example, an overly honest person is always busy in the unit, and often works overtime, and he has to bear the mistakes of others. Over time, his career will not improve, and his income will decrease.
If a man keeps his head down every day, then most of his family members bury their heads lower, or need to stand up and protect him, and life will be very tiring.
Second, they stick to the rules, dare not seize the opportunity, and it is difficult to make a fortune in their lifetime.
My classmate, Ami, married in this village. Husband and wife work together to make a living from farming.
In the early years, the villagers reclaimed a lot of wasteland and planted peach trees. Ami was moved and wanted to "follow the trend". The husband was vehemently opposed. He cited many reasons for opposition: there is no sales channel now, and if the yellow peach is planted, it will rot in the ground; The people in the village have no skills, and if the fruit tree is sick, there is no way to deal with it; It takes three years for the peach tree to bear fruit, which means that there are two years and no income for the family.
Now, the family that planted the peach tree has become rich first, and Ami and her husband are still the same. Opportunity slipped away from us.
People who are too honest are afraid of wolves and tigers, and it is difficult to succeed in anything. Even if his ancestors had an estate handed over to him, he didn't know how to run it. In everything, we must bring forth the new, rather than keep the stall.
Third, he threw the task of "supporting the family" to his wife.
A very strong woman marries an honest man, that is "sin".
When the family gets poorer and poorer, the woman has to show her head and work hard to earn money to support the family. The roles are reversed, which is not surprising, but women will be very tired when they work hard outside.
When I come home every day and see the appearance of "a man bowing his head", my heart must be very sour. Compared with girlfriends, there will be a serious psychological imbalance.
In marriage, a woman's blessing is nothing more than "having money to spend, being pampered by her husband, family harmony, hope for life, and carefree children". However, an overly honest man can't give a woman these things.
An honest man with a sharp edge is worth marrying.
I have read such a passage: "A man who is usually very honest will definitely be angry when he sees a woman being bullied." Rabbits bite even when they are in a hurry, let alone a bloody man? ”
It's not that there is any benefit to disputes, but the strength of men will make women feel secure, just like having a kind of "father's love is like a mountain".
It's one thing to win or lose, it's another thing to be able to muster up the courage to fight with someone else.
A male neighbor of mine is usually very silent. There has been friction between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law for a long time, and the quarrel is a trivial matter.
Does a man help his mother or his wife? It's really a puzzle.
Once, when the mother-in-law was scolding, the man decided to renovate the garage and give it to his mother, and the family was separated from then on. The wife was in tears, and the grievances she had suffered over the years seemed to be exposed at that moment.
Yes, there is a limit to one's ability to endure. If a man doesn't understand, he won't be able to hold his head up for the rest of his life.
In "Wonderful Sayings", Bai Bonnie said: "Kindness is very precious, but kindness does not grow teeth, that is, weakness." ”You don't need to work too hard to be a man, but in the quiet, you must become strong without hurry, and you must be clear about right and wrong.
Men should have a sense of justice, not be humbled to the dust.
Conclusion.
Guiguzi said: "The husband is virtuous, unscrupulous, wise, foolish, brave, cowardly, and there is a difference."Husbands, also divided into ranks, also need wisdom.
Don't think that an honest person can be relied on, if he is like "mud can't be glued to the wall", you still insist on loving him, most likely you will be assimilated by him.
The host Lu Yu wrote in the book: "You married him, not because of love, but now you are paying the price for the original decision." ”Blindly marrying an honest man goes against his original intention, love will slowly leave, and what is left behind is a life of chickens and dogs, which women do not want to see.
If the woman is very strong and insists on divorce, then you have to face the adverse consequences of raising children alone, remarrying, and being discriminated against.
Marriage is not about who bullies whom, but evenly matched.
A good man is a combination of rigidity and softness. When I love you, my eyes are tender like water; When protecting you, the body is powerful; When making money, there is a little bit of masculinity.
Find someone who is worthy of you and marry him, this is the best policy. If you don't find it for a while, don't worry, just wait, maybe he'll show up.
Marriage matters must always be in your own hands, and don't be swayed by social remarks.