When parents pass away, brothers and sisters should know that there are four types of property, and if they divide them, they will harm their children and grandchildren
There is an old proverb in the countryside: "If you don't pass on good traditions, future generations will lose their standards." ”
In the family, if the older generation does not inherit the good traditions, the younger generation will lose their sense of norms, leading to family chaos.
As parents pass away, siblings become the elders of the family, even though they have grown up.
It is outrageous that many people have long forgotten the family rules and start fighting for the inheritance soon after the death of their parents, showing their selfish side and leaving an extremely bad example for the younger generation.
The distribution of inheritance is not only a material distribution, but also involves the inheritance of family culture, the inheritance of filial piety, and the character of a person, so it is impossible to achieve complete "balance".
In light of the situation, siblings should understand that too much distribution of the inheritance can be harmful to their children and grandchildren.
Some inheritances are indivisible, and forcibly dividing them will only deepen the contradictions.
There is a story in "Awakening the Constant Words".
The three brothers are named Tian Da and Tian.
Second, Tian San, all of whom have started a family.
After the death of their parents, the three brothers still cook under the same stove, but gradually conflicts.
Tian San's wife suggested splitting up the family to avoid further escalation of the conflict, and everyone agreed.
Real estate, fields, vacant land in front of the door, and money are divided into three parts. Only a redbud tree in front of the door could not be divided.
Tazo's wife insisted on dividing the tree and came up with a plan: cut the tree into three sections.
A few days later, Tian Da went to cut down the tree, but found that the tree had withered, and with a slight shake, the dead leaves fell.
Tian Da cried: "Our three brothers have the same surname and the same clan, and we have the same roots and branches, which are closer than this tree, how can we be separated? ”
Since then, Tazo's wife has been blamed, deeply ashamed, and hanged herself, and the family has suffered tragedy.
People commented: "Under the bauhinia flower, it is said that the three fields are spoken, and the same is true for people and people." ”
Some estates are indivisible and forcibly dividing them can lead to loss of value or sparks within the family.
For example, it is unrealistic to divide between three siblings with only one jade pendant or a pair of stone piers in the family.
For the indivisible inheritance, it shall be kept as it is, as the inheritance of the family, passed down from generation to generation, designated as a special person for safekeeping, and shall not be transferred. This is a kind of spiritual wealth, which is more precious than material wealth.
When only one of the parents is still alive, there is no need to divide the inheritance, which is an expression of respect for filial piety.
Normally, parents do not die on the same day, month and year of the same year, but one by one. This means that filial piety must be considered when distributing the inheritance, ensuring that those who are still alive can live well. If the estate is not enough to provide for the elderly, the siblings will need to provide alimony.
However, some people are so greedy that they do not want to support the elderly at all, but want to monopolize the family property.
I once looked at a case.
After his father's death, Deng Moujun of Wawushan Town, Hongya County, Meishan City, embezzled more than 800,000 yuan in deposits, a set of real estate, and shares in two power stations, and absurdly called himself a "son".
Deng Moujun's sister Deng Moulan was not convinced and redistributed the inheritance through judicial channels.
In fact, there are mothers and grandmothers in the family. What Deng Moujun did was obviously wrong.
For small families, the inheritance can provide for the rest of the life of the elderly, which is enough, so why should it be distributed too much? If the inheritance is rich, the wishes of the elderly should also be fully respected.
Siblings, although they are older, are still the children of their parents and should not indulge themselves or be aggressive at home.
The agricultural farming business in the countryside has brought a bumper harvest and prosperity to those left behind.
At present, many middle-aged people have gone out to earn a living, and if their parents have passed away, they may not be able to return to their hometowns for many years. On days like Qingming Festival, the responsibility of sweeping the grave can only be given to the brothers and sisters who stay in their hometown or are closest to home.
And what about the parents? They worked hard all their lives, did not go out to work, but only cultivated the orchard and vegetable fields, leaving behind two old houses.
If you want to pass on the family business, you must "centralize management", otherwise it is likely to fall apart if it is dispersed.
When my grandparents died, they left behind seven or eight acres of citrus groves.
According to the rules, it should be divided into five equal portions. But after discussing it, it was decided that it would all be handed over to the little uncle who stayed in his hometown.
One might think that it would be a good idea to divide the orchards evenly and let those who remain in their hometowns take care of it. But once separated, the contractor may argue about "mine, yours", resulting in the neglect of "your" share, or even the abandonment of management because the contract fee is too high.
The best way to do this is to have a set of rules to discuss the distribution of family property when people who have gone out to earn a living return to their hometowns in old age.
When dealing with property with a Will, follow the instructions of the Will to avoid disputes.
A will is a personal arrangement made by the testator for property or other affairs during his lifetime, as permitted by law, and takes effect upon the testator's death.
Many elders leave a will or oral will before they die, appointing specific heirs to their property.
Respecting a will is a kind of filial piety, and we should try to avoid unwarranted changes.
Usually, the will of an elderly person takes into account the most vulnerable members of the family, the people who were once best to them, and the people who are currently living the most difficult lives. This is the last care for the elderly.
If you're looking to get more of your inheritance, it's important to be mindful of your parents while they're alive. Parents are able to feel your love.
If your family is in good condition and you give a lot of love to your parents, you should not fight for the inheritance. This is an example for children and grandchildren, and an expression of virtue and goodness.
There is a saying, "Die for riches, destroy for food." ”
Inheritance distribution is an instinct and a tradition. But we need to control some bad instincts and maintain family relationships with kindness.
Dealing with the family inheritance in middle age is a lesson for future generations. In this way, we can also expect kindness from future generations.
You still have to rely on yourself to earn money, and if you think about your parents' property all day long, it is a sign of lack of income.
Categorize relics, you don't have to deliberately divide them, relax your mind, and family relationships will be smoother.