Zimdoba's Temporal Psychology puts it: "The present is neither a slave to the past nor a means to the future". The most precious thing we have is now. The past becomes a memory, a part of your body, the future to come remains a dead letter until there is a real effort, and the only thing we can do is the present moment, which is eternity.
Respect the past and accept yourself.
There are always moments in life that I want to escape, maybe it is the embarrassment of being criticized by the teacher in front of the whole class, the chagrin of falling in front of the boy I have a crush on at a certain corner, the emotional breakdown of a late night, the heartbreak of a relationship going to a separate way, and the helplessness of facing life and death alone. All the experiences of our lives have become a part of the body, in the form of memories, in the depths of our hearts. Many times, we will label ourselves negatively because of our past experiences, make excuses for ourselves, and make mistakes at work will say that our personality is like this, and we think that it is because of our mediocre qualifications; If you don't go well in your studies, you will think that you are not talented and not smarter than others; When you are emotionally frustrated, you will suspect that your personality is lacking, and repeatedly blame yourself for your sensitivity and vulnerability; When you are suffering from a stubborn illness, you will feel that you have always been unlucky, and God has always been so unfair to you. Many times, we will have the same experience, the difference is what kind of attitude you have towards the past you have experienced, whether you choose to accept it calmly, or whether you are obsessed with it. Xu Dishan wrote in "Goodbye" that although the circumstances are arranged in front of us one by one, we have the opportunity to choose, some people are good, and some people are bad, but after choosing, we can't choose them. There will be many choices in life, and people who are rational will inevitably make wrong choices, and people have never been absolutely rational, and sensibility is nature. No matter what choices we have made in the past and what consequences we have to endure now, we can only truly accept everything from the heart, not easily define ourselves, not define your present and future without temporary results, tear off the labels you have always put on yourself, and respect everything that has happened. Accepting who you are now, where you are, and the power of change are hidden in the present moment. When you start to take every minute and every second of what you feel now, watch the morning sun fall through the leaves, feel the itchy coolness of the wind blowing through your ears, and hold a cup of hot tea to watch the water vapor slowly rise into warmth. Every ordinary moment that you ignore and don't care about becomes gentle and lovely. Respect for the past, self-acceptance is the key step to open happiness, when your eyes begin to see the beauty of the world, focus on everything you can do well, guard against arrogance and rashness, you will find a better self, those you have been anxious to obtain, just unconsciously feel that come to you, at that time, you only need to use the best self, to hold on to these beauty.
Go deep into the present and look to the future.
In the great convenience of acquiring knowledge, our eyes are attracted by all kinds of "** rules" of success learning, "tirelessly" to obtain these quick methods, add them all to favorites, or write them down, or click on them, as if they have learned these knowledge. But how much do you really put into practice, and how much do you really spend time understanding the framework and core of this knowledge?
Franz Kafka once said: If you try to get something, as long as you are calm and realistic, you can easily and unconsciously achieve your goal. And if you try too hard, make too much trouble, be too naïve, and be too inexperienced, you will cry, grab, pull, like a child pulling the tablecloth, but the result is nothing, just tearing all the good things on the table to the ground, and never getting it. In fact, no matter what knowledge or any law, instead of spending a lot of time comparing and trying to find the fastest way to achieve the goal, it is better to start from the present. To start reading, you don't need to find a list of the best books to read, you just need to find a book, pick it up and start reading; If you don't have to look at different plans all the time, you don't care about which method is best for you, but from now on, increase your exercise, control your diet, and eat less snacks; If you want to perform well at work, start with the work at hand now and finish it seriously; If you want to take the certificate, take the postgraduate examination, improve your knowledge and skills, you don't have to spend many hours to make a detailed plan for every moment, you just need to pick up the book, start reading, take notes, in fact, when you sit at the desk, start reading, pick up the pen and enter the learning state, you really have the right to achieve your goals.
When you start by refusing to procrastinate, life starts to move in a good direction. For example, when I get up and want to stay in bed, I get up right away and don't think about sleeping a little longer. As a result, I had five extra minutes to fold my quilt and make my own bed. Every moment you want to procrastinate, you do it right away, no matter how complicated it is, as soon as you start to act, there will be a change. Don't put change in the future, don't expect what you don't do now, you will take the time to do it later, and you will definitely be able to achieve the dream that you can't realize now. We need to know that there is nothing you can do at any other moment except now.
What you have is the best, and you value the present.
People often envy what they don't have, envy others for having a rich family, envy others for harmonious family relationships, have a solid family background, have outstanding appearance, have a smart mind, and have excellent communication skills. But what really makes us who we are is is what we have, not what we don't have. It is everything you have that has made you who you are now, and our greatest achievement is to strive to become yourself.
God never gives the word 'happiest' to anyone, He sets an eternal distance from the desires of all people, and gives everyone a limit fairly." If you can pay attention to what you have, you will be surprised to find that you have far more than you think, even if you feel that you still have nothing, and you have sacrificed many of the things you value most in order to ensure your material life, and you will feel that external circumstances force you to give up. But as long as you realize what you want, then the temporary predicament is not worth mentioning. If we are not limited to this short period of time, in the long run, we will experience many ups and downs in our lives, life is a long marathon, and temporary speed and slowness are not a big problem. If we want to have what we envy, then first think about what we have, what we are willing to exchange for, and whether we are really willing to exchange what you have. I believe that there is no good fortune in life, even if you enjoy it temporarily, if you don't continue to work hard, then these luck will always leave you.
If you only own one flower, but you are always envious of others owning an entire garden. Then you are likely to lose even this flower, so why not take good care of your many flowers, take care of them, maybe one day a sea of flowers will bloom. As it is said in "Big Fish and Begonia": Life is a journey. We went through several reincarnations to get to this journey. And this journey is very short, so you might as well be bold, love someone, climb a mountain, and chase a dream.