Hi guys! Today I would like to share with you a thought-provoking story about a young woman, Li Ting, 28 years old, who is an operations manager of an Internet company. She comes from a privileged family, with both parents being civil servants and a younger brother who is in college. On the surface, she has a stable career and a happy family, and everything seems to be perfect. However, her heart was mired in depression because of her parents' urging to marry.
I've really had enough. Li Ting confided in me, "From the moment I graduated, my parents kept urging me to get married. But I don't want to get married so early, I feel young and want to work hard for my career first. Moreover, I didn't meet the right people. ”
After graduating, she worked hard and aspired to achieve something. However, parents insist that girls should start a family early and not waste time at work. Every time I went home, my parents pestered, nagged about marriage, and even arranged a blind date. This made Li Ting feel extremely troubled and helpless.
I felt that I was trying, but no matter what I did, I couldn't get the understanding and support of my parents. Li Ting said with a wry smile, "Every time I hear them talk about other people's girls being married, I feel anxious and helpless." ”
As time passed, Li Ting's depression worsened. Symptoms such as insomnia and loss of appetite began to appear, and work was greatly affected. She felt herself in an endless state of distress, not knowing what to do.
I don't want to live up to my parents' expectations, but I also don't want to be wronged. Li Ting said with tears in her eyes, "I think my life should be controlled by myself, not by other people's ideas." ”
As a friend, I deeply understand the pain that Li Ting has experienced. I've been through similar predicaments and struggles. Marriage is a private matter, and everyone has their own choices and ideas. However, under pressure from parents and society, we often feel at a loss. So, as young people, how should we deal with the pressure of urging marriage?
First of all, we need to be clear about our ideas and values. Think deeply about whether you're ready to get married, if you've found the right partner, and if you're willing to be ready for marriage. Only when we have a clear and firm position within ourselves can we better cope with external pressures.
Second, we need to communicate openly and honestly with our parents. Express our thoughts and feelings to them, talk about our plans and expectations. Although they may be difficult to understand or oppose, it is through communication that the problem is likely to be resolved. We need to be calm, rational and patient with our parents and convey our sincerity and firmness.
Finally, we must learn to protect our mental health. In the face of external stress and distress, we need to learn to release emotions and stress. Through exercise, reading, etc., let yourself relax. Also, seek support and help from friends or professionals. If you feel depressed or anxious, it is important to seek psychological** or counselling help promptly.
Finally, I would like to tell all young people that no matter what kind of difficulties and pressures they face, they should not give up on their dreams and pursuits. Stand up for what you believe in and be brave enough to go your own way. At the same time, learn to take care of yourself and protect your mental health. I believe that as long as we persist in pursuing, happiness will eventually come as scheduled.