Wen Xiamo. Not all women are like flowers in a greenhouse, growing up under careful care.
Some women don't have a stable life. In the process of growing up, I was overlooked, indifferent, and hurt too much.
When I grew up, I was very eager to be loved and cared for, and I hoped that I could manage a good relationship with more people, thinking that I could accumulate more affection and more warmth.
In fact, this is a manifestation of a lack of love.
A woman who has been lacking love for a long time is very likely to let go of her principles for the sake of a little warmth and make her life path more difficult.
A woman who has been lacking love for a long time likes to do the following things, and I hope you haven't done any of them.
I met a friend whose parents divorced and both of them had a new family.
For a while, I often brought her to my house for dinner. She has a very sweet mouth, and her hands and feet are also very diligent, and she is always rushing to work.
Help my mother choose the dishes, do it, and will definitely rush to wash the dishes after eating.
Every time I come home, I will bring gifts, my dad said that he has back pain, and the next day she came back with a baking lamp to assist ** back pain.
Our family persuaded her that she had just joined the work, and it was not easy to make money, so don't spend money indiscriminately. When we make a lot of money, treat us to a big meal.
Not only for us, but for anyone who unleashes kindness to her, she will give more.
She wants to grasp these kindnesses, make more friends, and feel the warmth of being loved.
Such a woman makes people feel particularly distressed to watch.
People who are accustomed to pleasing become less confident because of the lack of love in their hearts.
Fear that others will have a negative evaluation of her, and even more afraid of being isolated because of it.
Therefore, when getting along with people, I always want to be as perfect as possible. Constantly embarrass yourself and try to please others.
Because, compared with letting yourself be wronged, you are more afraid of seeing the disgust and alienation in the eyes of others.
Accustomed to pleasing and showing a particularly enthusiastic posture, as long as others show a little doubt, it will touch her sensitive nerves.
A woman who lacks love cares a lot about the eyes of others and wants to be recognized by others.
There is a girl named Sprite in "Dragon City", she is the illegitimate daughter of Zheng Dongni, who has been fostered at a relative's house, and has been kicked around like a leather ball.
Zheng Dongni took her back to Zheng's house, making her feel at home for the first time.
So, she wanted to seize every opportunity to express herself well.
She didn't dare to say she liked meat because it was cheaper to be vegetarian. I don't want to trouble anyone, and I look very sensible.
She will wear clothes that don't fit, just because the clothes were bought to her by Zheng Dongni and are liked by Zheng Dongni.
She will also rush to help take care of the children, hoping to be liked and recognized by the Zheng family.
A woman who lacks love has a desperate desire for warmth in her heart. Gets along with people and cares a lot about what others think of her.
lives a very insecure life, and a look from anyone, a casual word, can be infinitely magnified in her.
She wants to be valuable to others, not a drag. I want to be praised by others, and I always want to protect others.
The book says, "The one who truly admires you is the one who appreciates your pride, not your pretense of humility or pretense of likability." ”In fact, people who have a strong heart and do not lack love live their own lives and have a bottom line. It doesn't care about other people's eyes, but will firmly follow the path you want to take.
A woman who lacks love is easy to give her sincerity, and it is easy to believe the sweet words of men.
There is a sentence in "Human Disqualification": "No matter who you are too enthusiastic about, it increases the probability of not being cherished." ”Many men do not have a very sincere attitude towards feelings, and when they meet a woman for the first time, they will express some good feelings.
For example, invite her to dinner, buy her some small gifts, and deliberately shorten the distance between them.
He didn't really want to know her and like her. Just treat her as a prey, throw the bait, and see if she can't take the bait.
And, a woman who lacks love is easily moved by a man's little bit of dedication and warmth.
She will believe whatever men say to her, and she is unwilling to believe that sweet words are just false bubbles.
Even if it's fake, some people say that they like her and can't live without her, she will still take it seriously and cherish this feeling of dependence.
A woman who lacks love is difficult to tell whether others treat her sincerely or not.
Because, if she gets a little warmth from him, she will infinitely amplify his goodness, so as to give her sincerity.
Women, learn to fill their hearts.
Yishu wrote in "Star Fragments": "No matter what, it is always unforgivable for a person to fall for some reason, and the more unloved he is, the more he must love himself." ”Even if no one loves you, love yourself.
It's a beautiful thing to have someone show kindness to you. But also have the ability to distinguish between right and wrong, and don't let the bad guys hurt you with impunity.
Don't drain your enthusiasm and energy, and don't make sacrifices for anyone unconditionally.
Believe that you are the most beautiful existence in this world, love yourself soberly, and face the future bravely.
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