In the labyrinth of emotions, we often encounter various confusions and dilemmas. Today, I would like to decipher a psychological phenomenon that is prevalent in our emotional lives – confirmation bias. This may explain why we sometimes make mistakes over and over again in our relationships.
What is Confirmation Bias?
In short, when we are confronted with information, we are more inclined to accept information that is in line with our existing beliefs or expectations, and ignore or reject information that is contrary to our beliefs.
In emotional relationships, this bias can lead to an inability to look at the problem and the other person objectively and holistically, thus falling into a cycle of self-validation.
Emotional Stories: Love Tragedy Under Confirmation Bias
Let me start with a story. Xiaoling and Xiaoqiang are a couple in love, but Xiaoling always suspects that Xiaoqiang doesn't love her enough. Whenever Xiao Qiang makes some gestures that care about her, Xiao Ling will think that this is what Xiao Qiang should do, and ignore his sincerity. And when Xiaoqiang is a little negligent, Xiaoling will cling to these "evidences" to prove that Xiaoqiang really doesn't love her enough. In the end, this originally beautiful relationship came to an end because of misunderstanding and suspicion between the two parties.
Xiao Ling in this story fell into the trap of confirmation bias. She always looks for information that proves her point of view and ignores the information that contradicts hers. This made her unable to look at Xiaoqiang's behavior and feelings objectively, which eventually led to the breakdown of the relationship.
How to avoid confirmation bias?
To avoid confirmation bias, we must first be aware of this psychological tendency in ourselves. When facing emotional problems, try to be objective and rational, and don't be swayed by your emotions. At the same time, learn to listen to each other's thoughts and feelings, and give each other full understanding and trust.
In addition, there are psychological methods that can be used to correct confirmation biases. For example, try to empathize and understand and analyze problems from the other person's point of view; or seek the advice and advice of third parties for more comprehensive information.
Famous psychologistDaniel KahnemanZeng said: ".We tend to be more attracted to information that is easy to access and vivid, and ignore information that requires deep thought and analysisThis is a manifestation of confirmation bias.
According to relevant research data, more than 70% of people are affected by confirmation bias when facing emotional problems.
Dear readers, the emotional path is full of unknowns and challenges, but as long as we learn to recognize and avoid psychological pitfalls, we can better grasp our own happiness. May we all move forward bravely in the journey of love, and reap full of happiness and growth!
Finally, if you also have experience about confirmation bias or other emotional topics, please leave a message in the comment area to share. Let's become a better version of ourselves together!
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