Adolescence is the stage when boys go through many big and small things as they grow up, and this period shapes their maturity and growth. In this time of choice and challenge, they develop cognitive, understanding and problem-solving skills. However, boys' ability to perceive and judge things is limited, so timely advice and guidance can greatly improve their ability to deal with problems independently.
Zhuang Zhuang is a boy who loves basketball, he is known for his excellent basketball skills at school, and he is the captain of the class basketball team. His idol is Yao Ming, and the room is plastered with Yao Ming's ** and posters. His classmates affectionately called him "Yao Fan", which made him feel honored and proud.
Although being called like this by his classmates did not make Zhuang Zhuang angry, but made him seem to have become a basketball superstar. However, recently, Zhuang Zhuang played on the basketball court with his classmates every day after school, and it was late at night when he came home, covered in sweat and small scars. This condition did not escape his mother's eyes.
One day, Zhuang Zhuang returned late again, and his mother felt the need to talk to him. After dinner, his mother said gently to Zhuangzhuang: "As a boy who loves sports, Mom is glad that you have a good performance in basketball. However, next year's college entrance examination is approaching, and you need to spend more time on your studies. Reducing your basketball time is better for your studies, don't you think? After listening to his mother's words, Zhuang Zhuang thought it was true and promised to focus more on his studies.
In this case, the mother reminded Zhuang Zhuang in a peaceful way that instead of directly criticizing her son's behavior, she used hobbies as a positive starting point and told him that he needed to focus more on his studies at this stage. This approach makes it easier for Zhuang Zhuang to accept his mother's advice.
Adolescent boys often lack self-control and often have difficulty grasping the severity of the situation, so parents need to detect it in time and give them appropriate guidance to prevent them from losing their way.
When giving advice, parents should pay attention to the method:
1.Grasp the degree of giving advice. Don't be instructive in everything, as this can lead to a lack of freedom or excessive dependence on boys.
When a boy wants to cook a meal for his parents for the first time, don't run to the kitchen repeatedly to tell him what to do, parents will only make the boy think that you don't believe that he has the ability, and that he has the courage to go into the kitchen to show that he has full confidence in his heart. Mom's repeated interference would interrupt his train of thought. All you need to do is wait for him to bring the meal to the table and you will not give your opinion unless he asks you for help.
2.Speak appropriately. Use a calm and inquiring tone that is more acceptable and avoid sarcasm or blame.
When parents communicate with adolescent boys, they should pay attention to their tone and tone, and it is best to add these words, such as, "I think so", "What do you think", "Will this be better", "This is really troublesome", etc., the boy will be more willing to accept and adopt your opinion, parents not only protect the boy's self-esteem, but also let the boy learn the art of speaking and be polite.
3.Advice is given until the point is reached. Guide the boy to think about ways to solve the problem instead of telling the answer directly.
When the boy is packing his own luggage, the box is already full without a few clothes, at this time, parents can remind him "why don't you think about how to save space" and let the boy think about solving this problem. If the boy still doesn't understand, you can guide him step by step so that he learns to think.
Overall, parents should learn to give the right amount of advice so that adolescent boys can grow up less confused, grow up faster, and embark on a more challenging life journey.
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