On a date in the county seat, after the man talked to him, most of the girls left.
In February of that year, I returned to a county in northern Anhui again to witness a special young date. Compared with previous blind date events attended by 10,000 people, the scope of this event has been narrowed, and it is more like a small, elaborate "love salon". Although it is said to be a "blind date meeting of 10,000 people", only a few people actually came to participate, but there were tens of thousands of people who came to participate in this blind date event. (For details, please refer to "County Blind Date Conference, the on-site questions are very practical: houses, cars, bride price丨Reporter New Year", these questions are real.) ）
This year's "Emotional Salon" has adopted a more special approach. Dozens of single men and women come together for some prevalent emotional issues. There is no one set answer to this question, and young men and women express their opinions while quietly looking at someone who agrees with them, of course, if the person's financial situation matches their expectations.
On the second day of the Lunar New Year, I personally participated in this "emotional salon" and interacted with the organizer Meiling, and had a deeper understanding of the marriage and love market in this small city in northern Anhui. In short, this year's blind date is still a "cruel" atmosphere.
It was supposed to be a discussion on the topic of the relationship between men and women, but it was delayed for 30 minutes, and most of the boys released the pigeons or were late. In the end, only about 10 boys participated, about 1 5 of the enrolled students. Several male classmates present were nervous and gathered in a circle, some pretending to play with their mobile phones, while quietly observing the girl who came. On the contrary, the girl seemed more confident, sat down punctually and calmly, and soon, the salon began.
First of all, it was their turn to make an introduction, which was done by a few boys. Young people in their thirties began to introduce themselves, including civil engineering, fire fighting, insecticide, marketing, decoration, audio, and lighting. A college graduate, not yet married, working in a ** company in Shanghai, looks like he meets the requirements, but he is 43 years old and has no hope at all.
As a result, what everyone didn't expect was that most of the girls with the microphone ran away. When I was told by the sister next to me, I understood that this was because they thought that there was no suitable person here, and it was not worth their extra look. When I saw that there were only 4 girls left on the field, I couldn't help but take a deep breath and feel a little ashamed for these boys.
Meiling is not surprised by this, she thinks that people participate in this kind of activity just to make it easier for them to find a suitable partner. If there's nothing here that interests them, they might as well just leave. She admitted that the male classmates present that day were ordinary, but the female classmates were all excellent. Especially the first group of girls to leave, they are not only beautiful, but more importantly, they are all teachers.
Such incongruities are common in the city. Meiling explained to her that those girls from ordinary families can often get married easily, on the contrary, girls from good families find it even more difficult to find an ideal partner. Women with better conditions want to find someone who is right with them, with good looks, high height and education, and good family conditions. When all the criteria are in place, there is a good chance that they will not find the right man. Since your needs are met, others are also satisfied. Therefore, in the process of blind date, there are more "inferior men" than "high-quality women" who stay here, but they don't like each other.
In this "emotional salon" attended by only a few people, Meiling continued her plan to bring together the remaining men and women to discuss gender issues.
Some questions can help you identify people who share your values. For example, after a relationship has broken down, should you return a valuable gift to the other party? Want to check each other's **? Do you want to tell him about your relationship history? After buying a house, will you live with your in-laws? When you get married, who likes you more and who likes you more? Do you want children when finances are tight?
In the small town of northern Anhui, the current state of the marriage and marriage market is quite unusual. Meiling believes that the reason why many people are hesitant to get married now is not because they are afraid of marrying or unwilling to marry, but because they are afraid of finding the wrong partner and ending up with a tragic end. The older you get, the clearer you are about getting married, and the harder it is to get married casually. In this city, both men and women are considered old after thirty.
At a time when men are paying more attention to women, the age of 30 becomes a dividing line. Meiling admitted frankly that when it comes to age, she is actually considering a woman's fertility, and many men dare not have a second child as soon as they hear about their thirties, because their thirties are too old. When it comes to marriage, many men still retain the traditional idea that the main goal is to continue the family lineage.
In addition, men are also very concerned about women's appearance, and they prefer it"Guotai Min'an"This kind of clean, natural face, while the face with heavy makeup and plastic surgery is not so pleasing. Girls are more concerned about the man's financial situation, whether he has an RV and his height, while boys are less concerned about this.
Mei Ling pointed out that economic status mainly refers to a person's income, that is, his salary should be higher than that of the general public, especially higher than the general standard of women. In such a small city, a man with a monthly salary of less than 8,000 yuan, few women will choose, after all, women nowadays are rich. Another requirement is stature, if a man is no more than 1.7 meters tall, it is not easy, except for those who are particularly good. On the contrary, men who are 1.75 meters or taller are more popular.
And in this small city, there are also a number of divorced"New generation"。Meiling noticed that divorced people have a tendency to get younger and younger, and there is a woman who divorced in her twenties, has not yet held a wedding ceremony, and has not yet received a marriage certificate, which has left a deep impact on her. In her opinion, it is somewhat naïve to get married and divorce so hastily.
Although Meiling herself has no prejudices about marriage, she feels that the current divorce is mostly due to the incompatibility of three views and personalities. She believes that divorce is just choosing the wrong person, and even if she finds the wrong person, it does not mean that there will be no more chance. On the contrary, it is a kind of courage to abandon your unhappy marriage and start over again after divorce. Nowadays, many people dare to divorce in large part because women are able to stand on their own feet.
Meiling said that divorced women are more selective when it comes to blind dates. She said that many divorced men hope to find a suitable spouse for them, but divorced women are not, they feel that they have come out of the quagmire of marriage, why step into a new quagmire?
There was a salon about feelings in which a divorced woman in her forties was invited. She confided in Meiling that she wanted to find a down-to-earth, down-to-earth, down-to-earth other half. On this day, she came with two good friends just to find a match for her. Towards the end of the party, Meiling asked a good friend, and she shook her head and said that she hadn't yet.
At the end of the emotional salon, three women and five men made up two tables to play cards. In a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere, the 8 trainees seemed to have unloaded all their burdens and smiled. The two played mahjong while showing off their strength to each other.