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Hello everyone, I'm Wanxing. Middle-aged women, in the face of their husbands' cheating, are often vicious and hateful. However, cheating does not happen in a day, and the occurrence of cheating often has a long foreshadowing. A middle-aged woman is not a little girl who is ignorant of the world, of course she knows what behaviors will lead to cheating and what behaviors will lead to cross-border relationships between men and women.
As we all know, middle-aged women's expectations of their husbands are often simple and pure: loyal, considerate, and responsible. However, there is one behavior that, in their opinion, is undoubtedly the "killer" of marriage, that is, the husband provides excessive help to the opposite sex, which is called "".Do good deedsIn fact, the bottom line of marriage has been crossed.
01: "Do good deeds", don't go too far
At the beginning of man, nature is good. "Helping others is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, and there is nothing wrong with that. But when the object of help is the opposite sex, especially the husband's help to the opposite sex, beyond the scope of ordinary friends, the heart of a middle-aged woman will ring the alarm bell. It's not that they don't understand their husband's kindness, but they are worried that this kindness will be misunderstood, and they are even more worried that the boat of marriage will capsize.
For example, Ms. Zhang's husband is a warm-hearted man, and when a neighbor's water pipe breaks down and electrical appliances fail, he always goes to help without saying a word. This was a good thing, but Ms. Zhang found that her husband seemed to take extra care of a young female neighbor, not only helping to fix water pipes and changing light bulbs, but also often shushing and asking for warmth on WeChat. This made Ms. Zhang feel very uncomfortable.
02. Crossing the line is often a prelude to derailment
Marriage is the spiritual union of two people, and the purpose is to overcome all the hardships and hardships of the world together. "In the process, the transgression of either party may cause irreparable damage to the marriage. The reason why middle-aged women are so sensitive to their husbands' transgressions is because they are well aware of the destructive power of such behavior to marriage.
Ms. Li's husband often needs to come into contact with different female clients because of his work. At first, Ms. Li didn't care about it, until one day, she stumbled upon the fact that her husband's chat history with a female client was unusually intimate. Although her husband explained that it was only for work, Ms. Li's trust in her heart had been greatly reduced. She began to suspect her husband's every late return, every business trip, and even every contact with the opposite sex. This suspicion and insecurity are like a sharp knife, slowly cutting their marriage.
03: If you cross the line, you have to change, and if you are beaten, please stand upright
The success of a marriage depends on two people, and one person can make it fail. "The key to avoiding the damage to a marriage caused by transgression is that both parties have a clear sense of boundaries and self-restraint.
For middle-aged women, they can communicate openly with their husbands and express their feelings and concerns; At the same time, learn to trust and understand your husband's behavior.
For husbands, they should understand the responsibilities and bottom line of marriage, and maintain an appropriate distance and sense of proportion when dealing with differences; More importantly, you should cherish your wife's trust and dedication, and don't easily do anything that hurts your marriage.
04: When you cross the line, you can change it in time, and the happiness is still there
When cross-border behavior has occurred, it is important to rebuild trust and communication.
Love is a ...... that requires mutual sacrificeOne-sided sacrifice can only lead to one-sided love. "This means that both parties need to work to save the marriage.
Ms. Wang's husband, who was too intimate with a female friend at a party, was discovered by Ms. Wang, and their marriage was in crisis.
But Ms. Wang did not choose to give up directly, but had an in-depth communication with her husband. She expressed her hurt and disappointment, while also listening to her husband's explanations and apologies.
With the joint efforts of both parties, they gradually regained the foundation of trust and communication, and the marriage was repaired.
Conclusion:
Middle-aged women hate their husbands' transgressions the most - "doing this kind of good deed", which is actually disrespectful and hurtful to marriage.
The key to avoiding the damage to a marriage caused by such behavior is for both partners to have a clear sense of boundaries and self-restraint. At the same time, learn to trust, understand, and communicate.
Only in this way can we jointly protect the small boat of marriage and move forward hand in hand in the wind and rain.