Time is quiet, may you love yourself deeply first. I once heard: "The moment you really leave, it is quiet, and the door closes lightly." "The yellowing of the leaves is the mark of time, and the separation of people is the flow of emotions. There is no departure for no reason, just as the clouds in the sky herald the arrival of rain. Love or not love, in fact, there is no need to say much, words and deeds have already revealed everything. When a person chooses to leave, in addition to disconnecting, they tend to exhibit these three behaviors.
Compared with bluntly saying that you don't love, the most cruel thing may be the word "drag". You feel his perfunctory, but he prevaricates with all kinds of excuses. You long to get closer, but you are blocked by the wall of your heart that he has built. He always said, "I've been too busy lately, I'll talk about it later." Or, "Stressful, unintentional." Or, "Or" is not in good condition and needs to be alone. He can always find countless reasons for the cooling relationship, but he is unwilling to face the problem head-on.
I once heard the story of a fan Q. She has been in love with her boyfriend for two years, and she was as sweet as honey at the beginning, and she was often ridiculed as a model of sprinkling. But gradually, her boyfriend became reticent and no longer cared about her life. Whenever Q wants to communicate, her boyfriend always runs away. Eventually, Q felt more and more tired in the relationship and proposed to break up. She said to her boyfriend, "I feel like you don't love me anymore, you just don't want to admit it." The boyfriend responded lightly: "If you think so, I can't help it." At that moment, Q felt as if he had been hit by a heavy punch, and it hurt his heart. She felt like the one who had been abandoned, and the other party already knew it.
Someone said: "When you love, you are as passionate as fire, and when you don't love, you let go decisively." "However, some people choose cold violence to end a relationship. They no longer take the initiative to express their love, but treat each other with indifference and neglect, hoping that the other person will leave on their own in pain. In psychology, this behavior is called cold violence, and it includes ways such as neglect, coldness, and indifference.
I have witnessed the cold and violent relationship between my friend Qianqian and her boyfriend. After a small dispute, her boyfriend chose the cold war and turned a blind eye to Qianqian's courtship and concern. Even in the restaurant, he turned a deaf ear to Qianqian's words and only cared about playing with his mobile phone. Qianqian finally couldn't stand this suffocating atmosphere and proposed to break up. "All the enthusiasm and anticipation was consumed in waiting and disappointment," she said. ”
In a relationship, the most terrible thing is not a fierce quarrel, but the state of wanting to give up but not finding a reason, wanting to continue but not seeing hope. Leaving is often a symptom, but we don't want to face it. In fact, by the time our suspicions came true, his changes were already fresh in our minds. He doesn't love you anymore and just feels a pity to lose you, so he drags you with an ambiguous attitude. He doesn't want to take responsibility, so he leaves the power of choice to you.
In addition, being ambiguous with the opposite sex is also a clear sign of unlove. We all crave loyal love, but in the adult world, ** and suspicion always go hand in hand. The former vows may come to naught under all kinds of **, and the former must also drift away in indifference.
I once read a post on the Internet about a girl who cried that her husband was addicted to games when he came home, and even had an affair with the opposite sex. When she tried to communicate, her husband accused her of making a fuss. You must know that when you really love someone, you will consciously block out all ambiguous possibilities. And those behaviors of frequent interaction with the opposite sex are just an excuse for not loving.
Women in relationships are often the most sensitive. In many cases, the reason why they ask questions with answers is just to hope that the other party can face up to the problem and redeem it in time. However, you can never wake up a person who is pretending to be asleep, nor can you save a soul who wants to leave. What you can't grasp, it's superfluous to even reach out.
Writer Su Qin once said: "Women are dedicated and ruthless." "When love is gone, we have to learn to let go, and we have to learn to love ourselves. Don't lose yourself for someone who no longer loves you, and don't allow yourself to linger in pain. Learn to turn around, and you'll find a better landscape waiting for you. Time is shallow, may you love yourself deeply first, and then meet someone worthy.