In the world of the internet, those subtle but sharp words are like dishes, which are endlessly evocative and sometimes incomprehensible. Among them, there is such a sentence: "You can't eat 4 dishes in a lifetime." At first glance, you may think that you are talking about a lack of food, but in fact, it is a deeply ironic "life menu".
It is said that these "four dishes" are not ordinary table dishes, but the four important rituals related to life - full moon wine, wedding banquet, funeral banquet and ancestor offerings. First of all, "not being able to eat your own children's full moon feast" means that you can't experience the joy of being a parent and can't pass on the incense; Then, "absent from one's own wedding banquet" means that you have not been able to enter the marriage hall in your life, and you cannot enjoy the blessings of relatives and friends and the happiness of family formation; In addition, "no one cares about the funeral banquet", reflecting the desolation of life at the end of life, implying the failure of interpersonal communication in the world; Finally, "there is no way to place the offerings to the ancestors", which symbolizes that it is also forgotten after death, and no one sacrifices to cherish it. The four dishes are connected in series to form a tragedy of life, which is intended to curse others for their lives of loneliness, no heirs, no company, and extreme loneliness.
Let us travel through time and space to ancient times, where full moon wine carries the miracle of newborn vitality and the hope of family reproduction; The wedding banquet is not only a happy day for individuals, but also a key moment for the continuation of the community; The funeral banquet shows the warmth and coldness of human affection and the intimacy of interpersonal relationships; As for ancestor offerings, it is the embodiment of the memory and respect of the ancestors of the Chinese descendants, maintaining blood ties and family memories. Behind each dish, there is a deep cultural heritage and social emotions intertwined.
However, in modern society, the connotation of "four dishes" has undergone a subtle change. With the advancement of medical technology and the updating of the concept of childbirth, people's understanding of life is more diverse, and the sense of happiness is no longer limited to the traditional sense of "inheritance". Similarly, the definition of success has shifted from being able to afford the "four dishes" to being living a real, independent and meaningful life.
To sum up, although the seemingly humorous Internet language of "you can't eat 4 dishes in a lifetime" reflects the great importance that people have attached to life nodes throughout the ages, in today's society, we should advocate more healthy, diverse, and independent life values. Everyone has the right to write their own chapter of life, whether there are four "dishes" or not, as long as the heart is rich and living oneself, it is enough to call it a good life. I'm Yaxin, see you next time, don't forget to follow, share, and ** more spicy topics in life together!