Do you know? The ancients once had a saying that was deeply rooted in the hearts of the people: "Marrying a man depends on the shoulder, marrying a wife depends on the hand". This sentence seems to carry a strong traditional atmosphere, outlining a picture of mate selection in ancient agrarian society. At that time, men built material security for their families with strong shoulders, while women used their dexterous hands to manage household chores and weave a good life. But does this still apply today?
Back in the old days, men shouldered the burden of ploughing, and the strong shoulders made of muscles became an important indicator of whether they could take on family responsibilities. If the shoulders are narrow and the strength is thin, it is considered difficult to support the burden of the family, after all, in that era of limited productivity, the image of "shoulders can not be picked, hands cannot be lifted" is obviously not an ideal reliance. As for the women, their skillful hands are another piece of the family, and their delicate fingers shuttle between the silk threads, creating a gorgeous brocade of subsistence life. A pair of well-proportioned, flexible hands indicates that she is a capable housewife and is highly favored.
However, time flies, social development is changing with each passing day, and the standards of the past seem to be a bit out of place in modern times. Nowadays, with the concept of equality between men and women, gender roles are no longer rigid, men do not have to be in charge of foreign affairs, and women do not have to be confined to the house. Everyone can play a role in the workplace and share in family life. Our criteria for choosing a partner are also rich and diverse, not only looking at strength and craftsmanship, but also considering the spiritual fit, the consistency of values and the complementarity of personality.
Therefore, we can interpret it this way: "marrying a man and looking at his shoulders" has been upgraded to appreciating a man's sense of responsibility and tenacity, while "marrying a wife and looking at his hands" has been transformed into appreciating a woman's wisdom, independence, and thoughtfulness. The cornerstone of marriage is no longer purely physical conditioning, but emotional resonance, mutual respect and mutual growth between the two people.
In short, no matter how the times change, a truly happy marriage no longer only relies on the traditional "shoulders" and "hands", but mutual understanding, tolerance and support. Only two hearts that treat each other sincerely can work together to build a warm harbor and share the beautiful scenery of life's journey. I'm Yaxin, and I'm looking forward to meeting you again in the next episode of the show, and we'll have more interesting topics together! Don't forget to follow, like, and share!