Have you ever noticed that you always regret why you did it in the first place?
For example, if a child sits in your car and gets out of the car and breaks your car door buckle, will you blame him and regret it after blaming him?
For example, if you always quarrel with your parents, quarrel with your spouse, or even beat him, do you regret it?
I know you'll say that you're going to reflect on yourself afterwards, but it still happens, ......
Why is that?
You have to understand a concept: active reflection and passive reflection.
Take the initiative to reflect: Before something happens, you will do some introspection to keep yourself in peace.
Passive introspection: Introspection after something happens, allowing yourself to feel guilty, regretful, and self-blaming.
Active reflection is equivalent to you copying a prison army, always supervising what you do, just like the computer's antivirus software, as long as there is a virus, it will immediately call the police.
This kind of reflection is effective, and your life can grow rapidly.
Passive reflection is often an afterthought, regretting it is over, and it is a restart of yesterday's actions.
Think about it: Do you reflect on yourself every day?
Are you active or reactive?