I have heard such a saying that there are four kinds of fate between children and parents, namely: repaying gratitude, revenge, debt collection, and debt repayment. Without these four fates, it would be difficult to become a family.
As parents, of course, they hope that their children will repay their kindness, so that their families can prosper.
The word "filial piety" has been on our lips for thousands of years, but there are many people who have never seriously thought about the meaning of these two words.
Our parents gave birth to us and devoted their lives to it. Time may not be kind to them, but children must be gentle with them. Parents are our roots, and when our parents are there, our home is there.
When our parents are old, we need to know what they really need, maybe not the companionship we take for granted, but the four "filial piety" from our children
When I saw a **, I had mixed feelings in my heart. In a small classroom, there is a group of elderly people over half a hundred years old, listening attentively to the teacher's lecture.
At first, I thought it was a university for the elderly, but in fact it was a "smartphone training class for the elderly".
Most of the old people are in their 60s, wearing reading glasses and staring at the screen seriously, and they are also remembering something. The teaching content is nothing more than some simple daily operations, such as the difference between WeChat change and transfer, how to upload**, how to connect**...
Originally, their children could have taught them this. Now they are paying their tuition, neatly like a group of primary school students, under the command of the teacher.
I don't know why they come here to study, is it because they don't want to trouble their children, or because their children are impatient to be troubled by them? In short, the more serious the old people learn, the more sad they look.
I don't know when we grew from toddlers and completely dependent on our parents to independent adults. Parents, on the other hand, seem to have reversed their roles with us, they begin to react more slowly, they can't learn things, they can't keep up with the changes of the times, just like when we were children.
And the greatest filial piety we can do at this time is not to be difficult with our parents. Give parents more patience and care, and don't complain or blame. Just like they treated us when we were younger.
Modern life is very stressful, with a busy work rhythm and children's upbringing problems ......Everything revolves around the word "money".
On the contrary, parents who retire will look "richer" than young people because they have pensions and life savings.
As a result, some children have their eyes on their parents' money bags, hoping that their parents can give them financial help and life support.
As everyone knows, the savings of their parents' lives are the fruits of their savings. The older generation is more frugal in life than the younger people today, and they will think more about their later life.
As a child, we should consciously not stare at the pension money of our parents, but strive to grow up, become the pillar of a family, and support our own small life with responsibility.
Some children will say that their parents are now giving us financial help, and when they reach their old age, I will also provide for them in their old age, so what's the use of holding the money in his hands?
The savings of their parents are the guarantee of their later life, and they do not panic when they have spare money in their hands. That represents not only money, but a peace of mind and confidence.
Filial children should support the elderly to keep a piece of money that can support their later life, which is the real understanding of the elderly.
No one says that they want to be an unfilial child, but honoring one's parents is not only an emotional commitment, but also an understanding of what the real needs of parents are.
To provide for our parents, we must learn to accommodate our parents' lifestyles and habits. Some old people are frugal all their lives, and as children, they can enlighten them, but they can't force them to order them or directly ask their parents to act according to their own wishes.
Although parents are getting older, they will become more and more dependent on their children, but as long as they are sober and not confused, as children, they should give the elderly enough freedom and choice.
I have a neighbor who, as far as I know, has been living alone for seven years since his wife died, and maybe even longer before.
At the beginning of this year, I found out that my son, who often came to see him, had not appeared for a long time. According to a neighbor who knew the matter, the old man wanted to find a wife, but his son objected, and the two had a disagreement.
In fact, now twilight love has become an increasingly natural state of life. As long as the other half chosen by the old man is a down-to-earth person and wants to live together, there is nothing wrong with it.
Everyone's personality is different, some people like to be quiet, some people like to be funny. The longer the free time in old age, the more lonely people feel, and choosing their favorite way of life, in the case of self-satisfaction, is everyone's right, and children should give enough understanding.
In ordinary days, there will always be a bit of unusualness. From being unaware of the slow aging of parents, to being aware of, and even suddenly, it is a gradual process.
I read such a post, the poster said that in June this year, my father took a car dozens of kilometers to visit his newborn grandson, and as soon as he got out of the car, he was targeted by a group of **, spent all the money he had with him, and bought some useless things in a daze.
The first reaction of the poster was: How could my father do such a brainless thing? Such a simple trick to deceive people will also fall into a trap.
Immediately after that, I wanted to start accusing. But after thinking about it, my father had just been cheated of money and was still in an unfamiliar place, so he stopped his temper.
The next day, when the father came home, like a cowardly child, waited for criticism. The sticker remembered what he looked like when he made mistakes as a child, and his father always patted him on the shoulder with his generous palm, saying that it was okay, and then reasoning with him.
The owner of the post also learned from his father back then, and what he saw was that his father was relaxed, and there was still a little flickering in his eyes.
When did the once tall father become so vulnerable? Life always moves forward with time, and when we grow up, we must learn to accept the aging of our parents and the fact that they have lost their "value".
The best upbringing and filial piety is not only to be polite to strangers, but to be able to respect, understand, and care for one's parents in any situation, just as they did when they took care of us when they were children.
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Text|Wei Wei'an: The pen has a temperature, speaks for love, an atypical writer who loves words, invites you to perceive life together].