My name is Zheng Jun, I am Chinese New Year's Eve three years old, and I run a small restaurant in the township.
As I grew older, I became more and more aware of what my parents often said to me, that if you do a good job in the village, you won't have to worry about anything in the future.
No, an incident that just happened to my third uncle's house a few days ago made me truly realize the true meaning of this sentence.
My third uncle is different from my other uncles, his mind is very flexible, but he is very selfish and stingy, after the reform and opening up, the third uncle went to the field alone with his luggage to do business.
At that time, just in time to catch up with the good policy, the third uncle made a lot of money in the field, became the first 10,000 yuan household in our village, and also bought a house in the urban area.
At that time, the people in the village were proud and proud of the third uncle, and they thought that the third uncle would return to the village and get rich with the villagers after making a fortune.
Even if you can't get rich, it's good to take out some money to contribute to the village, because after all, the people in the village helped the third uncle a lot at that time.
But what everyone didn't expect was that after the house in the city was renovated, the third uncle settled in the city, and he might not be able to come back once a year.
After living in the city for more than a year, the third uncle married a local girl in the city and had a city hukou, and then he didn't want to go back to this dilapidated village.
After settling in the city, because the third uncle had a good relationship with my father, he left a ** number for his father, saying that if there was anything in the future, he would ask his father to call ** to him, and told him not to tell the ** number to anyone else.
What my father didn't expect was that this ** number became the culprit that caused the breakdown of the relationship between the two brothers.
Here's the thing, after the third uncle settled in the city, he almost never asked about the things in the village, in order not to make the third uncle fall into the handle, no matter who has a red and white affair in the village, the father will tell the third uncle in advance, and tell others not to come, but must be courteous.
But I don't know if the third uncle was affected by the people in the city, and he didn't look down on these red and white things in the village, and said that they were using this reason to "collect money".
He said that not only would he not give a penny to the people in the village, but also told his father that he would not have to notify him if there was such a thing in the future, wasting ** money.
Although the third uncle said very hard things in **, as soon as someone in the village did red and white things, his father would still call ** in advance to tell the third uncle, and sometimes ** couldn't get through, and his father would write a letter and send it over, but there was usually no reply.
Later, as my cousin and I grew up day by day, my father felt that the third uncle was always like this and couldn't talk about it with the people in the village, and it was reasonable for people to get married and drink, but if someone had a white matter, he wouldn't help go over to see it, which would be very unusual.
Moreover, the people in the village also have opinions about the third uncle. Therefore, my father decided to take advantage of the rest time to have a good discussion with the third uncle.
This ** beat for a short time, because as soon as the third uncle heard that his father was talking about him, he immediately couldn't hold back his temper and became angry with his father, and said that as long as he was rich, the people in the village would look down on him, and it had nothing to do with whether he helped or not.
He also said that when his cousin got married, he would definitely set up dozens of banquets in the village, telling his father to just wait to see how beautiful he was, and not have to worry about other things.
Since then, the third uncle has unilaterally cut off contact with our family, and his ** has never passed again. For more than ten years, I only came back once when my grandfather died, but I hurried back to the city without even waiting for my grandfather's burial.
A few years later, a neighbor's grandmother, who had helped us a lot, died, and my father and brothers arrived, but I didn't see the third uncle for a long time (my father had written to inform him in advance).
Until the end of the funeral, I didn't see the third uncle, and there was not even a ** who called to condole, which made the neighbor's grandmother's children heartbroken.
Because when my father was a child, my grandfather's family lived in great poverty, if it weren't for the neighbor's grandmother who helped take care of the third uncle and fed him, I am afraid that the third uncle would have died at the age of five.
Because of the absence of the third uncle, several children of the neighbor's grandmother told their father and brothers that they would never have any contact with the third uncle in the future, and he would not come to participate in any of his affairs in the future.
Afterwards, when the uncle and the third uncle talked about this matter, he still looked disapproving, saying that there would be no shortage of people without him, as long as he had money and could do things in a beautiful way, there would definitely be people to cheer him on.
But after that, reality slapped the third uncle hard, making him realize how ridiculous and ignorant his original idea was.
Five years ago, my wife and I were introduced by a matchmaker to get married, and it is not surprising that my third uncle was still not present when I got married, let alone with the gift money.
Although the family can understand each other, outsiders do not know the reason for this, and they will only laugh at the discord between our brothers.
My cousin is a few years older than me, and because he has been studying, he has not been married for a long time, and it was not until last year that he brought a girl from other places.
After the two families met, they began to discuss marriage, and at first the cousin did not agree with the third uncle to go back to the village to do wine, because he had never been to the village at all, and he was not familiar with the people in the village, besides, he also looked down on the environment in the countryside because of the loss of face.
But no matter how stubborn he was, he couldn't screw the third uncle, and the relatives on the bride's side also wanted to go back to the village to see what kind of status the third uncle had in the village.
In this way, a month before the cousin's wedding, the family returned to their home in the countryside, because they did not live all year round, so the environment was very worrying.
However, the third uncle was rich, so he hired someone to clean the yard and repaint the walls.
My cousin's wedding was arranged by the wedding company, so I didn't need the help of our relatives.
In order to show his strength, the third uncle began to hold a feast in the courtyard the day before his cousin's wedding, and he was afraid that there would be many people, and the third uncle also asked for a few more tables of banquets, adding up to a total of almost forty tables.
Although the third uncle scoffed at the matter of receiving gifts in the early years, and looked down on all kinds of things, but when it came to himself, the third uncle didn't think so, after all, who would be afraid of having more money.
In order to facilitate the villagers to better write gifts, the third uncle even set up two places to write gifts.
What the third uncle never expected was that until noon, no one had come to write him a gift, let alone eat.
There was no one else in the gift book except the names of a few of our relatives, and there were only a handful of people in the courtyard.
The third uncle thought that the people in the village didn't know about my cousin's marriage, so my father and I posted the news of my cousin's marriage in the village group and invited them to come to dinner.
After the news was released, there was still no one to go, and the meal that had been prepared had to be eaten by a few of us, and before we had time to make it, the third uncle had to stop.
Until four o'clock in the afternoon, there was still no villager coming, and the third uncle thought that the villagers had not received his gift money, so he didn't want to pay for food in vain.
Therefore, he asked me to invite him into the group, and he told the villagers in the group that there would be no gifts for my cousin's marriage this time, and the villagers could come to eat with confidence.
Sending this sentence, the third uncle scolded and said that a group of people who can't get on the stage, in order to save this gift money, really don't even go to the door of my house.
I thought that the third uncle would be able to play a good role after saying this, but a group of us waited until it was dark, and we couldn't wait for a single figure.
The third uncle was a little broken at this time, he thought that the villagers did not come the day before because there was no local precedent for a banquet the day before the wedding, and he thought about how the villagers would not give him face the next day.
Unexpectedly, on the day of his cousin's wedding, the things that made him even more embarrassed and unable to get off the stage were still to come.
Because there is a professional wedding company in charge, the cousin's journey to marry is relatively smooth.
After taking the bride into her home, the bride begins to change her dress, put on makeup, prepare for the upcoming wedding ceremony, and so on.
During this period, it should have been an hour or two, and the relatives of the bride were about to come over to attend the wedding ceremony, but the third uncle's family was still only a few of our relatives, and none of the villagers came.
At this time, the third uncle began to be anxious, and he couldn't take care of the face he cared about the most, and began to go door to door to ask people to attend his cousin's wedding, but the villagers refused to come to participate either under the pretext of illness or busy work.
The wedding ceremony is about to take place, there is no way, the third uncle is only ** on the scalp, I guess the third uncle must regret it now, if time can be turned back, he will definitely listen to his cousin's idea and not come to the countryside to do wine.
At eleven o'clock, with the beginning of the wedding ceremony, the bride's family members had almost arrived, and the bride's family members saw that the courtyard was deserted and there were few people, and their faces changed on the spot.
Especially the parents of the bride, who originally did not agree to their daughter's marriage far away, now seeing that the groom's posture is wrong, they immediately proposed to take the bride home and not get married.
So in the end, the third uncle not only failed to show his prestige in the village, but also lost his cousin's daughter-in-law, which really became the laughing stock of the villagers.
Afterwards, the cousin also complained about the third uncle, who refused to go home while working outside, and finally, he found another girl to be his son-in-law at the place of work, and he didn't come back all year round, and he didn't even give the third uncle a call.
After this incident, the third uncle changed his usual attitude, as long as the people in the village had red and white affairs, he would give gifts to others, and even those who couldn't beat the eight poles gave birth to children, and he had to give a gift.
But the tragic situation has happened, and there is nothing to do to make up for it, and the third uncle is only left with endless regrets.