My daughter-in-law asked me about my pension, and I wanted to say 8,000, but my son said it was only 2,700
I'm Wang Ling, I'm 56 years old, and I have a 30-year-old son. Last year, he finally got married, which was a relief for both my wife and me.
Strangely, my son never asked me to tell my daughter-in-law how much our pension was. Once, my daughter-in-law asked me if I wanted to say 8,000, but I noticed that my son was looking at me frantically, so I had to say 2,700.
I remember that at that time, my daughter-in-law's expression suddenly became cold, and she simply replied, "Okay". It wasn't until something happened later that I realized my son's wisdom.
Let's talk about the past, our daughter-in-law has really experienced a lot. My son's name is Zhang Long, he is our only son, smart and successful, graduated from an excellent university, stayed in the big city to work.
The only problem is that he is almost 30 years old and not married, which makes us very anxious. We urged him several times, but he always said that fate was providential and could not be forced. So, we had to arrange a blind date for him, and after a few encounters, there was really a result.
He complements a girl named Zhou Xiaoli. She is a rural girl, but she is very motivated, went to university, and became a teacher after graduation, with a good salary and a bright future, and we are all very satisfied.
My son is always in no hurry to get married, and it took more than a year to get married, during which we had some contacts with Xiao Li.
But I noticed a detail that made me uncomfortable, every time the four of us went out to eat, Xiaoli always expected us to pay the bill. I accidentally found that as long as my wife and I took the initiative to pay, Xiaoli would be happy and in a good mood all the time. But if it was my son who took the initiative to pay, she would keep a straight face and quickly find an excuse to leave.
I mentioned this to my wife, and he thought I was too careful. However, I occasionally heard Xiaoli talking to her son, and she asked him angrily: "Your parents are not without money, why are you always rushing to pay the bills, we still have a lot of expenses after we get married!" "Listening to these words, I feel a little uncomfortable, but I understand that it is not easy for young people to work hard outside, and it is normal to hope that they can save some money for the future.
But the calculations of the families on both sides are obvious, hurting feelings. Later, my son and Xiaoli talked about marriage, and Xiaoli wanted us to pay more bride price and down payment, and did not want to use the money that my son had saved from years of work.
Although Xiaoli's attitude was a little angry, we still agreed, and paid the bride price and the down payment for the wedding house.
Although there are some benefits to this, Xiaoli's concern for me and my wife has increased a lot. After we got married, she always affectionately called us "Mom and Dad", with a sweet smile and a sensible face. Sometimes she comes to visit us with her son and offers to help with something.
Although Xiaoli is a bit fond of money, it doesn't cause much of a problem. Therefore, I chose to turn a blind eye, after all, my son likes her very much, their life is very happy, and we as parents are also happy.
However, since I retired, things have started to change subtly. My wife and I are both intellectuals, and our income after retirement is also good, and my pension is higher than my wife's, and I can get more than 8,000 yuan a month.
Once, when Xiaoli and her son came to visit us, Xiaoli suddenly asked, "Mom, you should retire now, how much is your pension?" I was about to answer, but when I saw my son look at me, I immediately changed my words and said, "It's only 2,700 yuan, which is enough for me and your father." ”
Xiao Li's face immediately changed, looking a little unhappy, and she didn't bring up the topic again.
Later, my son and I talked to each other alone, and he said that Xiaoli is a good person, but because she was born in the countryside, she is a little stingy, and she always feels that her money is her own, and she is reluctant to spend it on "outsiders", and she even feels uncomfortable spending money on her parents-in-law.
My son knows that Xiaoli's problem can't be changed, and I hope that our old couple can be smart and don't disclose their savings and pensions, so that Xiaoli won't always worry about it.
I also know in my heart that with Xiaoli's character, our pension money may not be able to be taken back if we hand it over to her. In addition, my wife and I are also old, and we may have medical expenses and other expenses in the future.
My son has not forgotten his mother, and he has taken into account the feelings of both sides well, which makes me feel gratified. After Xiaoli came to our house again, she didn't ask about money again, and I also hinted to her that my wife and I would be owned by our son in a hundred years.
After hearing this, Xiaoli was in a much better mood and was more attentive to us.
I know that my daughter-in-law and I are still strangers at heart, people from different families. She does make us uncomfortable thinking about our money, but as I said, these things are still for them at the end of the day. Xiaoli will spend the next few decades with my son, so there are some things that are good for everyone if you understand them, and you don't have to dig into them.