"The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the foundation of family harmony. ”
This ancient wisdom sentence reveals the importance of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for family harmony.
When the mother-in-law's selfish behavior becomes justified, the relationship is like a broken jade, which is difficult to repair.
Story 1: The son's money bag
Xiaoqiang, a simple and hard-working young man, with his own efforts, has worked hard to create a world in the bustling city.
He is well aware of his mother's hardships in the countryside, so he will send his living expenses on time every month, hoping to add a guarantee to his mother's life.
However, in the eyes of Xiaoqiang's mother,The money appears to have become her personal property.
Whenever Xiaoqiang communicated with his mother and mentioned that he wanted to make some plans for his small family, his mother always said categorically:
"You are my son, and your money is my money. How do I spend it, do I have to report it to you? ”
Xiaoqiang tried to explain that the money was the result of the joint efforts of him and his wife, but his mother always said a word.
"Your wings are stiffI won't listen to my mother."
to respond. The mother's selfishness and stubbornness made Xiaoqiang feel helpless and depressed.
Story 2: The obsession of succession
After Xiaofang married into her in-law's familyI have not been able to add a boy to my family
This made her mother-in-law feel disappointed, and it also made Xiaofang's position in the family precarious.
In the eyes of her mother-in-law, as a daughter-in-law, Xiaofang'sThe first priority was to have a boy, to continue the incense for the family.
Whenever Xiaofang talked to her mother-in-law about wanting to adopt an orphan, her mother-in-law always said angrily:
"How can our family adopt someone else's child? You have to give me a grandchild! ”
Xiaofang tried to explain, ** is also an expression of love, but her mother-in-law always uses a sentence.
You don't understand, you can only be considered a real daughter-in-law if you give birth to a son" to refute.
The obsession and prejudice of her mother-in-law made Xiaofang feel extremely pressured and constrained.
Story 3: The boundary between the mother's family and the mother-in-law's family
After Xiaoling got married, she still maintained close ties with her mother's family.
She often buys gifts for her parents, or sends money and goods to express her filial piety.
However, in the eyes of the mother-in-law,These actions became unforgivable faults.
Whenever Xiaoling talked to her mother-in-law about her mother's family, her mother-in-law always said indifferently
"The water spilled by the married daughter, you are already a member of our family. Your mother's business has nothing to do with us. ”
Xiaoling tried to explain that the relationship between her mother's family and her mother-in-law's family is not antagonistic, but her mother-in-law always uses a sentence"You shouldn't put your mind on your mother's house."to respond.
The mother-in-law's indifference and narrow-mindedness made Xiaoling feel helpless and lonely.
These three stories are like a mirror, reflecting the manifestations behind the mother-in-law's selfish behavior.
They to:Self-centeredness, not taking into account his son's feelings and needs;
They willThe daughter-in-law is regarded as a fertility tool, ignoring the personality and dignity of the daughter-in-law;
They willDraw a clear line between the mother's family and the in-law's family, severing the emotional ties between families.
Their selfish behavior not only strains family relationships, but also makes it difficult to reconcile mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
"The family and everything are prosperous, and the family is declining. ”
Family harmony requires the joint efforts and dedication of each family member.
As daughters-in-law and mothers-in-law, we should:learn to respect and understand each other's feelings and needs;
We should let go of obsessions and prejudices and face the changes and challenges of our families with an open and inclusive mind. We should cherish the emotional bond of the family and let the mother-in-law and the in-laws become a mutually supportive force.
Only in this way can we truly achieve harmony and happiness in the family.
"The family is the cell of society, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the cornerstone of family harmony. ”
I hope that every family can cherish this cornerstone and make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law a beautiful scenery of family harmony.