Have you ever been in a situation where someone asked you to borrow 300 yuan?
I came across it a while ago.
The other party is a post-95 girl in my mother-in-law's village, who went straight to the point and asked me to borrow 300 yuan, because I heard some of the girl's situation, I didn't choose to lend it to her.
The situation is probably like this, she married a husband who was 10 years older than her, gave birth to two daughters, a small life, although not rich, but, fortunately, her husband also works hard, goes to work every day, and earns some money.
gave birth to two daughters, and the in-laws did not have the idea of preferring sons over daughters, but the husband still took care of the family very much, taking care of the daughters and taking on the responsibilities of the whole family.
But what about this girl, after giving birth to two children, because she had to pick up and drop off her children to school, she didn't go out to work, so what was she doing at other times except for picking up and dropping off her children to school?
That is, shuttling and playing mahjong in various places in the countryside, her husband only gives her a fixed living allowance every month, and the chips she plays mahjong are not small, so there is often a lack of money. Because playing mahjong is not a daily income to enter, but to win by your luck, the ratio of winning and losing is 50% each.
Sometimes she can lose that month's living expenses in a few days, what if there is no money, she is happy to borrow from others, 300500 such to borrow, borrow and then continue to entertain.
I heard that everyone who added WeChat to her was borrowed by her, and most of the people who borrowed her three or five hundred would not ask her to pay it back, so most of them didn't pay it back in the end.
In the end, she owes money to many people in the village. And she borrowed it from her husband, who didn't know it, and didn't know that she owed so much money outside.
She doesn't care about day and night, she has to go out, she doesn't take care of her children, she doesn't take care of her family, she has to go out for entertainment by herself. The man can't control her whereabouts, so he can only take care of the children at home. After so many years of marriage, I haven't saved any money, and I want to build a new house, and I don't have any extra money in my hand.
And this girl has now fallen into a very bad reputation, which has spread in the village, and everyone knows that she borrows money everywhere, and she is the one who does not repay the money, even if you go to ask for the money you lend out, she may shirk it in various names, but the person who lent her money is very angry, because the money lent out has not been repaid. No one dared to trust her anymore, nor did they dare to lend her any more money.
A girl under 30 may only be like this in this life, because she is constantly playful, and there is no savings at home, and the man's hard-earned money is basically spent. It is said that women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, but marrying a woman is also very important, and a good woman can prosper for three generations.
To sum up, there are several reasons why there are girls who will cause such a result.
1.greedy for pleasure and unwilling to endure the hardships of life.
In her 20s, she has completed the task of giving birth to a baby, and even after giving birth to two children, she is still very young. The child has also gone to school and has a lot of free time, but she is unwilling to work and endure hardships.
While having fun at home, she doesn't need to look at the boss's eyes, she doesn't need to go through the pain of work, because she doesn't have a strong sense of responsibility, and she doesn't have a beautiful vision to make her family better, so she chooses laziness.
2.The family responsibility is not strong, and they do not know how to cherish the fruits of other people's labor.
It is said that girls looking for the other half, need to find a sense of responsibility, in fact, looking for a girl is the same, if there is no sense of responsibility for the family, there is no strong force to drive her, for a better family to work hard and struggle.
If you only covet pleasure and do not work hard, your family will not be able to make your family happier. As for the fruits of men's labor, they don't know how to cherish them, and they work hard for the family every day, and the money they earn is squandered at will.
3.There is no family planning, and the financial situation is not ideal.
The family's financial situation is in crisis, and there is a situation where it is unable to make ends meet, and how much can it do. If a family earns 5,000 yuan and spends 6,000 yuan, then the financial situation will never improve, and no matter how much money it makes, it will be spent.
Savings are never compulsory, and it is dangerous for a family to have a financial crisis as soon as something unexpected happens. I hope that everyone can avoid these situations, let the family enter a positive cycle, and strive to do a good job of family planning.