I like this sentence very much: "Get through it, shine; I can't get through it, I'm out. ”
Everyone wants to be good, and they don't want to be out. Life is for struggle, not for self-indulgence.
A person who survives the darkest time will usher in the dawn of dawn and hear applause. It's like a dancer, ten years of work off the stage, three minutes on stage.
Master Hongyi said: "Tolerance is the first way to treat others, and freedom is the first way to nourish the heart." ”On the road of life, there will be many unknown difficulties, and there are always some fogs that cannot be uncovered. When you can't stay up, you might as well calm down, think seriously about life, see the facts clearly, and you can't go all the way to the dark.
To be a man, you should relax and don't overdo it. What can get you out of this situation is the power of perseverance and the wisdom of flexibility.
Therefore, really smart people, when they can't stand it, will say "forget it".
"Forget it" is to accept the reality and stop the loss in time.
Hemingway wrote this story in "The Old Man and the Sea": an old fisherman named Santiago still went out to sea to fish in his last years.
For a while, he went to sea continuously, but returned empty-handed, and he couldn't even support himself.
He was stubborn, and after more than eighty days, he finally caught a big marlin. But the marlin was so big that it struggled so hard that the fishing boat couldn't hold it.
Finally, the marlin was killed, and the surrounding sharks came over and snatched the fish.
As a result, Santiago dragged a pair of fishbones and went ashore exhausted.
Most of the people were touched by the old fisherman's actions, cheered for him, and hoped that he would continue to cheer. But we also have to see the fact that:The fisherman is very old, there is a risk in going to sea, he is unable to fish, and he needs firewood, rice, oil and salt for his life.
There are many ways to make a living, and if the road is impassable, the future is unknown, and the direction is wrong, stopping is moving forward.In real life, when we force our children to learn the piano, have you ever thought that the children hate the piano very much, but they are a little interested in painting, or like basketball.
When we went to work in the South, none of the jobs were satisfying. On the other hand, there are peers who cultivate orchards in their hometown and earn a lot of money, and you are very envious and look forward to such a life.
There are many people who look forward to climbing Mount Everest, but few are able to climb it. Therefore, we are in the Everest base camp, and we are satisfied with a look; If there are no funds and vehicles, we will be happy to see the picture of Mount Everest.
The ancients said: "The mountains look up, and the scenery stops." Although I can't get there, I yearn for it. ”There are many wishes that we can only yearn for, and if we are destined not to reach them, it doesn't matter, we still yearn for them. If you have a mountain in your heart, you will reach the "peak" of life. To be a man, you must be brave, but also dare not dare. Finding a balance in many aspects and saying "forget it" means that you have worked hard enough, but fate has not favored you.
"Forget it" is a kind of wisdom to turn around and learn to start again.
There is a swimmer Fu Yuanhui, in August 2016, she was in the Rio Olympics, attracting much attention. She said: "I am satisfied, I have already used the power of the wilderness. ”
Later, in people's expectations, she also had times when she didn't perform well. But instead of justifying herself, she said:"I trained really hard and tried my best to do everything and if it didn't work, I just had to accept it. ”
Also, singer Andy Lau stopped at the Hong Kong concert in December 2018 because of throat inflammation and after singing a few songs. He apologized with tears.
Life has its ups and downs, and how can you be 100% self-controlled? There are always some unforeseen factors that interfere with you. Turn around or give up.
Saying "forget it" is not to give up on yourself completely, but to adjust your state and not be disturbed by everything in the moment.
The philosopher Zhuangzi said: "The times are the Son of Heaven, not necessarily expensive; Poor is a husband, not necessarily cheap. The distinction between the noble and the low lies in the beauty and evil of deeds. ”Who can say that the Son of Heaven will succeed and the puppet will fail? Wealth and poverty are not measured by material things, but by a person's heart.
When you're in a happy mood and let go of the endless chase, you're truly free. Saying "forget it" today does not mean that it will not start tomorrow, and the day after tomorrow will be decadent.
If the reality cannot be changed, the end is in sight, and no one can go back to yesterday's time, then let's live today well and design tomorrow.
At the end of the mountain and water, there are still passers-by", turning the corner, itself is a landscape.
"Forget it", it is really relieved, and travel lightly in the future.
There is a poem: "Money is precious, love is more valuable, if it is for freedom, both can be thrown away." ”
There is nothing in life that you can't let go, it's just your own opinion.
Be a man, really don't be too stubborn, you say "forget it", it is to give the mood a vacation, so that you can have a period of time alone. If you are a poet, you can also have the feeling of "stealing half a day of leisure".
A person's life needs a lot of things to be happy. But at the end of the day, it's two things – money, feelings.
However, if you pursue money and love too much, you will lose yourself. If you think like that, you can be free.
Reality tells us that as long as we slowly change and shine slowly, we will not worry about being loved by no one and not afraid of not making money.
Most of the mistakes in life are because of "being in a hurry". If you want to avoid mistakes, the first thing is to slow down and breathe a sigh of relief.
Su Dongpo, a writer in the Northern Song Dynasty, felt very relaxed when he ate wild vegetables with his friends after being demoted; Farm with your lover. Because of the low point of life, he said a few popular poems - the taste of the world is pure joy; This place of peace is my hometown; Eat 300 lychees a day, and make a Lingnan person.
In the most difficult days, there can still be elegance, this is the real relief. If there is no such process, I feel that there is something missing in my life.
Saying "forget it" means that the past is over, and life has left regrets and scars. When you are old, you will understand that everyone is imperfect in life; Regret is another kind of beauty.
If it backfires, then make another arrangement.
When God closes one window for you, it opens another. The key is that you take the initiative to move to the "other window".
To say "forget it" is to admit cowardice, but not to admit fate. When you can't stand it, you cry, retreat, and turn back, you are an angel with broken wings.
Hope, like the road on the earth, has no road on earth, but when many people walk, it becomes a road.
Giving up is a way out, don't underestimate it.