Wen Xue'er.
Mr. Yang Jiang once said:
Everyone's marriage is wronged, and everyone's marriage is a piece of chicken feathers, but since you have stepped in, you should consider how to manage this relationship well, instead of thinking about how to escape from the marriage when you are wronged, turn around, and go to the end of the world. ”
For the most common words of blessing for marriage, "a hundred years of good harmony" and "eternal union of one heart", but blessing is blessing, there is always pain, troubles, ups and downs, and contradictions in the truth of marriage.
1.A lot of pain in marriage comes from imaginary romantic love.
Everyone has imagined romantic love, but marriage is not romantic, marriage requires two people to constantly run in tea, rice, oil and salt.
Most people have no romance in their marriage, only a plain life.
My husband and I met on a blind date, and when we were in love, he also knew that Valentine's Day to buy a gift to make you happy, and after marriage, there was only one sentence "The money is all in you, what you want, you can buy it!" ”
I've seen a lot of sisters' comments before, all of them complaining that their husbands in their lives are not romantic, they don't have anniversaries, Valentine's Day, and no flowers, at most they have a good meal together on that day.
Some people will also suffer because of this, feeling that their marriage is different from what they imagined, and that their husbands don't love them anymore.
In fact, if you think about it, you will know that the essence of marriage is like what Bavary Nix said: "Marriage is a book, the first chapter is written in psalms, and the rest is plain prose." ”
I think this is the kind of married life that most people have, and that's bland.
2.99% of the troubles in marriage come from lack of money.
As the saying goes: "Poor couples mourn everything", and now it is difficult to move an inch without money. Most of the troubles in married life also stem from lack of money.
My sister and brother-in-law just got married, and the two families took out a sum of money to do business, but it happened to be just in time for three years of the epidemic. The business has lost money, and foreign debts are owed.
My sister's parents-in-law are anxious to hold their grandson, and they are always urging them to have children, and every time they talk about it, they are very annoyed. If nothing else, just because there are foreign debts to be repaid, raising children requires financial permission.
After marriage, most young people have to pay off their mortgage, car loan, and raise children, and all the pressure is also due to financial pressure.
Although they all say "nothing, don't have no money", but in marriage, no love is more terrible than no money, no money can be earned by the two of them together, without love, the marriage is over.
So, don't forget that there is still love for the sake of money. Love is the driving force for progress and the cornerstone of marriage.
3.Always be independent.
Women should not give up their jobs for the sake of "I will support you".
Luo Yingzi, played by Reyiza in the TV series "Fearless", gave up her job for her lover, but her husband betrayed her after a successful career, leaving her burdened with foreign debts and the calculations of her parents-in-law.
In desperation, he chose to return to the workplace as a novice Xiaobai, and regained his life through hard work.
Kazuo Inamori once said, "A woman will never lose on her own." Lead the way by nobles, walk by yourself, grow by experience, and cross others before yourself. ”
Yes, women stay independent and rely on themselves, in any case, they will have confidence, they are their own backing, and it is always risky to rely on others.
No matter how passionate and romantic love is, when it turns into marriage, it will slowly become a dull and ordinary day.
Marriage requires the joint efforts of two people, not the contribution of one person. Money is important, but the person you love is even more important.
In marriage, women should be sober in the world, maintain independence, and be the best version of themselves, which is also the confidence in marriage.
Marriage is like a beautiful journey, and I hope you and I can have a picturesque journey.