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I think I woke up too late, and I had children and daughters at the age of thirty. I've long been devastated by my poor parents, and my energy has long been drained. The body and soul are not in the same place, the body is getting worse and worse, and the temper is getting worse and worse.
I'm worse than Wu Qili, my parents have been quarreling for 30 years and won't divorce. Not a single day has been stopped in thirty years. It will affect me too much, it will affect my children, and I will become more and more like them.
Such people are not worthy of parenthood. Vicious, lazy, pessimistic, sloppy, slamming, selfish, apathetic. I'm worried that raising my daughter badly will be worse than Jackie Chan's illegitimate daughter. Lack of love, serious lack of love, I don't know what to do. I got married and had two children in a daze, and I had no ability to survive independently.
Every day, I say that my family is poor, and it is not easy to earn a dime, and no one is poorer than our family, how desolate it is to raise children. It is also patriarchal. Stingy. Don't give money, don't give love.
How the beasts were raised, how big I am, the dogs in the village are better than me, and I don't have a sense of family affection.
The author replied: Your anger is very heavy, this is not a good thing, I have no right to persuade you to be good, but the more angry you are, the greater the impact on your children, all negative effects.
Since you know that your parents are acting badly, you should take this as a warning.
Don't compare Wu Qili with her daughter, she was a daughter born unmarried, and she was a junior for Jackie Chan back then. Jackie Chan said lightly, "I just made a mistake that all men in the world will make" and revealed it.
Your situation is completely different, your tragedy is caused by your parents, it is the problem of the family of origin.
The more miserable you compare yourself to others, the more miserable you feel, the more you will fall into this vicious circle and not be able to get out, and then suffer for a lifetime, this is not the end, you will continue to harm your children after you have harmed yourself.
When you say, "You will have an impact on your children, you will become more and more like them", but you are already them, and you may have already made an impact on your children.
I took a look at your circle of friends, and life is not bad, and the child is very healthy and cute.
If you don't live the present life seriously, and you are crazy about the past and can't extricate yourself, which can only say that you haven't let go of yourself, and it has little to do with your original family.
Whether your parents are divorced or not is none of your business, they are adults, you are an adult, and everyone has the right to make decisions that are closely related to their own lives, and to bear the consequences accordingly.
Even if they quarrel and fight, you don't need to dwell on it, because you don't love them at all. You just hate them for not loving you and not giving you a warm childhood.
In your suffering, in addition to the factors of the original family, the rest of the responsibility is on yourself, whether you get married or have children, it is your choice, no one can force you to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a certificate, you are voluntary, no one can bear these consequences for you.
The more things you complain about, the worse the person becomes, complain less and more, and think less of yourself as Xianglin's sister-in-law.
The current life is not bad, you also have a small business yourself, treat your children well, forget the past, interact less with your parents, and pick up their ** less.
I can't give you an accurate ** time, I can only give you a reference, if you start to face life positively now, see more positive and optimistic side of life, earn more money, and make your children healthy and happy, your psychological state will be much better.
But don't be a chicken baby, don't force your child to get high scores, the best gift parents give to their children is to let them grow up healthy and happy, and have a happy childhood, not to be admitted to some bullshit university.
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