In the middle of a lively dinner, a joke may hide an invisible sword that kills people.
In the face of that seemingly sweet praise, how to see through the trap and fight back wisely, not only to protect yourself, but also to maintain your feelings? Today, we will unveil the most hidden tactics in interpersonal communication, and how to deal with them calmly in daily life, laugh at each other, and move forward leisurely.
Aunt Zhao, a community activist, was confronted with a clever killing situation at a neighborhood gathering.
When she stepped into the box, someone in the crowd joked: "Aunt Zhao, you are so magnificent, it seems that you came to settle the bill for us, right?" However, Aunt Zhao knew that there was another host for this dinner, and this seemingly complimentary joke was actually trying to push her into a situation that she could not refuse.
With her rich life experience and keen insight, Aunt Zhao decided to treat others in her own way and staged a wise counterattack.
Aunt Zhao quietly took over the topic and said with a smile: "Oh, everyone misunderstood, I didn't come here to settle the bill, but to apologize for being late, and by the way, feel the harmonious atmosphere of our community."
I heard that Brother Li made Dong today, so we have to taste it well and live up to his good intentions.
She skillfully returned the focus to the original host, Brother Li, which not only alleviated her embarrassing situation, but also did not let the killer succeed.
In the midst of laughter, Aunt Zhao further analyzed the essence of killing, and told a real case of a mother using "killing" to deal with her stepson in a TV series, so that everyone had a deeper understanding of killing.
She then recounted how a real child around her lost himself under the pressure of excessive praise, which struck a deep chord with people at the dinner table.
Aunt Zhao's words are like a mirror, reflecting the dilemma that everyone here has experienced or is facing.
Aunt Zhao admonished everyone earnestly: "We all crave recognition, but we also need to be wary of the hidden traps behind those excessive praises.
We need to build a solid sense of self-worth and not be dictated by what others say.
At the same time, we must maintain a sober understanding, see clearly the intentions of the murderers, and learn to affirm ourselves and firmly grasp the power to judge ourselves.
Her words were deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, making every middle-aged and elderly friend present think about it and understand a new way of thinking about dealing with the killing.
Inspired by Aunt Zhao, the atmosphere of the dinner changed from the initial killing crisis to a depth of self-awareness and interpersonal wisdom.
And Aunt Zhao told everyone with her personal experience that in the face of killing, we must not only have the courage to refuse, but also have the wisdom to resolve it, and more importantly, strengthen ourselves in every challenge, and become a strong and real individual who is not easy to be killed and manipulated.
This dinner is no longer a simple food exchange, but a vivid social practice lesson, teaching everyone how to deal with the killing wisely, win respect, and live freely in the complex interpersonal relationships.