After 10 years of marriage, my husband cheats frequently! Is it true that sexless marriages can't last? 》
I never imagined that my marriage would be in such a difficult situation. 10 years of marriage, 7 years of sexlessness, and my husband's frequent cheating, all of which made me feel extremely painful and helpless.
My name is Xiaoli and I am 35 years old. My husband and I met in college, and we got married shortly after graduation. At that time, our relationship was very good, and there were endless words and things to do every day. Our sex life is also very harmonious, and every day is very fulfilling and happy.
Husband works hard! I got my wish and became a little family woman!
However, the good days didn't last long. After three years of marriage, the sweetness and harmony between husband and wife began to fade. Since the birth of my child, I seem to have lost my enthusiasm for married life. Those former passions and expectations are gradually worn out in the trivialities of day after day.
When night falls, my husband's expectant eyes turn to me, hoping that we can relive the passion of the past. But I always shirk or barely cope with it for various reasons. At first, he could understand my exhaustion and toil, but as time went on, dissatisfaction and disappointment gradually built up in his eyes. He started to lash out at my little perfunctory, and our arguments became commonplace.
Gradually, he stopped losing his temper and stopped making those demands. Our lives seem to have returned to the original plainness, but underneath this calm, there is a deep estrangement. I began to wonder if he had lost interest in me, if our love had come to an end. Every time this thought comes to me, I feel an inexplicable panic and uneasiness. I don't know how to deal with all this, let alone how to regain the happiness we once had.
I tried to start a conversation with my husband in the hope that he would face up to the problems between us, but he always chose to avoid it, citing his busy work schedule and frequently staying up at night. The doubts in my heart grew like weeds, and I began to wonder if he had another woman outside. This suspicion drove me to follow him, only to discover a heartbreaking scene where he often met secretly with a strange woman, and even spent the night together. 
When I confronted him, he stopped hiding it and admitted his mistakes. He told me that he was already deeply in love with the woman and that they had even planned their future lives. It was as if I had fallen into the abyss, and my heart was filled with despair. I tried to keep him in every way, but I knew in my heart that he was far away from me, and the love that I once had was gone. In the midst of endless painful struggles, I finally chose to let go. We decided to divorce, however, he made a condition at this point that I couldn't accept - he wanted me to leave the children with him. He said, "The child follows me, and there are outsiders all around!" The child follows him, surrounded by relatives! I resolutely refused, I can't let my child grow up next to that woman! I'm afraid she'll hurt my child! I know that the end of this marriage not only means that I have lost a person I once loved, but also means that I must bravely face the challenges of the future, learn to protect myself, and never get hurt again. 
I left that home and started my own life. I started to re-examine my life, and I started to regain my confidence and courage. I knew that I could no longer rely on others, I had to be strong.
I started working hard and started living hard. I started making new friends, I started learning new things. I began to rediscover my joy and happiness. I know that my life will not end with a divorce and that I will live a better life.
Now, I've been divorced for three years. I have a new job, new friends, and a new life. I am no longer dependent on others, I am strong and confident. I know that sexless marriages don't last, but I believe that loving marriages will be happy. I will continue to find my happiness, I will continue to work hard, and I will continue to move forward. Because, I believe, one day, I will find the person who really belongs to me, and we will go through life together.
I don't know if a sexless marriage lasts! But I know a truth! Women must learn to be independent and strong!