Hello everyone, I am Lao Zhao, and I have worked in a large state-owned enterprise for more than 20 years"A veteran in the workplace"Finish. Today, I would like to share with you some of my insights in the workplace over the years, especially about the unspoken rules of getting along with colleagues.
In my opinion, mutual respect and understanding between colleagues is the basis of harmony in the workplace. However, there are some things that cannot be said casually, and if you are not careful, you may hurt others, damage the relationship between colleagues, and even affect your own career development.
The following 6 sentences are what everyone should avoid saying in front of colleagues"Minefield"：
1. "It's so easy that I can do it with my eyes closed! "
I remember when I first started working, I was always dismissive of the tasks assigned to me. Finally one day I complained in front of several colleagues:"It's so easy, I can do it with my eyes closed! "
As soon as I finished speaking, I noticed that the faces of my colleagues had become very ugly. It turns out that these"Simple"It took them days to get it done. When I say this, I am undoubtedly stepping on their heels and hurting their self-esteem.
Since then, I have understood: everyone has different abilities and understands and handles the same thing differently. I think simple things can be complicated in the eyes of others; Conversely, what others think is simple, I may have to rack my brains. Therefore, we must learn to respect other people's work, respect others' contributions, and not judge easily.
2."I felt that the boss's decision was wrong and that I had a better plan. "
There is a colleague in our department, Xiao Li, who always loves to critique the boss's decisions in front of others. He felt that his plan was better, and that his boss's decisions were all wrong.
However, Xiao Li didn't know that in front of others, the critique boss would only make people think that he was a person who didn't understand the rules and didn't know the general situation. Over time, everyone was reluctant to cooperate with him, and even the boss began to distance himself from him. In the end, Xiao Li became the first person to be fired in a layoff.
This incident has taught all of us a lesson: the boss's decision, no matter what we think in our hearts, in front of others, especially in front of subordinates, we must show support and cooperation. Otherwise, not only will we not achieve the effect we want, but it will make others feel that we are"A stab in the back"。
3."I have a good relationship with my boss, so I was the only one on this project. "
In the workplace, everyone wants to have a good relationship with their boss, but don't brag about how good your relationship with your boss is in front of your colleagues.
In the past, there was a colleague in our department, Xiao Wang, who always liked to say every time he assigned a new project"This project is unique to me because I have a good relationship with my boss, who trusts me the most. "
Over time, colleagues felt that Xiao Wang was a show-off and insincere person, and it was very unpleasant to cooperate. In addition, Xiao Wang's later projects were not very good, and everyone was even more convinced that he was bragging at the beginning. In the end, Xiao Wang not only did not get promoted, but was transferred to another department because of his poor popularity.
This incident tells us: in the workplace, we must rely on strength to speak, not rely on relationships to brag. Showing off your relationship with the leader will not only not make others admire, but will make people think that you are a villain who clings to power and does not do his job.
4."My performance this month is higher than all of you, and the leadership will definitely reuse me. "
A new colleague in our department, Xiao Zhang, is very ambitious, works hard every month, and his performance is very good. However, he especially likes to show off his achievements in front of others, and always hints that the leaders will reuse him and promote him.
Although Xiao Zhang's performance is indeed good, his high-profile show-off has aroused the disgust of other colleagues. Everyone thinks he is too conceited, and always compares others to others. In addition, for the sake of performance, he often robs other people's customers and resources, which makes everyone avoid him.
In the end, although the leader recognized Xiao Zhang's performance, considering his negative impact in the team, he did not promote him, but promoted a colleague with mediocre performance, but humility and strong teamwork ability.
This proves once again that in the workplace, performance is important, but interpersonal relationships and teamwork are equally important. Blindly pursuing personal performance and ignoring team harmony will only harm yourself in the end.
5."My previous company was much better than here, and the system here was so backward. "
There was once an executive in our company who jumped from a foreign company, and when he first arrived, he was not satisfied with many of our company's systems and processes, and always complained in front of his colleagues"My previous company was much better than here, and the system here was so backward. "
At first, everyone treated him like this"Well-informed"The attitude is still a little admired. However, after a long time, everyone felt that he was deliberately belittling our company and demanding us with the standards of foreign companies, which was inevitably a bit unrealistic.
In addition, some of the new systems he later implemented did not have the desired effect, but made everyone's work more difficult. Gradually, everyone's dissatisfaction with him grew, and finally, he had to leave his post in disgrace.
This incident tells us that every company has its own culture and characteristics, and we need to learn to adapt and fit in, rather than blindly critique and deny. Especially when we are in a management position, we should pay more attention to our words and deeds, and do not belittle the company in front of our subordinates, otherwise it will only damage our prestige and the cohesion of the company.
6."I'm different from you, I have a background, and sooner or later I'll be promoted. "
That's one of the things that impressed me the most. There was once a relative of a leader in our department, who always boasted his background in front of his colleagues with an arrogant face, saying that he would be promoted sooner or later.
At first, everyone was a little jealous of him, after all, he had a background. However, after a long time, everyone found that in addition to having a good background, his other work ability and performance are very average, even inferior to ordinary colleagues.
What disgusts everyone the most is that he never cherishes the respect that others have for him, but always looks high. Slowly, everyone began to distance themselves from him, and no one wanted to cooperate with him, even if he had a good background.
In the end, because he made a big mistake on an important project, the leader could no longer protect him, and he had to leave the company.
This incident is a wake-up call for us: in the workplace, background is important, but what is more important is your real talent. If you only rely on the background to eat and do not pay attention to improving your own abilities, you will be eliminated sooner or later. Moreover, no matter how good a person's background is, if he does not know how to respect others and does not know how to be humble, he will not end up well.
These are some of my insights in the workplace over the years. To sum up, it is actually six words: modesty, respect, and tolerance. No matter how high our position is and how strong our ability is, we must learn to be humble, learn to respect the work and dedication of others, and learn to tolerate the shortcomings and differences of others. Only in this way can we win the respect and support of our colleagues and go further in the workplace.
Of course, these principles are easy to say, but not easy to do. I myself have made similar mistakes, and I have also offended my colleagues because of a sentence that affected my work. However, it is through these lessons that I have slowly learned how to better handle the relationship between colleagues and how to better survive and thrive in the workplace.
I believe that as long as we always maintain humility and awe, and always pay attention to our words and deeds, we will be able to deduce our own wonderful life on the big stage of the workplace.
Finally, I would like to say to all newcomers in the workplace: the road to the workplace is long and tortuous, and opportunities and challenges coexist. We need to learn to draw wisdom from the experiences and lessons of others, to learn to find a balance between cooperation and competition, and to maintain optimism and hope in the face of setbacks and adversities.
As long as we always adhere to our professional ethics and always treat others with a modest, respectful and tolerant attitude, we will definitely be able to go further and more steadily on this road.
I wish you all smooth sailing in the workplace and realize your life values and ideals as soon as possible! Thank you!
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