As the saying goes: "Tiger poison does not eat children, and children do not think of ugly mothers." ”Children and parents should be close to each other, but there are always some people who, when they grow up, have stiff wings, and begin to dislike their parents.
In the early years, I worked in a factory in Dongguan, working overtime until after 10 o'clock at night every day, and I didn't have any rest on weekends.
Every day, when I lay my body sideways on the bed, I thought: Why didn't my parents force me to go to college in the first place? Why didn't they leave some money behind to support me in starting my business?
There is a way that the pattern of parents and the end of children are the end.
Parents who can be far-sighted will definitely let their children take the road of "studying hard". However, my mother often said, "Go to work early, there are several young people in the village who have made a fortune by working." ”
When I graduated from junior high school, my mother asked me to go to secondary school and refused to send me to high school. My mother said that after finishing secondary school, I could go to work and go to high school, which was too much of a waste of time.
I know that she is afraid that I will read too much and spend too much money.
Over the years, people from the village have been moving into the city one after another. But his parents insisted on staying in the ravine. My father said that they are all old and live in **, and they are all the same.
After his father passed away, his mother was alone in the countryside and lived very lonely, but she had the idea of going to the city. As a last resort, I let my mother live in my own home.
I thought that my mother would be satisfied, but she always picked and choose, thinking that the house was not ventilated enough, there were no playmates in the community, and her daughter did not pay alimony.
I remembered the saying: "Parents are also first-time parents, please forgive me." ”
Even though my parents were wrong, I still chose to tolerate it. Now, I live in the dormitory for a long time, keeping a distance from my mother, no matter how many grievances there are, out of sight is pure, and my ears are quiet.
After all, the love of breaking the blood of bones and tendons can never be parted. Only understanding can do it.
If a person wants to resent his parents, there are always a thousand reasons.
My third uncle has two sons and one daughter.
It stands to reason that in his old age, he should be able to enjoy family fun. However, he was not accepted by any of his children. Especially his eldest son, Ah Mao, can not see his parents for three or four consecutive years, and will not give a penny of alimony.
Once, I was chatting with Ah Mao.
He said that when his parents distributed the family wealth,Give him the old house and give all the savings to the younger son. How much is an adobe house in a ravine worth? The orchard behind the house was given to his daughter, and a piece of wasteland was left to him, isn't this an elbow turned outward?
What is puzzling is that last summer, the eldest uncle fell and spent more than two months in the hospital, and Ah Mao did not visit. Ah Mao's wife wanted to go and see it, but she was also pulled by Ah Mao.
During the Chinese New Year, the eldest aunt mailed a lot of souvenirs to Ah Mao. I thought I would take the opportunity to ease the relationship between my family. After Ah Mao received the things, he said a word in the group of relatives"Don't think that if someone picks the leftovers, you can send me away." ”
It is estimated that when the eldest aunt sees this sentence, tears will flow out.
There is a very vulgar saying in my hometown: "It is better to raise pigs than to raise children if you are not filial." ”Of course, using Ah Mao's family affairs to set off the truth of "filial piety" does not mean how noble I am, but it just reflects that some "children" are contaminated with some bad habits in society, and they do not know how to deal with family conflicts and remove the grievances in their hearts.
Mencius said: "Believe in the way of friends, say things to Buddha, and believe in friends." ”How can people who can't even tolerate their parents tolerate relatives and friends? Through comparison, we will find that people with poor character will treat their parents with the following three attitudes, and they are not worthy of association. First, I am lazy and lazy, thinking about my parents' property every day.
It is better to rely on yourself than on anyone. No matter how much your parents leave you, if you don't work, you will definitely sit and eat.
It doesn't matter who your parents prefer or who they give their property to, you don't care about anything. After all, parents can't do "two bowls of water evenly".
A person with poor character, he has been thinking in his heart - this is an era of fighting for his father, if he has no talent, his father must be bad.
Look at other people's parents, buy houses and cars for their children, and leave companies.
Because he likes to compare, the five-flavor bottle in his heart will always be sour, even if his parents give him his life, he will not be satisfied. After all, parents are not the richest people in the world.
Second, they look down on their parents and don't understand their difficulties.
As the old saying goes, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." ”As a child, you yourself are not good enough, why should your parents be particularly good?
In this society, some people are officials, some people do business, and some people farm. There are also hierarchical differences between parents. Perhaps, your parents are migrant workers and cleaners.
A person with poor character, when he encounters low-level parents, he will think that he has "reincarnated in the wrong child". When I socialize with anyone, I don't dare to talk about my parents. Or desperately brag about how good their parents are.
I read a little story: A girl who loves vanity, when she comes home with her classmates after school, meets her mother who is a cleaner on the way. She quickly dodged. The mother shouted her name, and she turned around and scolded - you recognized the wrong person, what are you shouting?
How hard it is for parents, we need to understand. And people with poor character pinch their parents' difficulties and make them miserable.
Third, repay virtue with resentment and ignore the nurturing grace of parents.
There should be a lot of people who have turned against their parents.
At a certain moment, people with poor character will desperately magnify family conflicts and erase all the credit of their parents. He doesn't support his parents, and he can still say it with confidence"I don't owe them anything. ”
He forgot what he ate and grew up, only remembered that his parents had beaten him, that he had eccentric behavior, etc.
Conclusion. Any kind of relationship needs to go both ways.
In the "Three Character Classic", it is written: "If you don't teach, your father's fault." ”Children are of very poor character, and parents are responsible.
Good parents will encourage their children to study hard, and when they grow up, they will have the ability to support their families; will teach children to be polite and inherit positive energy; The attitude towards children will be very correct, and there will be no unhealthy trends such as preference for sons over daughters and preference for men in the family.
Good sons and daughters will empathize and understand their parents. Those very ordinary parents, who can raise their children, have used their might, as for education, buying a house, and starting a company, don't be delusional. Parents really aren't omnipotent.
The ancients said: "The house of goodness will have afterglow, and the house of bad will have aftermath." ”Kind people, no matter how bad their parents are, can be grateful, which is also the proper meaning of being a human being.