In this era of interpersonal and emotional intelligence, the term "emotional intelligence" seems to have become a yardstick to measure a person's social skills. However, how to describe the feeling when the scale of this scale is skewed to the "low" end and is labeled as "low emotional intelligence"? Is it shame, anger, or confusion and confusion?
1. The sudden label of "low emotional intelligence".
Imagine you're at a party with your friends, trying to fit in with your words and demeanor, and suddenly you hear someone say, "He has really low emotional intelligence and doesn't know how to answer." At that moment, you felt as if you had been struck by lightning, and your heart was full of indescribable complex emotions. You may be asking yourself, "Am I really low in emotional intelligence?" ”
Case: Xiao Zhao is an introvert and is not good at expressing himself in the crowd. At a company team-building event, he tried to participate in a conversation with his colleagues, but was embarrassed because he didn't know how to insert a topic. A colleague privately discussed: "Xiao Zhao's emotional intelligence is really low, and he always can't find the right time to speak." After Xiao Zhao heard this, he had mixed feelings in his heart.
2. Self-doubt and struggle under the label
After being judged as having "low emotional intelligence", you may start to doubt yourself. You reflect on your words and actions and try to figure out what is wrong. But in the process, you may also fall into a spiral of self-denial and feel like you're worthless.
Case: Xiaoli is a straight person, and she likes to be straight when she talks and does things. As a result, she often offends people unintentionally. Once, a friend angrily said to her, "Can you be a little more emotionally intelligent?" Xiaoli felt very aggrieved and confused after hearing this. She began to wonder if she really couldn't get along with people, and even developed an inferiority complex.
3. Seek the strength to grow from frustration
However, the label of "low emotional intelligence" is not a stigma that cannot be removed. It can be a reminder that you are aware of your shortcomings in interpersonal interactions and motivate you to change and grow.
Case: Xiao Wang lost an important job opportunity because of his low emotional intelligence. He learned from the pain and decided to improve his emotional intelligence. He has read a lot of books on interpersonal communication and psychology and has also attended relevant training courses. Through study and practice, Xiao Wang gradually mastered the skills and art of communicating with others. In the end, he not only achieved outstanding results in his work, but also gained a wide range of contacts and friendships.
Fourth, the improvement of emotional intelligence is a self-redemption
Improving emotional intelligence doesn't happen overnight. It requires you to observe, learn, and practice. When you begin to pay attention to the emotional needs of others, learn to listen and express your own ideas, you will find yourself more comfortable in relationships.
Case: Xiaofang used to be troubled by her low emotional intelligence. Later, she decided to start by changing her attitude and behavior. She has learned to listen to the opinions and suggestions of others and to be open and respectful when communicating with people. She also took the initiative to seek feedback so that she could adjust her words and actions in a timely manner. After a period of hard work, Xiaofang found herself becoming more confident and popular in interpersonal interactions.
5. Conclusion: Emotional intelligence is not the end, but the starting point
It's not terrible to be judged as having "low emotional intelligence". It's scary to give up the opportunity to grow and change because of this. Emotional intelligence is not the only measure of a person's worth, but it is indeed one of the important abilities for us to survive and thrive in this complex and changing society. Let's start from the label of "low emotional intelligence" and embark on a journey of self-redemption and growth!