It is often said that marriage is a lifelong event, so you should carefully consider who you are marrying before getting married, otherwise, you will not be happy in your life.
In contemporary society, women can hold up half the sky. A woman in marriage is no longer confined to the ideological level of her husband and children, but pays more attention to the consistency of the three views, spiritual resonance and common growth.
Survey data also shows that women who are dissatisfied with their marital status and take the initiative to file for divorce account for the majority.
So, do those divorced women regret it, and how are they doing now? 3 divorced women told the truth
Ms. Zhou, 27 years old, has been divorced for 2 years
I'm 27 years old, but I've been divorced for two years. I work as a real estate consultant in a real estate company, he I met at work, he has a good image, we also have a chat, and we got married in less than a year.
After getting married, due to practical reasons, he could only live with his parents. Many problems were also exposed at this time, which not only made me realize the strength of my mother-in-law, but also made me see this man clearly"True face"。
Due to the nature of my work, I leave work late every day and occasionally socialize outside. I was already very tired, and when I went home, I had to face the nagging of my mother-in-law. After a long time, she simply asked me to change my job, saying that a woman who comes home so late every day is laughed at, and it is not easy to take care of the children in the future. I didn't agree, so she showed me the face of it three times and twice, and instructed her son to persuade me.
What makes me most desperate is his attitude. Every time there is a conflict between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he will only have two ways, or, persuade me not to be as knowledgeable as his mother, endure it if I can, and endure the past peacefully; Or, just ignore it, and feel that the trivial matter between two women will naturally be fine in a few days.
This incident was just the fuse, and I realized that I was not married to a husband, but a person who had not grown up and had no opinions"Mom Baby"。So the long pain is better than the short pain, and I filed for divorce, ending my married life of less than two years.
Now that I'm single again, I'm free and independent, and I probably won't be married again for a few years.
Ms. Xia, 33 years old, has been divorced for 1 year
He cheated on me during my pregnancy, but I only found out last year.
We met on a blind date, and when we got married, I was twenty-nine and he was thirty. A year later, I was pregnant, and when I was immersed in the joy of being a mother, he still couldn't hold back and stole behind my back. I've heard people say before that men are most likely to cheat on women when they're pregnant, but I didn't expect it to happen to me so soon.
When the child was born, I spent all my thoughts on the child, and I didn't notice anything unusual about the man around me. Now that I think about it, I was so stupid. During that time, the financial pressure fell almost entirely on him alone, he often worked late because of his busy work, and the frequency of business trips also increased, I was considerate of him and tried not to disturb him.
Two years later, when I saw his chat history with other women, I was completely stunned, and the person next to my pillow became another woman's bed partner. He cried bitterly, knelt down and begged me, saying that he would cut off contact with her, saying that even for the sake of the child.
But I still couldn't get past myself, and the thought of him sleeping with other women made my heart tumble in disgust and uncomfortable. I categorically can't live with him for the rest of my life.
Last year, I left the scumbag with my daughter. My mother takes care of the children for me, and he pays child support regularly. Being a single mother is hard, but I don't regret my decision. Now, I just want to work hard to earn money and give my daughter a better future.
Ms. Cai, 45 years old, has been divorced for 7 years
The last marriage was a long time ago. There was no major contradiction between me and him, and nothing happened that touched the bottom line, but in the end, I was tired and couldn't move.
I was an insecure person, and after the birth of my child, I quit my job and became a stay-at-home wife. He is a mid-level member of the company, highly motivated, and often busy with work. I grew up almost alone, and I was the only witness to the child's illness and hospitalization, parent-teacher conferences, and even from the beginning of talking to crawling and walking. Sometimes I wonder, what's the use of having such a person? What is the difference between a child and not having a father?
Later, when the child was older, he seemed to be busier, and there were fewer words between us, but more quarrels. There is a small quarrel for three days, a big quarrel for two days, and sometimes in order to avoid a quarrel, we can even go without talking for several days. When a person is quiet, when he looks up, it is like seeing the end of his marriage. I saw in the news that many parents have endured even the worst marriage for the sake of their children's growth. But is a bad relationship really good for a child's development?
The divorce was proposed by me after careful consideration, he was not surprised, we did not quarrel, and calmly received the certificate. Now I have been remarried for four years. There is no regret or reluctance about the last marriage, and we are still like relatives because we have children in common. Let each other go, bless each other, I think, this is also the best choice for us and for our children.
Emotional Message:
Not every marriage is perfect, and not every divorced woman is unhappy.
The bond of marriage is not children, not money, but when you are most helpless and weak, someone lifts your chin, straightens your back, makes you strong, and accompanies you to bear your destiny together. Marriage is not a formality, and you can't compromise yourself in order to show others; Marriage is also not a shackle, don't imprison yourself for the sake of the wrong people.
A good marriage is the icing on the cake. May you still be able to live your life as you wish in marriage.
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