As the saying goes, "Life is in motion." ”
In the square, many old people are dancing; In the park, there are people running; In the ravine, there are people walking; On the highway, someone is riding; In the gym, someone is clocking in.
Gong Tingxian, a medical scientist in the Ming Dynasty, wrote in "Shoushi Baoyuan"."Things come to conform, things are peaceful, and you can prolong your life." ”
In fact, it is not enough to have exercise for health preservation, we also need to pay attention to adjusting our mentality, so that the living environment becomes beautiful and the family atmosphere becomes warm.
In this life, whether you have money or not, you must live smoothly and don't add to yourself.
For young people, having to go into the workplace, deal with some tricky things, and deal with people they don't like. Therefore, life is very smooth and difficult to do.
For the elderly, life has opened a mode of freedom, and it is necessary to unload all the burdens and pressures, and use the following three ways to cultivate the body and mind.
First, the mouth: be merciful under the mouth, be reasonable and forgiving.
Feng Menglong, a writer in the Ming Dynasty, wrote such a small story: During the Song Dynasty, a talented man named Zhao Xu went to Beijing to take the exam, and all the articles were completed in one go.
Song Renzong asked the examiner: "Who are the talented people who write well?" Take a look. ”
The examiner recommended Zhao Xu's article. Song Renzong read it and asked again: "What's the matter, the word 'only' is written wrong, right?" It should be next to the 'mouth', not 'the 'sling'. ”
The examiner said"The two are universal. ”
After a while, Zhao Xu personally entered the palace and explained to Song Renzong"This word is generic. ”
Song Renzong was displeased in his heart, and with a stroke of his pen, he denied Zhao Xu's literary brilliance.
The ancients said: "The difference between one word and fame lands." ”
Both the examiner and Zhao Xu made a mistake - arguing.
As the saying goes: "Reason is not high-pitched, but reason can also forgive." ”When you argue with someone, you already lose; When you try to explain, the reason becomes unclear and becomes confused.
Many truths can be flexible and "ambiguous". It doesn't have to be clear.
Arguing with people will only make you very unhappy. Learning to bow your head and admit your mistakes, even if you are not wrong, will make your relationships more harmonious.
A person, when he was young, suffered a lot of losses in his mouth, and when he reached old age, he should take care of his mouth。Say more "convincing" words and encourage others; It's okay to make suggestions, but it's not okay to make requests. A good word can shorten the distance between people and resolve contradictions, so why not?
Saying less and saying better is cultivation, which is the foundation of human warmth. Let's say that a neighbor puts a garbage bag at the door, and you smell the smell and feel uncomfortable, and you should blame a few words, but you should hold back and throw away the garbage by the way when you go out. Think about it, the neighbor is busy, but he is very idle, so he thinks he is doing the neighbor a favor and passing the time himself.
Second, the heart: there is a tiger in the heart, sniffing the rose.
The strongest thing in a person is the heart, otherwise, he will not be able to bear the burden of life strongly; The weakest thing is also the heart, otherwise it would not have been heartache.
The English poet Sigriff Sassoon said: "There is a tiger in the heart, and a rose is sniffed."
People's hearts are "two-sided", we must use both soft and hard, thick and fine.
Let's say if you meet a thief in the square, you can't fight him, but you can make a roar and make the thief stop. Because you have done a good deed, and you are comfortable and have a clear conscience.
Seeing a little girl walking in the square, trampling on flowers and plants, you can take her hand and walk to the clearing.
As the saying goes, "How good the heart is, how precious is the life." ”If you nourish your heart, you will nourish your life, and your life will become as calm as water.
I have seen such a story: an uncle and his daughter took a car to the hospital, and halfway through, there was a girl who got up and gave up her seat. The uncle said, "It's okay, I can do it." ”
The girl continued to give up her seat, worried that the uncle's body would not be able to bear it. The uncle sat down gently and said "thank you".
When I arrived at the hospital, my daughter said, "Dad, you have an injury to your waist and can't sit, what's wrong?" ”
Uncle said"You see, how enthusiastic a girl is, I can't always say no and destroy her perception of goodness. ”
An old man would rather suffer himself than fulfill the kindness of a girl, this heart is very attentive.When people are old, the key to maintaining health is to "nourish the heart" and be a kind-hearted person.
Third, eye: look at people's strengths and see their own shortcomings.
Zhou Guoping once said: "How a person treats people who hold different views is more reflective of his degree of civilization than what kind of views he holds." ”The two old men in the neighborhood went to the prairie a few days ago, and then went to the desert.
The old lady complained: "There was cow dung and horse manure everywhere, and it was not fun at all, and it almost stained my dress." In the desert, the sand and rocks are flying, and the eyes are foggy. ”
The old man was very happy and told his neighbors in the community: "In the grassland, the sky is very blue, and the cattle and sheep are very happy; In the desert, the sand flies up, it is a different experience, and it is worth visiting. ”
Two diametrically opposed statements make people confused.
Many old people, after retirement, like to pursue poetry and distant places, but they go on a trip and it is not pleasant. Along the way, the complaints were loud.
A famous person once said, "There is never a lack of beauty in life, but a lack of eyes to find it." ”When a person's eyes are full of scenery, the body and mind will be very happy, and everything they do, they will be positive. When you exercise, you will also have a lot of fun.
It's the same with the scenery, and it's the same with the people.
Children with very low wages are very hardworking; Children with high salaries are wise; Relatives in the countryside, living comfortably; Friends in big cities, life is very fulfilling; The neighbor's child has bad grades, but is polite; The doorman is serious, but responsible. No one is perfect, but you can see it from a beautiful perspective.
If there is friction between people, you will be relieved when you look at your shortcomings for the first time.
The capacity of the eyes is the pattern of life, don't let yourself become a "careful" person, self-deprecation is boring.
In the "Essentials of Cultivating", it is said: "The love of the elderly, the desire to be proud, not to be depressed, can be healthy." ”The elderly should move, not only in their hands, feet and body, but also in their eyes, mouth, and heart, and use the power of wisdom to keep themselves on the slopes.
Birth, old age, sickness and death are natural laws that cannot be changed, but wisdom is infinite and can be ever-changing.
The key is to find the focus of wisdom, and read more books to add wisdom.
The rest of his life is not long, his mouth can be forgiving, his heart is kind, his eyes are full of things, and he cultivates his spirit.
The fragrance of books nourishes the family style