"Tao Te Ching" has a saying: "The way of heaven is to win without fighting." ”Life is a process, fight for what? Knowing that it is difficult to retreat is not weakness, but to live in a different way.
If you look closely, you will find that those who do not fight tend to live better.
In ancient times, Emperor Yao went to inspect the frontier.
The frontier guards said, "Saint, please accept my blessings." Bless the saint with a long life; Bless the saints to be rich; Bless the saint with many sons. ”
Emperor Yao said, don't do it.
After a while, Emperor Yao continued: "There are too many children, which is frightening; If you have more money, you will also be troubled; Those who live a long life will be humiliated. These things can't cultivate virtue. ”
In any era, having more children is a burden on the family, and when the children grow up, they quarrel with each other over the family's property, and as parents, they are really afraid of such things happening. Especially for the high-ranking people, the children are fighting for the status of their parents, and they are in a lot of trouble.
Cao Pi during the Three Kingdoms period, in order to preserve his position, forced his brother Cao Zhi to write a poem within seven steps, otherwise he would be punished.
Who can bear to see fratricidal things?
If you have too much money to spend it, it becomes a burden. Children will be concerned about their parents' money, so they will become lazy. Outsiders will look at the rich and secretly calculate; Relatives and friends will quarrel over money.
Money, just enough, don't breed lust because of it.
A very old person, whose children have passed away, and who is still alive, can only rely on his grandchildren. However, the grandchildren cannot be as filial as their children, and they will inevitably complain.
People who are particularly old are also in pain because of long-term illness. Watching the children pass away, the white-haired people send the black-haired people, and it is not a taste in my heart.
Don't live for 10,000,000 years, just be able to age naturally.
Therefore, what Emperor Yao said is not unreasonable.
The people guarding the frontier were not at all satisfied with Emperor Yao's words. He said, "I thought you were a saint, but I didn't expect that you were just a gentleman." If you have more children, let them have their own jobs, make money on their own, and make a profit, what are you afraid of? If you have more money, you can give alms, so what's the trouble? A long-lived person lives like an idle cloud and a wild crane, and is at peace with what happens, so what insult is there? ”As the saying goes: "Listening to your words is better than reading a book for ten years." ”The confusion in Emperor Yao's heart was solved by an ordinary person. Actually, every day is very happy, but we are too calculating and selfish, so we lose it.
In this life, the more indisputable, the more blessed you are.
First, there is no dispute about the number of children, as long as the children are promising, one is ten.
To be a man, be ruthless to your children - it is better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish.As a parent, it's the same when you have children, don't think about how they will argue when they grow up.
Children all have jobs and are busy, how can they think about the things in their parents' hands every day. The key is that parents should guide them to learn something and find their direction in life.
Of course, don't be more "sons" than the people around you. The quantity is not as high as the quality.
Second, no matter how much money there is, as long as you learn to share, take it from the people, and use it for the people.
Be a man like water - water is good for all things without fighting.I have seen such a story: a businessman, because of business matters, is very painful. He went to consult a Zen master and hoped to get some advice.
The Zen master invited the merchant into the back room for tea.
I don't know if it's because the Zen master is dizzy, or if the light in the room is too dark. The teacup was full of water, and the Zen master kept pouring water. Tea overflowed, on the table, on the floor.
The merchant said, "It's full."
The Zen master said, oh, it's full.
In a word, let the businessman have an epiphany - from then on, he was willing to give kindness and benefit others, his business was getting better and better, and his reputation was better.
Giving up benefits to others seems to be losing, but in fact it is the final winner. Even if you really don't get the return of benefits, your heart will become rich and quiet, and you will never lose anything.
Third, do not fight against the day, live well, be at peace with what happens, and have a life and death.
Lao Tzu once said: "Herbivorous beasts are not easy to be served; Aquatic insects are not easy to water. ”Animals that eat grass do not lose their appetite because they change their meadows; Aquatic bugs don't lose their happiness just because they go to another pond.
Don't care about the small changes in the outside world. Everything in heaven and earth has a way to survive, how can it be cornered?
The world is too big to be without a place to stay. It's just that we're too picky.
People in small cities hope that they can gain a foothold in big cities; People with a lot of money want to become the richest man in the world and settle in the most beautiful places abroad.
**, is it the best for survival? Tell you, all over the world.When a person doesn't care about age and can adapt to any piece of land, it is truly good.
Don't fight for children, don't fight for money, don't fight for the environment, don't fight for time, do things according to the law, always be kind and charitable, and fate will naturally be rich.
Conclusion.
In the "Theory of Fortune", it is said: "The wood is beautiful in the forest, the wind will destroy it, and the line is higher than the people, and the people will not be it." ”When you fight with others, you are the "enemy" in everyone's eyes, and there is no way to be compatible in the future; When you are serious about money, no matter how much money you have in your pocket, you are still poor; When you complain that fate is unfair, your good mood is lost, and society will abandon you.
Life, in the best state, has no fixed pattern and does not require too much material.
When the spring water springs out, you drink it happily; When the spring dries up, you dig hard; When the wind rises, it spreads its wings and flies high; When there is no wind, the wings are fanned - with such an attitude of dealing with the world, everything is smooth.
The circle of life is not a battlefield, but a place of happiness.
The world is impermanent, and there is peace if there is no dispute.
How quiet the heart is, how deep the blessing is.