8.There is one singularity for misogynistic men, and that is motherhood.
Motherhood is both a reality and a cultural ideal, a special unity of the double sexual standard
As a result, there is a lot of mother-love in many cultures, and insults to mothers are often the most vicious curses.
In a patriarchal family, there will be unsuccessful sons, unhappy daughters, complaining mothers, daughters who blame themselves, daughters who are the best people, etc.
The mother's expectations for her daughter are twofold, wanting her to be as successful as her son and wanting her to be a successful woman
Either way, there is a hint of self-sacrifice in the mother's expectation of her daughter "don't be like me", and I am here today because of your implicit condemnation. Unlike sons, daughters want their mothers to achieve a life of regrets, which is a psychological debt that is difficult to escape.
9.Is the mother happy for her daughter?
Whether it's all for your own good or for yourself, a mother's love for her daughter is complicated.
A daughter cannot assimilate her mother to her as an object of love like a son, grief is the forgetting of the object of love, and it is forbidden for a daughter to fall in love with her mother, and she must be forgotten.
The mother is jealous of her daughter's brilliant life, but when she sees her daughter's gorgeous success, the mother is gloomy. The daughter has always been hateful, and she will secretly blame herself for hating her mother.
If the son's hatred of the father is a challenge to power and the "instinct" to seek a higher position in the male social group, the daughter's hatred of the mother is more complicated.
It is precisely because of the expectations of mothers and the predicament of being a woman (i.e., that daughters cannot eventually become fathers and integrate into the male group).The mother's self-sacrifice and the daughter's self-blame are difficult to resolve.
The reconciliation of a mother and daughter can only begin with telling each other that "I am not you".
So-calledIf you give birth to a man, you will congratulate each other, and if you give birth to a girl, you will kill her。Parents have actually begun to change, believing that their daughters will support them more than their daughters-in-law. The book says that in China and South Korea, there are still more parents who want to have boys, but now I think there has been a change in China.
10.Girls' schools are a part of Japanese culture, and they are also a blind spot for men to peep at women.
Girls in girls' schools are disgusted by the behavior of girls in co-educational schools in male society, and at the same time they do not have a "women's division". In addition to school scores, there are also female scores, which are actually not determined by themselves, but by being chosen by men.
In addition, there are scores that are accepted by women, and I think it is easy to understand this for anyone who knows a little bit about the relationship between female dormitories. Men's value system is more homogeneous, while women's evaluation system is more diverse.
11.TEPCO female employee incidentIt gave me a new perspective and understood the logic of a woman who wants to be a prostitute. (This can't be written in detail, otherwise it won't pass the review).
12.Can misogyny be surpassed
The author doesn't know, I don't know either, I think it's hard for anyone to put forward ideas that transcend the times, and it's difficult to foresee the scenes beyond the times, but fortunately I'm not a scholar, and it's not that the writer doesn't have the desire and motivation to ** the stubborn diseases of the times. Understanding misogyny is just to be able to see many phenomena in the world and live more transparently.