Find a balance in everything, be impartial.
As the old saying goes, "too much", too much and not enough is not good, the best state is the "half" in the middle.
For example, as the saying goes, "you have to eat one bite at a time", and you should do things one step at a time, without being in a hurry or impatient.
For example, spend money, don't be too picky and don't be too big, and master the degree;
Another example is work, which requires both enthusiasm and rest, and finding a balance.
Whether it is work or life, we must find a balance that suits us best.
Life is not black and white, but there are a lot of gray areas.
It's like the idiom "decent", neither off the rails nor too restrictive, which is the best of "half".
Sometimes, knowing too much can lead to unnecessary troubles;
And some things, choosing to be a little confused may actually make life easier.
It's like the old saying, "A wise man thinks a thousand times, and he will make a mistake; A fool thinks a thousand times, and he will get one. ”
Smart people think too much and may overlook some simple happiness; And those who seem to be unreasonable, occasionally because of confusion, can get unexpected gains.
There is an old man in our community, who usually looks very confused, and often forgets the east and the west.
However, it is this old man who is very popular. Because he never cares about small things, he forgets the next day what others inadvertently say, and never takes it to heart, so everyone is willing to get along with him, and they feel very easy to be with him.
Some people think about everything very clearly, but it is easy to contradict others.
In life, there are some things we need to understand, so that we can not be bullied by others and protect ourselves;
But at the same time, you also need to have a little confused wisdom and learn to let go of those unimportant things, so that you can live a happier life and live in harmony.
The French sculptor Rodin once said: "Life is not a lack of beauty, but a lack of eyes to find it." ”
Therefore, being a person is half clear and half confused, in fact, it is for us to face life with a peaceful heart and find our own happiness and joy.
Getting along with friends has to be a little bit calculating, and you have to be a little bit arrogant.
Don't worry about small things all day long, and don't take everything to heart, but you can't care about nothing, so that you can make real friends.
For example, if you lend money to a friend and he doesn't pay it back, you can remind him, but you don't need to urge each other every day, give each other some space. For example, if a friend may unintentionally offend you by speaking, you have to learn to be generous and not be too careful.
It's about knowing when to be serious and when to relax. Stick to principles in important things and be tolerant in small things.
For example, if you borrow something, you have to pay it back, but don't turn your face because you are a day or two late. Respect each other as friends, but don't hold grudges just because of an unintentional joke. Hanging out together, the AA system is basic, but the occasional treat is also the lubricant of friendship.
To make friends, you have to know how to be measured, neither too calculating nor too casual, so that the friendship can last for a long time.
We must know how to be proportionate, have a harmonious relationship with friends, and respect each other, but we can't be too careful, we may lose friends; Being too casual can also come across as disrespectful.
Making friends is to find that balance, not too much, and not too permissive.
This kind of friendship will be more stable and long-lasting. Don't forget, between friends, there must be boundaries and tolerance.
When it comes to chatting, you have to pay attention to a balance, neither too hot nor too cold.
It's like eating hot pot, it's just spicy and fragrant. If you're too eager, others may think you're a bit overheaded, too cold, and like you're not enthusiastic. So, choosing a middle way, which is both enthusiastic and leaves room for people, is the way to go.
Why? Interpersonal communication has to pay attention to the natural law, just like breathing, you have to inhale and exhale. If you only do one thing, it is easy for people to feel uncomfortable and uncomfortable.
For example, some people, every time they chat with others, they always only talk about themselves, and never give others a chance to interject, and as a result, the circle of friends is getting smaller and smaller. This is the consequence of being too eager and not knowing how to regulate.
You have to know how to observe the other person's reaction, be enthusiastic when you should be enthusiastic, and converge when you should be convergent, just like dancing, follow the rhythm of **.
For example, some people are very good at chatting, know when to tell jokes, when to chat seriously, and have a super wide circle of friends.
But if you only know that you are cold, you always look impatient, and others are unwilling to have deep friendships, and you end up becoming a withdrawn person.
To chat, you must know how to master that "degree", neither too enthusiastic nor indifferent, so that you can get along harmoniously and make communication smoother.
In fact, it means that our way of life must not only pursue spiritual elegance, but also accept the vulgarity of daily life.
I am usually busy at work, but on weekends, I spend time reading books, listening to classics, and occasionally going to art museums to see exhibitions, which is the elegant part of life.
But playing basketball with friends, getting together on weekends for barbecues, drinking beer, and watching football games is the vulgar part of life.
Some people may pursue the elegance of life too much, look down on those so-called vulgar lives, and feel that they are vulgar. Such a person may make the friends around him not feel close, or even have a sense of distance.
Neither completely immersed in vulgarity nor entirely elegant, but rather a balance between the two.
Some people may pursue the so-called elegance all day long, trapping themselves in a small world, and over time, they may feel that life is boring, and their interactions with others will also be affected.
Some people may feel that only the pursuit of elegance can reflect their taste, and ignore the other side of life.
Life is not only about the pursuit of spiritual elegance, but also about accepting the ordinary of the everyday.
It's like eating not too full and not too hungry, just eating until seven minutes full is the most comfortable.
In life, being too persistent or too laissez-faire will bring bad consequences.
For example, a workaholic may make a lot of money, but health and family may be neglected.
On the other hand, if you only think about playing all day and are not motivated, you may end up struggling to make ends meet.
The right thing to do is to work hard, rest well after work, and enjoy life with family and friends. In this way, the quality of life can be guaranteed without losing the joy of life.
Don't go to extremes in everything, learn to make trade-offs, and find your own balance.
When the water is clear, there are no fish, and when people are observed, there are no fugitives. ”
Pay attention to me, let the rhythm of words compose the music of life;
"Nightingales leap in the moonlight, their feathers shimmering with silver. Its singing voice was like a wonderful **, which touched my soul deeply. "