"Love brain" This is a hot word on the Internet in recent years, in the vernacular, it refers to those who devote themselves to love, only lovers in their eyes, they are convinced that love is the top priority in life, and everything must make way for love. In this mode of thinking, love is paramount, as if the whole world revolves around the smile and eyes of the lover.
To put it simply, it is to regard love and lovers as the core of life, and to put lovers in the supreme position, willing to give everything for them, even at the expense of themselves, and regard other things as vassals of love.
In fact, in a relationship, both men and women can become this kind of "love brain", however, most of the time, women seem to be more likely to fall into this state, which may be because women are usually more inclined to be more emotional about romantic relationships.
In the past, when I watched TV dramas, I thought it was exaggerated. Those excellent girls, once they fall in love, it is as if their IQ has decreased, and they only care about love all day long, and no longer focus on their careers. However, with the observation and understanding of the people around me, I gradually realized that the plot and characters in the TV series are actually the best in real life. It is true that there are some women who, once in love, will show a state of "reducing intelligence", putting all their minds on their feelings and ignoring other important things.
Why hasn't he replied to my message for so long? Why doesn't he like me anymore? Is it because my appearance is not outstanding enough? Or is it because I'm not good enough? Is my personality not attractive enough to him? Or is my behavior offending him? Why did he choose someone else? Is that girl really better than me in some way? Is this why he left me? ”
This kind of love is always more painful than sweet, and more often it is emotionally involved by another person. This feeling of gaining and losing is not only uncomfortable for yourself, but also makes the other person feel irritable.
As a result of pouring all of his time, energy and emotions, and even his whole life into his feelings, the "love brain" is often unable to achieve personal growth and progress, and gradually loses itself. Slowly begin to become humble and passive, unable to see where their own value lies, and can only crave more love from the other person in the relationship.
We must establish a correct outlook on love, which is based on mutual respect, understanding, and trust. Girls should be clear about their values and goals in life, rather than seeing love as the whole of life. Learn to think independently and not be easily confused by sweet words. At the same time, you must also know how to cherish yourself and don't sacrifice your principles and bottom line in order to cater to the other party.
Love is just one of life's many experiences, it is not the whole of life. We should not lose ourselves for love, everyone should cherish themselves and live for themselves.