On the first day of school, a friend sent me a message and asked me to talk about the transfer.
I didn't say a word for a long time....
On the one hand, I just took a long vacation, and I was a little lazy; On the other hand, every time she starts school, she wants to transfer schools, and then she takes the initiative to give up after checking the resources.
I call her symptom "Periodic Back-to-School Anxiety".
When my eldest sister was studying for a year, I also went through this stage, and it was not pleasing to the eyes when I looked at the public office horizontally and vertically
The school building is old and the teachers are very cold; No talking in the hallway, no going to the playground between classes; Every day in the classroom, I brush up on quick calculations, and my eyesight is from 50 to 46. Skipping rope for the whole school with sports characteristics; School ends before 3:00, and there is no childcare and extracurricular classes....
Back then, every time school started, I wanted to change schools.
Today's friend has a more complicated problem than I do. Last year, the children were promoted to primary school to catch up with the school-age children who were seriously exceeded, and the corresponding schools in the original community were seriously short of places, so they were forcibly assigned places and stuffed into a small vegetable school indiscriminately.
At that time, my friend wanted to transfer schools.
Because she bought a house for her counterpart Niu Xiao, she herself is still a graduate of Jiaotong University, and she has been looking forward to the baby since she was a child, and she has spent a lot of effort to cultivate it since she was a child....
After thousands of calculations, they didn't count that they fell into the vegetable school, so the couple almost became depressed.
When I first elected a private office for my younger brother, I advised: The competition for kindergarten promotion to primary school this year is too fierce, and Beijing nationality may not be guaranteed; Private courses are abundant, and the public government will spend less than 100,000 yuan a year for these off-campus classes, and you have to catch up with your parents, right?
She didn't go to her heart, thinking that if she had a household and a house, how could she not enter the corresponding school? As a result, a certain department is inhumanely staking and enclosing the counterpart community outside the cow.
Angry and trembling, but helpless, a certain department stipulates that the first grade cannot be transferred, so I can only endure it.
The results of the actual measurement show that the dish is really good. There are no extracurricular classes in the first grade, and the children who can't pick up can only be cared for, and the teacher watches in the classroom, finds a piece of paper to draw by himself, and has nothing to do.
The child was too bored, so she stuffed a second-grade math workbook into the baby's schoolbag, thinking that it would be good to practice speed arithmetic if she had nothing to do. As a result, the teacher saw it and said that you can't even memorize the addition and subtraction tables within ten in order...
After listening to the direct speechless, inefficient and boring education, my friend knows rote memorization without looking at whether the child will use it. This year's school year is even more outrageous, and Chinese cartoons are broadcast in English classes....
Therefore, only two days after the start of school, they asked me to consult the transfer school, and asked to be within 10 kilometers of the community, with English as the feature, or a private school with high English and mathematics.
It doesn't matter how much money you spend, as long as the baby can like to go, by the way, the content that needs to be tonified outside of class will be digested a little more.
I was silent for a while, and then said, Can you lower this request a little more?
It was her turn to be surprised, couldn't she meet this little demand?
I said that if you look at Beijing, there are only a few schools that can improve first-grade mathematics and English, but if you have a little grade, you rely on your parents. What's more, near your home, the edge of the East and West Seas is not touched.
Let's take the community as the center, let's draw a circle with a radius of 10 kilometers and see what kind of schools are inside
The best public is a small branch school. Teachers are generally older, and their educational thinking is as rigid as your baby's current teachers. For them, good students do not look at their problem-solving skills, but on being obedient.
This kind of school sounds famous, the nostrils are all on the top of the head, and the actual education will only be crammed, and the quality will be like that. Three classes a week in English, learn how r u in a year....
That's it, if you want to transfer to another school, you have to work hard to find a relationship trustee, do you want to go?
She shook her head into a rattle and did not go, so she considered private.
I said, private is not what you think, as long as you are willing to spend money, you can do everything.
Not to mention the surrounding private bilingual, even the international are unknown, even if the imperial capital collects 300,000 yuan a year, parents have been spending money to hire teachers since primary school, and a full set of extracurricular chickens in addition to the number of languages....
She said, then it's okay if I don't pursue academics, at least there are more private school activities.
Uh, think too much, I said.
Private is to look at the playground wide and have many activities, which not every child can enjoy. The first grade is generally equipped with a main class and a life teacher, and the children must be led by the life teacher when they enter and exit, and they cannot move freely. So if the life teacher is busy, he can only do his homework in the classroom.
Next door is the beautiful library, and there is no teacher who can only stare dryly. According to logic, the teacher should be in class all day and lead the team according to the point, but people are not machines, and there are many cases where they happen to be absent.
I can't learn things, I can't play happily, the resources seem to be quite abundant, but I can't stand the crowd, and there are not many people on everyone's head. Popular extracurricular classes are grabbed, there are only 20 vacant seats in the school's thousands of clubs, and parents set an alarm clock at 12 o'clock in the morning, ready to go....
The quality class in the class schedule looks good, but in reality, there will be a difference between a buyer's show and a seller's show
Taking art class as an example, when I visited the school and saw all kinds of clay works on the shelves and seven or eight embryo drawing machines on the ground, I thought that children could learn a lot. In fact, you may not be able to touch the materials for a few weeks after the course starts, and you will only learn the craft of rubbing the ball in a semester.
If you want to say no, the public doesn't have such a rich curriculum; But to put it mildly, it's a bit far from your expectation of 200,000 tuition.
She sighed, is the elementary school going to send the baby abroad?
Uh, think too much, I said. Basic education abroad is not as good as at home! I just visited Southeast Asia two days ago, and I can't even do English
Then smash 600,000 yuan ruthlessly, can you go to school in the United Kingdom and the United States? My friend's child used to have relatively high grades in international schools in China, and his parents wanted to improve the quality of education, so he chose a British private school with a good academic reputation.
And guess what? He ranked in the top three in the first quiz! The combined score of the two subjects of the British classmate is not as high as his. What subjects are you taking? English!
My friend didn't say anything for a while....
Being in the imperial capital, I thought that there were thousands of roads to education, but who knew that the analysis was over
As a liberal arts student who graduated from a prestigious school, she is logical and meticulous in crushing science, although she keeps saying that she wants to lie down, it is impossible to lie down completely. I toss and transfer schools at any cost, in order to let my child learn more things...
In response to this situation, I mean, the primary school stage is not a last resort - do not turn your face with the teacher, do not be bullied by the school, the child is not seriously tired of school, there is no need to toss and transfer schools. One more toss is throwing money around.
Unless....Directly change the house and go to Xicheng to settle down and transfer the class, and you can also catch a small promotion to the first place. Otherwise, with the amount of knowledge in primary school, parents can homeschool. If you don't have time, you can have a nanny-style tutor, and you can enjoy one-to-one service with an investment of 300,000 yuan a year.
However, don't expect too much from the cow school.
It seems that there are top students everywhere, but in fact, it has nothing to do with the school's processing ability, and they are all parents; The resources are quite abundant, but they can't stand the strength of the competitors, and in the end, there is only a little sesame left on the heads of ordinary families....
This is the educational dilemma faced by many parents now: dreams hang in the sky, and reality stands in the mud. If you don't raise children, you are invincible in the world, and if you raise children, you will understand what powerlessness is.
However, it seems that there is no way out, but it is not completely impossible. If you want to reduce anxiety, you need to reduce your needs first, and make trade-offs by grasping the core educational needs
If you want to get results, you have to endure the blood of public chickens, and if you want to be filial to your mother, you have to learn to lie flat in an international school....