How to get along with people with avoidant personalities, respectively.
The first, second, third and fourth parts are explained.
Only when he is like a tiptoeing child, with apprehension and anticipation, gradually approaching you, can you really enter his heart. At this time, you need to welcome his return with the utmost patience and enthusiasm and move towards the second stage together. However, this second stage is like walking on thin ice, and the slightest carelessness may touch the avoidance mechanism in his heart, causing all efforts to be wasted, returning to the original point, or even ending completely. In the process, you may experience emotional ups and downs, and even your feelings for him will disappear completely, like a fallen leaf returning to its roots, and there is no possibility of maneuvering. But if you still feel the throbbing in your heart, then move on and explore the unknown.
In the second stage, when this avoidance gradually approaches you, you need to know how to seize the moment to meet his various needs in addition to emotional needs in a timely manner. At the same time, learn to guide the other person to meet your needs other than emotional, so that the balance of the relationship is balanced. It is only in this mutual satisfaction that you can truly express yourself, not go against your heart, and reap satisfaction and growth from this relationship.
In the process of mutual satisfaction, a deep bond will be established between you, as if you were a family. You will go through many key moments in your life together and share your joys and sorrows. You need to learn to restrain the emotional needs that the avoidant personality occasionally exhibits, not rush to satisfy them, and give them some time and space to experience your emotions. As for whether they are willing to respond to your emotional needs, you don't need to expect too much, let alone force it.
Let everything go naturally, I believe that on the basis of sincerity and understanding, your relationship will become closer and closer, and grow and progress together.
At this stage, you have to follow his steps like a shadow, like a tacit understanding between dance partners, and you respond in the same way as the other person treats you. If he takes a step forward, you will follow lightly; If he retreats and remains reserved, you gracefully retreat to safety. If he chooses to be silent and not disturb his tranquility, you will enjoy your alone time and enjoy that ease and tranquility. Remember, everything you do is a choice made by your heart, by being kind to yourself, not by giving like an anxious old mother.
Over time, your relationship will be deeper than the first stage, and you will begin to slowly get to know and rely on each other. He will gradually open up to you and share his joys and sorrows. In fact, this is also the natural stage of the development of all relationships, and you, in a more subtle way, have gone into the depths of his heart.
At this time, this avoidance began to slowly slow down the feeling of this love is very good and warm, just like the sun shining on his own body, and he is willing to make a slight change spontaneously. If you don't support it, you will lose your efforts if you are not careful. But maybe you don't learn to see it as a source of happiness for you, so you learn to be independent, you learn to be self-satisfied, you learn to love yourself, and you have more extra energy to love other people. If you do all of this, you will start to experience exhaustion with each other as you do in all relationships. The other person may suddenly meet a new partner and want to enter a new relationship, or maybe they will push you away again and again because of an oversight. Because no matter how strong and good you are, you can't overcome this human liking for the new and hating the old, and you are not sure of the selfish nature.