There is a moving sentence in the documentary "The World":
A middle-aged person is like a candle that burns at both ends. ”
This sentence seems to be the most appropriate description of the life conditions of middle-aged people.
They are like candles, silently burning themselves, paying for their families, careers, and dreams.
When people reach middle age, the burden of life is like a boulder pressing on their hearts.
With elderly parents to take care of and young children to raise, the family's life rests on this solid shoulder.
However, no matter how hard we try, there are always times when we are unable to do so, and those unspeakable pains and anxieties hang over our hearts like a haze.
At such a moment, we may need to temporarily block out the distractions of the outside world and open a "flight mode" for our minds.
Bai Yansong once said: "The reason why we live a tired life is not that life is too mean, but that we are too easily swayed by the emotions of others." ”
We often feel that we are overwhelmed by our own stress.
But sometimes, it's often the noise from the outside that really breaks us.
There is a thought-provoking thing in psychology".The Barnum Effect
It reveals a phenomenon:
We are always susceptible to external information, and when these external evaluations become a mirror for examining ourselves, we can easily fall into self-doubt and denial.
Without being able to block out these noises, we can easily lose ourselves and become slaves to other people's emotions.
one's own emotions are controlled by the joys, sorrows, and sorrows of others;
one's own rhythm is affected by the pace of others;
Their own opinions are swayed by the tough attitude of others......If our brain is like a computer, then these distractions and distractions are like countless applications running at the same time, eating up too much of our precious memory.
When the memory of the mind is filled, it is natural to feel that it is not functioning well and is exhausted.
A mother who suffers from depression has fallen into a breakdown several times under the dual pressure of family and career.
However, in her most desperate moments, she found the answer in her daughter.
Once, in the hallway of the school, the teacher harshly reprimanded her daughter: "What did you buy the school uniform for?" ”
The voice was full of reproach. She expected her daughter to be ashamed of this, but her daughter's reaction was beyond her expectations.
The daughter looked up at the teacher with no fear in her eyes, and her voice was calm and firm:
Teacher, I'm sorry, my mother and I forgot today, but I will definitely remember to wear it tomorrow. School uniforms are bought by you, and they are bought to wear them. ”
The daughter's answer was neither humble nor arrogant, logical and reasonable.
That day, when my daughter came back from school, it didn't affect her mood because of this incident.
The daughter, as usual, played happily, as if the matter had been turned over.
The elders of the family sometimes lose their temper with their daughter, but she is always able to use her wisdom to resolve it.
Once, the grandmother got angry over some trivial matter and took her anger out on her daughter.
But the daughter said calmly: "Grandma, if you are unhappy, you should do something to make yourself happy, and punishing me will not make you happy." ”
After saying that, he continued to play on his own, completely ignoring the low air pressure in the house.
The daughter has never been self-absorbed by other people's difficulties, and she has always been able to use her way to firmly control the judgment of life in her own hands.
Her daughter's attitude made her deeply admire.
In the process of getting along with her daughter, the mother also gradually learned how to draw a clear line between herself and the outside world.
How to make yourself more blunt and thus make life easier.
Li Xiaoyi once said: "People who have a strong heart and can make achievements have strong shielding power and grasp the initiative in life early." ”
If you care too much about the voices of the outside world, you will often ignore your own heart. At this point, try turning on Airplane Mode. Sort out your life and subtract from it. Don't care, don't care, don't worry, don't worry. In the big world, keep your own small world. 
I've heard the saying, "A person knows what he wants, who he is, who he wants to be, more than anything else, and these are more important than how others think of him." ”After all, other people's opinions are only other people's opinions, and the direction of one's own steps is the final destination of the soul. Confucius once praised his ** Yan Hui: "A spoonful of food, a scoop of drink, in the alleys, people are unbearable, and they will not change their pleasures." ”
And Strickland, the protagonist of "The Moon and Sixpence", is an example of this kind of loyalty to one's heart.
He was originally a successful ** agent with a stable job, a decent life and a happy family.
However, at the age of 40, he chose to give up everything and go to Paris to pursue his artistic dreams.
This decision made everyone around him scoff at him and even laugh at him for his stupidity.
But Strickland didn't care, because he knew that the love of his heart was what he was really after.
He is not for fame, not for material rewards, and he doesn't care about the final result.
He simply loves art and wants to paint the inner world with his brush.
In the process, Strickland experienced countless hardships and loneliness.
But he never gave up on his dreams, and even when he was seriously ill and blind, he continued to paint.
"I have to paint," he said, "and it's up to me. If a person falls into the water, it doesn't matter if he swims well or not, anyway, he has to struggle out of the water or he will drown. ”
Eventually, in the last moments of his life, Strickland dedicated a breathtaking giant mural.
For him, the world was full of sixpence and distractions, but none of them could shake his determination to chase the moon.
The dream that made him depressed was the most precious treasure in his heart, and even if he paid a big price, he had to do his best to chase it.
True happiness does not come from the material and fame of the outside world, but from the love and pursuit of the heart.
When we are brave enough to follow our hearts, we can find true happiness and fulfillment.
After reading this book, Cai Chongda was deeply touched in his heart, and he sighed:
"This book made me understand that if I don't stay true to my inner voice for the rest of my life, I may never be happy for the rest of my life. ”
Where the heart desires, the past, life is like a reverse journey, a reed to sail.
If we disobey the call of our hearts, we are betraying ourselves in the deepest way.
Only by being true to our souls can we reap that pure and deep happiness.
There is a sentence in the "Silent Confessions":
"All of our lives is to get rid of other people's expectations and find our true selves. ”
In this hustle and bustle of the world, try to turn on the "airplane mode" for your mind.
Take a break from the noise and focus on how you're feeling in the moment.
Calm your mind and listen to your heart's call.
After reading such a story, I was deeply moved:
Once upon a time, there were two young people living in a barren mountain village, and they both wanted to go to a bustling big city and live the decent life they longed for.
One of the young people, his dream is to make a fortune, is the kind of miracle that the mountain goods become ** overnight, the treasure is hidden in the cave, or the pie in the sky is the miracle.
He imagined such a scene every day, but never really put it into action, just idle, waiting for the unattainable miracle.
And another young man, he was a carpenter, and he silently did his carpentry work every day, leaving early and returning late, and never giving up.
The young man, who dreamed of making a fortune, often laughed at the carpenter, saying that he was too rigid to be flexible.
However, the carpenter was never swayed by his words, he just silently did his own thing, waiting for his own opportunity.
More than ten years have passed, the carpenter's craftsmanship has become better and better, and his work has become more and more appreciated.
Eventually, a city dweller took a fancy to his craft, and they partnered to open a shop, and the furniture they made became very popular in the city.
Within a few years, the carpenter had made his home in the city and lived the happy life he had always dreamed of.
And the young man who just wanted to make a fortune out of thin air was still dreaming of it in the mountains.
Although his dream is big, it is not supported by practical actions, and in the end it can only be a failure.
As stated in "Persuasion of Learning":
If you don't accumulate steps, you can't reach thousands of miles, and if you don't accumulate small streams, you can't become rivers and seas. ”Success doesn't happen overnight. Behind the success is perseverance and excellence. 
Really smart people know how to do "stupid kung fu". Cultivating oneself is to build momentum for the future life. In 1982, after Lu Yao's ** "Life" was adapted into a movie, it became popular all over the country.
His name spread through the streets overnight.
Letters flew like snowflakes, visitors poured in, and invitations to manuscripts and studios kept coming.
However, behind this honor and prosperity, Lu Yao has a more ambitious goal in his heart.
He had a strong belief:
Before you are forty years old, you must complete the largest and most significant work.
So, at the moment of success, Lu Yao resolutely decided to devote himself to the "severe cattle and horse-like labor" again to create a shocking feature**.
For this **, he carried out three years of careful preparation, went deep into the countryside, and collected rich materials.
He knows that in order to create vivid characters and vivid stories, you must go deep into life and experience it firsthand.
So, he carried two large boxes of materials and books and moved to the mine, where he ate and lived with the workers, and experienced the hard and fulfilling life together.
The protagonist Sun Shaoping spent a long and difficult time in the mine, which is also a "stupid method" adopted by Lu Yao in order to better understand the characters.
During his six years in the mine, he wrote from noon to early morning every day, under tremendous physical and mental pressure.
However, it is this kind of creative life that turns day and night upside down that has made him ** and hospitalized many times, and his body seems to be "torn off like a spring".
The doctors advised him to stop this intense work and take a good rest.
However, Lu Yao never wavered.
He said:"As long as you don't fall, you should keep going. ”
In the end, with countless times of perseverance and hard work, Lu Yao completed the million-word masterpiece "Ordinary World".
This work is the crystallization of all Lu Yao's hard work, and it also lived up to expectations and won the Mao Dun Literature Award.
Every page of the book reveals Lu Yao's persistence and perseverance, and every word is full of his love and talent.
For a time, the book was unprecedentedly popular with readers.
Qian Xuesen once said: "Often the last key opens the door of the temple, don't lose confidence, as long as you persevere, you will eventually have results." ”
As long as we identify the direction and continue to work hard, the gift of fate will eventually come.
In this hustle and bustle of the world, we all need to turn on our own "airplane mode", stay away from the distractions, and dig deeper into ourselves.
Schopenhauer once said, "It is only when a man is alone that he can be fully himself." ”
In this complex world, we are often trapped by the hustle and bustle.
Like a lonely boat floating in the vast sea, it is difficult to find the harbor of the soul.
Try to turn on the "flight mode" of your life and find some peace for yourself. Explore yourself in silence and cultivate yourself in the years. ClickThumbs up, May you go through the hustle and bustle of life and go to your own piece of brilliance. List of high-quality authors