When faced with them, be sure to choose to run!
Text |Mu Yin.
Toshi is the lead singer of the visual kei band X-Japan, and he has attracted a large number of fans with his cold handsome looks, edgy looks, and unique voice. But what no one expected was that when the band's career was in full swing, he resolutely decided to quit the band. And what made him make up his mind was his girlfriend at the time and his future wife, Moriya Xiang.
Moriya Xiang brought Toshi into the cult **, cut off contact with his family for many years, surrounded him on an "island" that could only rely on her, cut off his contact with the outside world, and united with the cult leader Masaya to deceive him around, and his spirit, feelings, and money were not lost, and this ** was not ended until Toshi saw Masaya's embarrassed posture when he was interrogated, and recognized his adultery with Moriya Xiang.
In the end, when he turned around and looked back on the years of experience, it suddenly dawned on him that the family and friends who had been smeared by his wife were not as terrible as he imagined, and the reason why he felt this way was because he had always been in her "dark reign".
After reading "Dark Purification", I immediately thought of this story, in fact, from some angles, this indescribable mental harassment and control has many similarities with the previous popular word pua. For example, Toshi, who is constantly belittled by his wife and Masan, and Mio, who is questioned by Kamihara in the book and reflects on whether his normal behavior is really wrong, both of their spirits are broken through the defense line in the other party's premeditated hidden attack, and they begin to rationalize their behavior that originally felt that something was wrong like a frog boiled in warm water.
In this work, Fukatsuki Tsujimura has a very apt name for this phenomenon that we often encounter but cannot describe—dark harassment. In the text, the author writes five stories with the same core in extremely everyday themes. Looking at the whole picture, this story echoes each other, and the beginning and end are based on the secret cleanser Shiraishi as a clue, threading the needle and threading, exposing the criminal deeds of the Kamihara family in front of the reader's eyes.
The book is divided into five parts, starting from the five perspectives of transfer students, neighbors, colleagues, team leaders, and family members, and taking details as the cornerstone, the "dark harassment" tricks shown by the members of the "dark family" Kamihara family when they get along with others are disclosed one by one
Confuse the public and create a gaslighting effect. - "Then why did you allow him to talk to you?" Under normal circumstances, shouldn't we ignore him and me and run away immediately? Didn't I keep telling you that? "Did he say that? She searched her stomach and recalled. "Maybe he did persuade her, but did he say it so forcefully? She struggled to recall. ”
Break the sense of boundaries that social should have, and pervasive implicit control. - "I heard that he goes home with Toranosuke every day and doesn't come home until he finishes his homework together and prepares something to take to school the next day." Even if Toranosuke wanted to go home alone, he would definitely follow him to his house. "Every day? "It seems to be every day. ”
The quiet appearance of the years has been created, and the reasonable refusal has been turned into a big fuss. - "Maybe everyone has been cornered like this. Chased by her behind her, approached by her family, obviously felt strange, but was forced to be close to her. ”
I believe that seeing this, everyone has a certain understanding of the concept of "dark harassment", but this "Kamihara family" that forcibly spreads darkness to others, forces others to accept it, and makes them fall into it, is just a synonym. In reality, they may be called Xiao Zhang, they may be called Xiao Li, or they may be yourself.
In our daily lives, we often experience an indescribable discomfort when communicating with others, which emanates from friends, colleagues and even family members, and contaminates you in a form of implicit malice that cannot be "convicted", and the aftertaste will not dissipate. Regardless of whether the spreader is unintentional or intentional, the party being spread is very likely to fall into a state of internal friction - "what did he just say" and "I didn't make him feel rude".
These emotions are like a mosquito that has no eyes to see, and it is buzzing around in your ears, and when you want to confront it seriously, find it, and destroy it, it disappears as if out of thin air, leaving no trace. Yes, you can't find evidence that it harasses you. Over time, with the attitude of "it always has been", we become frogs in warm water.
I should have thought too much", we began to comfort ourselves in this way.
The "dark family" is everywhere, and the "dark harassment" may be intentional by others, or it may come from an unintentional act, we don't need to exaggerate it, it is just a germ that will inevitably breed in human interaction. However, trust your instincts, kindness will never pull you into the abyss.
If you want to destroy this bacterium, please be prepared, the "dark cleansers" that appear in the article need to be our own responsibility.
All vacillation comes from self-doubt, so in the face of darkness and harassment, firmness is a sharp weapon. Insist on judgment, firmly believe in choice, and stick to faith. Dare to question abnormal things and dare to break the seemingly harmonious status quo is the self-love from the heart, and only then can we gain a sense of self-consistency from the inside out. So as to make yourself a bamboo forest that protects you, and let the dark harassers retreat.
However, it is human nature not to be able to fight back against the harassment of darkness, so please remember that
Run, escape the dark realm! (Escaping is shameful but useful (.)