"Birth, old age, sickness and death" is human nature.
Although it is said so,But when we really face it, we still feel unacceptable.
Especially when a loved one who has been with us for many years dies, that is the saddest moment for us.
And after the funeral, the family usually will also take hisClothes burnedas a sign of respect.
At the same time, it also avoids seeing things and thinking about people, but have we ever thought about what can be burned and what can't be burned?
As the saying goes, "the relics are not burned, leaving the descendants rich", which four pieces do these "4 pieces" refer to?
Everyone has to go through "birth, old age, sickness and death" in lifeIn just four words, it sums up a person's life.
When an elderly person dies in the family, relatives are also grief-stricken, and it is difficult to imagine the pain of separation.
However, the facts are already in front of usAs relatives, we can only handle the aftermath well.
The old man will be buried in a beautiful way, so that the old man can walk decentlyIt is not only the respect for the elderly, but also the filial piety of the children.
And after handling the aftermath, it is time to deal with the relics of the elderlyUnder normal circumstances, it is common to burn the clothes worn by the elderly before their deaths.
And the purpose of this is not just to prevent relatives from seeing things and thinking about peopleAnother important reason is to give clothes to the deceased elderly.
And this custom has been passed down to this day, and it has been used ever since.
Generally speaking, there is nothing wrong with thatBut at this time, don't burn the old man's treasures during his lifetime.
At this time, some people may wonder why? Actually, it's not hard to understand.
Because since these things are treasures of the old man during his lifetime, then they must also be very precious.
Usually it must be untouchable and untouchableAnd they certainly don't want to see themselves gone.
These "beloved babes" were burnedOn the other hand, the old people sometimes treasure the items.
It's all left for future generations, and it's an asset accumulated for future generations.
Then it is very likely that the ** of these collections is definitely not cheap, and they choose to burn at this time.
It is not only the loss of a fortune, but more importantly, the good intentions of the deceased.
So after the death of the old man,The items they treasured during their lifetime must not be burned.
As a rigid need for all seasons of the year,The quilt is the most common and most used object in life.
In the long past, people's quilts were made by hand.
The cotton used in the quilt is also genuine cotton.
Some old people's quilts are really used from young to old, and they are used for decades.
Sometimes children want to throw it away and get a new bed, but they refuse on the grounds that they are used to it.
And the "quilt" is in addition to being a household item,It also has the meaning of "for a lifetime".
In addition to relatives, the quilt is the longest time with them, and at the funeral of the deceased, we can also find that the relatives of the elderly will also wear the old man's quilt.
Quietly on the side for a whole night, it is also the last journey that represents accompaniment
If you choose to burn it at this time,So does it mean that the family relationship between you is burned?
The same "be" and "generation" also have the meaning of descendants and descendantsIn the past, quilts were the dowry of the older generation.
One can imagine how great the significance it representsNot only can't the quilt be burned, but even the beds where the elderly sleep can't be thrown away
In some places, some of the items of the old man before his death are blessed, and the bed he has slept in is one.
If you throw away the bed and quilt or burn it, it is equivalent to throwing away the blessing.
And when I think about it like this, I will feel that this is indeed the truth.
So after the death of the old man,Covered quilts and beds should not be thrown away
The bed can be kept and used, and the quilt can be found in a clean bag and put it away.
In addition to the above items, ** must not be incinerated.
As a preservation of memories, the appearance of ** can be said to freeze some beautiful moments that people want to keep.
Memories can't be looked at over and over again, but you can always think about it.
Even in other words, it's like a time-freeze machine.
Especially when we're traveling with the elderly in our familyPhotographs taken in the camera.
Its significance is particularly precious, and when the old man dies, these ** will becomeThe only thought of the children
If we choose to burn it at this time, we will regret it when we want to look back at it later.
Keeping it is not only for giving ourselves a thought, but also for our future generations to see.
Let them understand what kind of person their elders really areIt's a kind of inheritance.
On the other hand, it is also to show that although they are gone, they cannot see our lives.
But somewhere in the world, there will always be a place where they are missed.
It's not a self-touching but a fond memory of a loved oneTherefore, when the elderly at home are in good health, take them out for a walk and pat them more.
Not only for ourselves, but also for the elderly.
And this last item that can't be burned is,Books and diaries written by old people during their lifetimes.
In the previous era, their entertainment methods were not so rich, and mobile phones and TVs were rare.
At that time, in addition to work, the old man was busy for the family in his life.
When they get older, technology is also developed, but they are still not used to using it.
And some elderly people will choose to write and draw when they are old, especially if they are educated when they are young.
Educated old people who have gone to school,What they like to write about in books is the most.
Don't look at these things are very inconspicuous, but they are full of the insights of the old people.
And people often say that "there is an old man in the family, if there is a treasure", this sentence must be understood by many people as pistachios.
In fact, there is another meaning, because the old people have rich life experience.
If you encounter anything you don't understand in your daily life, you can ask the elderly at home for advice.
This is the reason why "there is a treasure in the family".And sometimes they choose to record their life experiences.
At this time, it is very precious, not only can it not be burned.
We should treasure it even moreWhen we miss it, we can also take it out and look at it from time to time.
Take a look at what they experienced when they were youngerIn addition, it is a kind of sustenance for our relatives.
When our children grow up, we can tell them the stories of the older generations.
Let them understand the hardships of the previous generation's life, and they will know how to cherish the present more in the future.
Therefore, no matter what, when a loved one dies, the books he read and the notes he wrote during his lifetime must be cherished.
It is a kind of respect for the elders, and it is also a kind of emotional sustenance for relatives.
The death of a loved one is a fact that everyone does not want to see, but nature has its own rules.
Learning to accept is also a compulsory course in life, and what matters is how we face it calmly.
In addition to the above, the rest depends on the wishes of the family.
After all, what kind of feelings are carried by what objects, only the relatives around them can understand!
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