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"Infidelity" is a *** film released in the United States in 2002 Just listening to the title, you can roughly know what to tell, the storyline is simple, but thought-provoking, and it is similar to the recent derailment of a female teacher in Shanghai. Art is also a mirror of life, and there are a thousand "Hamlets" for a thousand audiences.
A wealthy and happy middle-aged couple, Edward and Connie live on the outskirts of New York City with their 9-year-old son, a dog, and a housekeeper. The husband is devoted to his work, but he is not an old antique who does not understand the taste, he is polite and personable; The wife is a housewife, beautiful**, educates the children, takes care of the family; The child is smart and cute. The family is happy. However, after the day the wind blew, everything changed.
That day, it was windy, and Connie could have stayed out of the house, but she did. Because of the strong wind, she couldn't get a taxi, she bought a lot of things, and the wind blew her down in a man's arms. The man was young and handsome, and warmly invited her to his house to clean the wounds of the collision for her, which she could have refused, but she went.
The man, a bookseller, gave her a book. When Connie came home, she found a note in the book with the man's ** number written on it, and she actually sent the ** to the ghost. Back and forth, they became lovers.
In this way, Connie seems to be unable to resist **, like a water-based poplar woman. Before she met this young man, Connie was also a good wife and mother, husband and child. However, despite her successful career and loving husband, smart and lovely son, her unchanging life makes her yearn for something that even she doesn't know. The appearance of a young man broke her ordinary life. After having her first relationship with a young man, on the train back, she is nervous, excited, excited, self-blaming, guilty, and fearful, and Diane Lane plays Connie's inner struggle delicately and vividly. Connie couldn't help laughing from time to time, and sometimes couldn't help crying, if she was a watery poplar woman, how could her heart be so tormented. On the one hand, there is fresh and exciting sex**, and on the other hand, family and responsibility. In the contest between sensibility and reason, spirit and flesh, Connie sank again and again, trying to get rid of ** again and again, but she was addicted to this kind of playing with fire and couldn't extricate herself.
If Connie and her lover are truly in love, that's a different story. Obviously, there is only ** between Connie and her lover, and it is precisely because Connie loves her family that her husband and children will be so painful. She not only wants to meet the fresh and exciting **, but also wants to have a stable and happy family. Good and evil coexist in human nature, and it is difficult for good to defeat evil, which is precisely the weakness of human nature.
Connie's husband Edward soon saw his wife's strange appearance, but was only suspicious, until a colleague found out that Connie's tryst with her lover alerted him, and he hired a private detective to photograph the two of them dating together, confirming his wife's cheating. Angry, but still looking quite gentlemanly, Edward knocked on the door of his wife's lover's house, he could actually greet his wife's lover, and when he saw the messy sheets that the two had slept on, especially seeing that the gift he gave to his wife for her wedding anniversary was actually given to her lover by his wife, the anger that erupted in his body was not even expected by himself, he threw the glass ball-like gift at his wife's lover's head, and the young man was killed on the spot. He was stunned to see blood gushing out of the young man's head. At this time, the voice of the wife saying to her lover to break up came from the **message, but everything was irretrievable.
After Edward woke up from his dream for a long time and regained his senses, he quickly dealt with the scene, stuffed the body into the trunk of the car, and rushed to his son's school, where his son performed. His wife was already waiting for him at the show, and the couple held hands to watch their son's performance. Edward transports the body to the junkyard and returns home as if nothing had ever happened. The couple still lived a peaceful life until the police visited, until the wife found her intimate ** with her lover in Edward's pocket, and the couple made it clear.
The wife was unfaithful and the husband became a murderer. The film ends with the couple driving and the wife telling them to flee to the distant seashore and live a peaceful life, and the car is driving right next to the police station.
Two. What awaits the couple? Connie thought that if she got into the taxi on the day the wind blew, nothing would have happened, but never, there was never an if.
If Connie hadn't met that young man, wouldn't she have promised for the rest of her life that she wouldn't cheat? Is it Connie's nature? If Edward had calmed down, he wouldn't have killed people, was it because he was brutal by nature? The point is that they are not emotionally broken and still love each other. Or maybe that's the thought-provoking question of this film.
Don't challenge humanity! Connie thought she could resist the young man's ** and entered his house, but when she couldn't, she thought she could navigate between her husband and her lover; Edward thought he could negotiate peacefully with his wife's lover. However, ......
Human nature is complex, there is no absolute black and white, good and evil, good and bad, more people live in a gray neutral zone. Most people encounter the confrontation between spirit and body, sensibility and reason, and it is not always possible for spirit and reason to prevail. Raskolnikov in Dostoevsky's Crime and Punishment kills the old woman who was lending usury, but he has been helping the family of Sonya, a street prostitute. There is no one who is born to misbehave, just as there is no saint who is born with it. Jude in Hardy's "The Nameless Jude" is constantly struggling between spirit and flesh, sensibility and reason, one moment the spirit and reason prevail, and the other flesh and sensibility prevail, precisely because he can't resist his ex-wife's **, let the flesh and sensibility take the lead, resulting in a tragic life, and Jude's nature is so kind.
In the film, one is a personable gentleman, the other is a beautiful and gentle housewife, and by chance, fate pushes them into the dark abyss. Isn't it just an accident?
In the confrontation between spirit and flesh, sensibility and reason, how to make spirit and reason prevail can only rely on ordinary cultivation, not to play with fire and walk a tightrope, and occasional luck can only make people more and more involved in playing, and finally burn themselves to death. The usual cultivation is also to set a bottom line for yourself, and you should never touch it lightly. A marriage letter is the contract of the husband and wife, which must be observed, which is the first condition for a happy marriage. However, in today's society, there are not many people who actually stick to this kind of contract all their lives.
Not long ago, a female teacher in Shanghai cheated on a 16-year-old student, which is somewhat similar to this film. The same is that the woman is unfaithful to her marriage and cheats on a young man, and after her husband knows about it, he behaves excessively, but the difference is that the husband of the female teacher publishes the chat records between the female teacher and the student on the Internet, and the female teacher and the student are subjected to cyberbullying. Undoubtedly, their marriage broke down, the female teacher was suspended from the school, the 16-year-old student was still a minor, what will they face? Will their lives be ruined because of this? The husband who was greened is known to the people of the whole country, and he may not have a good life in the future. The husband was clearly not angry, and it would have to be a deep resentment to take such a measure. The voice on the Internet will eventually fade away, and these three people will live their lives separately, but they are full of devastation.
What about unfaithful men? Whether in life or in the film, women usually do not take radical behaviors like men, and there are different views on cheating between men and women in society. People tend to forgive unfaithful men, and wives tend to forgive unfaithful husbands. Traditional culture and women's lack of economic independence are the root causes of this situation.
Does the loyalty between husband and wife need to be unreserved? It's impractical and inhumane, but you must not betray the other person emotionally. To be a man, there must be a bottom line, and the same is true between husband and wife. Otherwise, in this world, what else can be trusted, everyone is so lonely.