From falling in love to getting married, from being a lover to getting married, there are two very normal situations.
One is that she feels that her life after marriage is not the same as she expected, her husband seems to have shown his true face, showing his true face, she feels that her relationship with her husband is no longer as simple as before, and has become a mess of things, which makes her very tired and tired, and one is that she feels that her married life is not as she imagined, and she feels that her marriage is not so good.
Second, because of marriage, the relationship between the two has been further improved, from the beginning of the love, to a kind of peace of mind and happiness.
Leo Tolstoy said: All happy families are more or less the same, but unhappy families have their own sorrows. 」
So, what is the universal secret of a happy marriage?
Today, we are going to share with you some of the things that couples are getting more and more in love, and see if you and him will do the same?
Seek common ground while reserving differences and tolerate each other
Before a woman gets married, she must keep her eyes open, observe carefully, ask more questions, and understand all aspects of the other party.
After marriage, you must learn to turn a blind eye, open your eyes, find the similarities between the other party and yourself, have similar interests, and cooperate with each other;
Only in this way can we respect each other's different styles, each with its own strengths, complement each other, and there is no harm in it.
Love the same, husband and wife have similarities, should encourage each other and move forward hand in hand; Husbands and wives have different habits, different hobbies, different attitudes, and they also have to respect and appreciate each other.
Nowadays, many people are half-squinted before they get married, and then open their eyes after getting married, and the results can be imagined.
Because no one is perfect, there will always be some flaws. Always looking for other people's faults, which is also a big problem.
Husbands and wives should know that seeking common ground while reserving differences, seeking common ground while reserving differences, does not have to be exactly the same, let alone diametrically opposed.
We must learn to respect each other's differences, so that we can tolerate each other and work together as husband and wife.
Just imagine, two people who grow up in different environments, will they be exactly the same?
Even if they are the same pair of parents and siblings who grew up in the same family, their personalities are different.
Something different from oneself is also considered a disadvantage? Not necessarily. If two people can be together, there must be something in common.
Have a common language, have a common language, have a common understanding, don't always try to change.
Ask for help from others, and instead of asking for help, you should turn to yourself. He doesn't change, he doesn't change.
We always try to start with other people, but it takes a lot of effort and nothing comes of it. Because, if you don't want to, no one will be influenced by others.
When describing marriage, Chinese often use the words "happy family" or "unhappy family".
The 100% fit of two people, just like you love to brush dishes, he also loves to brush, and you have to rush to brush after dinner, which is also wrong.
There are some things that he likes to do, and some things that are different, isn't that good?
More complementarity is always better than more homogeneity.
Know how to follow double standards and don't always be each other
In the same thing, if someone makes a mistake, he will be very angry and think that he is opportunistic; The next time, if something is wrong, he can say that he is improvised.
For the same thing, if it were him, he would have countless excuses. But if you are someone else, you will not forgive easily.
Sometimes, in order to protect themselves, they don't even want to say anything at the beginning, even if they have already said something.
Chinese are like this, their eyes are always outward, it is easy to look at other people's faults, and they look at their own faults less.
The Chinese often say: "Be strict with people and lenient with people." ”
In addition, couples should also know how to comply with "double standards":
Expect more from yourself and ask less from others. If you do the same for yourself, you will eventually be harsh on others and lax on yourself.
Everyone makes mistakes, and neither you nor I can share them. If you have to separate, it's good for yourself and good for others.
Both of them know this, and everyone consciously does their own things well, so that the marriage has vitality and tacit understanding.
There is no conflict in a person, because there is no one to pick, he can only work hard, and he can only find work on his own.
But when two people are together, the problem comes. People fight with each other, how can people not fight with each other?
Unless the other party is indifferent to the other person, or doesn't love each other at all, marriage is just a formality, and politely say "hello" every day.
But would you knock your teeth off or cut out your tongue in order to bite your tongue?
The answer is no! What about marriage?
No one can be criticized unless he is a person with flaws. Anything can be tolerated, as long as it can be tolerated, the defects will disappear.
What's wrong with a grumpy husband? Having a grumpy husband will not delay you when you go out;
What's so bad about your sluggish personality? Only people with a sluggish personality will take out all the necessary things.
Husband and wife respect each other like guests for a long time
The same goes for marriage and business, a long time is better than a long time, and what is the use of a short time? Although it looks beautiful, there will be a lot of ***
We need to respect each other in order to last, which is why husbands and wives should respect each other and not treat each other as guests.
When we become acquainted, we lose many of the most basic etiquette, we lose the most basic respect, and we speak very badly.
Respect is respect. You have to respect each other, and they will respect you.
Only by respecting each other will we respect ourselves and respect ourselves.
Think about it, how can we last when we treat our guests, we treat our colleagues, we treat our friends, we treat them with a very simple, direct, even rude attitude?
Everyone has their own feelings and thoughts. Everyone will have something hard to talk about, and you should know how to do it.
If he tells you everything, you won't be able to bear it. Her husband's mood is not very good, give him time to be alone and quiet, and he will be fine.
Husbands and wives should keep a safe distance. And not because they are husband and wife, they know everything and talk about everything.
Direct, clear, and frank are the goals of interpersonal communication, but they are not easy to achieve. I'm worried that getting married will be more difficult.
The relationship between people and people develops gradually, and it takes a process to get to know each other more closely, and it can only be carried out after both parties get to know each other better.
If you have this mentality from the beginning, then the marriage will also break down quickly.
Therefore, the **10,000 fans incentive plan Everything must be gradual, and it will take many years of running-in between husband and wife to get to this point.