Children's minds are often wild-witted, thinking about questions that adults can't answer. will question the world; We will also do some actions that challenge our patience."Love children" is the instinct of parents, but the words "love children" are simple to say, but there are very few parents who can really "love children".How do we understand what children really think from their perspective? How to interpret the logical thinking behind each sentence of the child? How to find the key to open your child's emotions? How to help children get out of confusion and fear, so that children are full of confidence and positive energy?
According to the data of the "Mother's Quality Survey" carried out by the Women's Federation of Sanlin Town, Pudong, Shanghai, 31 people think that mothers lack charm, vulgar language, and mediocre thoughts5%；75 percent of them believe that mothers should strengthen their studies and improve their self-cultivation8%；80% of them hope that their mothers will change their education methods and make more friends with them2%；80% of mothers were asked to respect their personal hobbies and give them independent space2%。On the other hand, there are only 37% of children are able to receive the mother's current education method; Only 7% of the respondents believed that their mothers could make them admire and admire.
From the survey data, it can be seen that today's children are more in pursuit of spiritual education or guidance.
In other words, the love of parents should be a kind of guidance, a kind of encouragement, and a kind of companionship, rather than a simple education.
Sukhomlinsky once said: "There is no real education without self-education." ”
As parents, we always want our children to grow up healthily, but sometimes our children's emotions and thoughts make us feel confused and helpless. So, how do you understand children from their point of view?
First of all, we need to listen to our children's inner voices, listen carefully to their thoughts and feelings, and not interrupt or belittle their opinions.
Secondly, we need to understand children's logical thinking, and help children clarify their thinking and solve problems by asking questions and guiding thinking.
At the same time, we also need to pay attention to the children's emotional changes, use warm words and actions to comfort and encourage them, so that they can feel our support and love.
Finally, we need to give children enough freedom and space to explore and grow independently, and at the same time, we need to give them the right guidance and help to get out of confusion and fear, and be full of confidence and positive energy.
In this process, we can also explore the world with our children, grow together, and make the family the warmest harbor for our children.
Parents should respect their children's individuality and interests. Every child is unique and has their own interests and dreams. Parents should not impose their own expectations on their children, but should respect their choices and support their dreams. It is only when children feel respected and understood that they will be more confident and determined to follow their own path.
Loving children is a kind of responsibility and a kind of wisdom. It is the bounden duty of our parents to create a beautiful educational environment for their children. Let us hold hands and listen to the children's inner voices, interpret the code of the children's hearts together, and accompany the children through the troubles and confusions of growing up, and move towards the bright and beautiful future.
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