I have seen so many people in the past few decades, and I summarize some of their characteristics as follows.
Eight-sided exquisiteness is actually not a bad thing, a person is smart, in the society can live more profitable, this is what many people want, parents hope that their children will not be so stupid, hope that they are smart and smart, is also such a wish.
However, if you are a practitioner, if you have the heart to study Buddhism or cultivate the Tao or something, or if you want to improve your mental performance, you should pay attention.
Being too smart and clever will have an impact on a person's cultivation. Because the more powerful Shizhi is, the more he can't reveal his simple and pure nature.
So many people look silly, but they live happily and comfortably.
Of course, cultivation does not mean that you lose your interests and wisdom, there is nothing wrong with these, and the real power of a person is not how much benefit you can get, but not being benefited.
Therefore, by comparing these 15 characteristics of the eight-sided exquisiteness, we can understand what a practitioner should be.
1. Be good at grasping all kinds of information when speaking, and immediately analyze and classify the information in your mind. What is useful right away is worth digging into, and what is useful later in mind.
Therefore, we should try not to be infected with information**, stuff less things in the mind, and maintain a pure brain thinking, which may actually be more advantageous. In today's era, there is a huge amount of information, and it is impossible to escape, and it is jammed all day long, if you don't know how to empty it, it will be information**.
2. They stand at the pinnacle of observing words and feelings, they know what you mean when you speak and raise your eyebrows, and they can immediately make a sleek and not embarrassing reaction, so that you can make everyone present comfortable. If he is the main character, he can take care of everyone's emotions and needs.
Therefore, such people are very favored when they go to become officials or work for those who are officials.
Therefore, we don't have to know how to read words and colors, we have to keep our own inner steadfastness, not to follow other people's eyebrows, words and other things and waver, and not to lose ourselves with the tide. You don't have to and can't make everyone comfortable and satisfied, respect everyone, and you don't have to please everyone, being yourself is king.
3. They can sniff out the nature of an occasion for the first time, and figure out the pros and cons of multi-party relationships, equity relationships, etc. as soon as possible. They are often the first to avoid trouble, responsibility, and dedication.
Therefore, we must know the truth that blessed people live in blessed places, and we must also know the principle of seeking good fortune and avoiding evil, where you should not appear, where you should not go to the place where the water is muddy, the place of right and wrong, try to go as little as possible, but it is your responsibility, you must face it directly, otherwise the cause and effect will be true, and it will always come.
4. They are good at acting, such as performing in front of someone, performing diligently, actively performing, and everything can be captured.
Therefore, we don't need to perform in front of people, nor do we need to wear masks, we need to know that performance is always hypocritical and unreliable, and we must get used to using sincerity to harvest what we should have.
5. They never easily reveal their resources, disadvantages and hole cards, and weigh the pros and cons in everything to make a choice.
We should learn from them when it comes to revealing ourselves, but we don't need to win everything in everything, there is always a balance between the pros and cons, just relax.
6. They can pull down their face for asking people to do things, or they like to use small favors such as giving a gift to invite people to dinner and make people happy, in exchange for greater help and benefits, because they are well versed in human nature.
Although it is not important to have a vain face, we must also pay attention to proportion, and the most important thing is not to lose face, but to be sincere and sincere. And ask for help, to give people a promise in return, it is best to be reciprocal and not let others suffer.
7. They calculate every gain and loss very accurately, ensuring that they do not suffer a little loss, and also ensure that the price they pay must be exchanged for equal value. If it is not achieved, they will be annoyed and resentful.
Gains and losses are the last thing we should be attached to, we don't want to eat at all, cultivation is empty talk, if we are annoyed and resentful because of gains and losses, it is very sad. Not obsessing about gains and losses does not mean that you don't want benefits, but that you don't have emotional fluctuations because of gains and losses.
8. They love to make friends, but there are few friends who dare to make deep friends with them, but even so, they are very satisfied with the interaction with all kinds of people, because the purpose and standard of making friends is not how the person's character can be discussed, but whether the person's value can be used, and whether the person's identity makes him have a sense of vanity, a sense of circle, and a sense of existence.
Make friends with heart for heart, don't care about anything, don't have to separate too much, don't have too many purposes, sincere friendship between friends, will make people feel like a spring breeze, but once you measure the value of the other party's use, it is a bad abyss.
9. They also like the body, mind and spirit, they also meditate, do yoga, engage in Buddhism, and engage in Taoism, full of practice and virtue, they wear a hand of Buddha beads, but they don't read the Buddhist scriptures and can't understand the Buddhist scriptures, and their hearts are incomparably loose and spinning crazy in interests and desires. No matter how Buddha they appear on the outside, they are all 108,000 miles away from the Buddha.
Studying Buddhism and practicing Buddhism is not about appearance, not for others to see, nor is it about identity or the display of a person's realm, but purely about our own inner feelings. Whether or not we can gain a more comfortable and wise life because of studying Buddhism and practicing is the key.
10. They rarely admit their mistakes and apologize, they can always find a lot of reasons in favor of themselves in disputes and disagreements, they definitely do not take the blame, once they are infamy, they will use a lot of energy to make up and retaliate.
If you make a mistake, you must sincerely apologize, don't be afraid of losing face, apologizing is a settlement, and it is an opportunity for yourself. Being responsible is the courage we should have, and if we do something wrong, we should be responsible. There is no need to hate others and take revenge on others because of this, 11. Even if they are often the strong ones in various competing interests, they will still show the image of a weak, as if they are always suffering, paying, and gaining more than they gain.
Even if they make a million a month, they will tell you with a sad face that the business can't go on. They make a lot of money on a single project, and they will also complain to you that they are not pleasing to you.
No matter whether we are good or not, we don't have to deliberately express it to outsiders to see and know, there are few people in the world who really want to know our situation, and only ourselves know best how we are. Just give yourself an account.
12. They like to praise people, like to praise people, like to instigate people, and incite people. But he is very good and does not make random decisions.
We can't control others, and it's best not to persuade people to make decisions without understanding the situation, we can help others as much as we can, but in fact, we have to be calm about other people's affairs, everyone has their own cause and effect and psychological system. If you can't grasp it, don't force it.
13. They have extremely high emotional intelligence, and their words make ordinary people feel very reasonable and comfortable. Unless it's a straightforward person, the average person likes to deal with them.
Don't have to be the one who likes others, just be the one who doesn't annoy people.
14. They don't like to rob openly, they like to rob secretly, and when they encounter interests, they are best at using interpersonal relationships and other methods to obtain them privately, because they know that snatching on the surface is usually ugly, the portion is limited, and it is easy to be cut off. That's why they often do the ones who cut off other people's beards.
A gentleman loves money and takes it in a proper way, and is less entangled in interest disputes. Find a way to make money in a normal and well-intentioned way of your own. Openness is better than anything else.
15. When they encounter problems, they encounter tests, and they will be very excited when they have something to solve, and they are good at solving them from the side and from the points that ordinary people can't think about. For example, ordinary people will choose to go through the side door when they go to the front door, and most people think that if they can't find this person, they will try to find other people to try.
This point should be learned more, Lao Tzu said: the song is complete, the direct way is not good, just the side way, flexible processing.