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No matter how awesome a person is, his energy is limited, and Ma Yun has to sleep and eat every day.
Many people around me especially like to make a lot of precise and compact study plans for themselves, such as what time to get up and do 15 minutes of exercise, what time to memorize 100 words, how long to take a nap, hoping to make themselves better through planning control.
But in fact, this is against human nature. Because man is not a machine, he is a living individual. As a normal person, there must be dynamic changes in physical state and emotions, and it is impossible to live like an assembly line machine.
So if your plan is disrupted by something sudden, don't deny yourself, feel that you have poor self-discipline, and keep blaming yourself. You have to tell yourself that this is normal. Temporary changes in the plan will not ruin you, and long-term self-blame will be.
If you want to make achievements every day, it is better to spend 1 year in a down-to-earth manner and do something unforgettable for a lifetime. If you really care about this ideal, what about dormant for 10 years.
Choose early, the older you get, the greater the sunk cost.
Before the age of 28, the bigger the movement, the better, and after the age of 36, you must give your family and yourself a stability. If you are really unsure, just toss a coin, if you want to toss a second time, then you already have the answer, follow your heart, reluctant things must not go far.
Trust me, it must be painful to change yourself, but when you kill the things that you used to find difficult, you will find that it is nothing more than that.
Brush Zhihu to see a good answer, double click the screen, not only can you quickly collect, but also exercise your finger strength.
Every growth in life starts from "feeling like a **", and every time you get into trouble in life, it starts from "feeling that someone else is a **".
Develop the habit of reviewing in a timely manner.
What is a review? Review is to review and summarize what has been done before, such as the project that has been done before (such as the meeting chaired, the process of the exam), and find problems from it, which is just like the deliberate practice said, only by summarizing the feedback and adjusting and optimizing, we can make progress, otherwise you say that you have practiced for decades, but you are actually just repeating the experience of 1 day mechanically for decades.
Don't always wait until everything is ready.
When I first graduated from my internship, my boss wanted to give me a good project, but I felt that I was not strong enough and not ready, so I politely declined. I later learned that the project had been taken over by a colleague my age, who had been promoted to head of the department because of the project.
When I left, my boss told me a truth, he said: no one in this world can be completely ready to play again, more important than the courage to play when imperfect, learning while doing, and applying what you have learned, this is the best improvement for yourself.
Only action can solve anxiety.
Before we start doing many things, there will always be a lot of wrong judgments, there will be a lot of doubts, we will be very anxious, and we will not know if we can do it well.
In fact, we can start to do it after we understand a certain principle, because often only when we take action can we have a deeper understanding, and most of the anxiety will be solved naturally.
Energy: Attention management.
The most important asset for people is not time, but our attention: attention >> time >> money This is the order of the value of the three, and many people ignore the value of attention for each of us. Attention is the time that can be of value.
Cherish your attention and energy, use it where it is most valuable, to learn, work, and grow. Instead of playing Douyin, don't play Douyin and Kuaishou in the time black hole app on your phone. In the long run, playing with these things is basically useless, and of course it will be difficult for you to quit completely, but you can slowly reduce the time you spend on it.
Don't tell anyone until it's done.
If you know that there is no meaning, don't do it, and truly learn self-control.
Knowing how to praise others is a very educated product, in Zhihu to see an inspired answer willing to like the person, often live happier than ordinary people, the heart is stronger, and at the same time can also inspire the people around you, for example, after the respondent receives your like, you will have the motivation to create more dry goods
With time management and deep thinking, you'll be able to prolong your subjective life to a certain extent.
In the past, it took me about 8 hours to write an article, which was very inefficient, so I started to observe the people around me carefully, and some of my friends were able to write an article in 3 hours, and the quality was not worse than mine. This made me reflect for a long time, some people stay up late and work overtime and can't do things well, and some people can do it well in 8 hours during the day, and pay the same amount of time, why is the income gap so big?
When I researched for 2 months, I found that this is a regular and methodical way to learn, the key is the way of thinking and time management, now I can write an article in 3 hours to complete, do most of the work efficiency will be higher than others.
Work for yourself and take responsibility for your own growth.
Many people think like this: we pay our own working hours, and the boss pays us, so how much the boss pays me, I will do as much work as I want, and if I get 6,000 yuan, I will do 6,000 yuan of work, and if I play games after work, I will earn 5,000 yuan of work!
However, this is completely wrong, working for the boss, we will always feel that the boss is exploiting us, and we are the "victim".
It is undeniable that there will always be unfair bosses who will not pay you according to the contribution you have made and the level of your work. But you are always working for yourself, and the growth you have gained in your work, the project experience you have accumulated, the performance you have made, etc., are completely your own, and no one else can take them away.
It would be foolish if you gave up working hard because of a bad company environment and an unfair environment from your boss. The environment is not good, so I will work hard to accumulate project experience and change jobs. If because the boss is unfair, you, as a programmer, choose to go to work every day to find a copy on the Internet and then modify things casually, what do you get?You don't get anything but that basic salary, you don't get your skills improved, and you waste your most precious time, and if you do it again in another two years, you will probably be fired by your boss ......Remember, you're always working for an unlimited liability company called "yourself."